You’ve done the therapy, the journaling, the affirmations — but you still feel like you’re carrying everything alone.You say you trust God… but deep down, you’re terrified to let go. This episode is for the woman who’s tired of doing it all herself — the woman whose trauma identity built her independence, but now keeps her from real intimacy, peace, and love. I’m sharing how self-reliance is actually a trauma response that feels empowering because it once kept you safe — but now it’s blocking what God’s trying to give you. We’ll talk about:✨ Why trusting God feels so scary for trauma survivors✨ How bad church experiences or absent father figures create self-protection patterns✨ Why surrender isn’t weak — it’s the most powerful thing you can do✨ How partnering with God in your healing transforms every area of your life — not just your love life When you surrender to God, you’re not losing control — you’re gaining peace.He’s not taking power away from you — He’s restoring it to you. Scriptures referenced:Proverbs 3:5-6 • 2 Corinthians 12:9 • Matthew 11:28 If you’ve been stuck between striving and surrender, this is your invitation to let God into the healing process and finally rest in His strength instead of your own. NEXT STEPS:Inside The Healing Room Waitlist and Rewritten, I help women break free from survival mode, rebuild their self-concept in Christ, and bring God into the parts of their love life they’ve been trying to fix alone. Topics: self reliance, surrender to god, christian healing, trauma healing with jesus, faith and identity, identity in christ, christian podcast for women, letting god in, healing with god, nervous system healing, faith and trauma, christian transformation, jesus changed my life, trust god not yourself, no more breadcrumbs podcast, kim velez

You’re not unworthy of love — you’ve just believed a lie. In this episode, Kim exposes how the ‘not enough’ identity keeps you chasing breadcrumbs instead of receiving the feast God already set for you.

I didn’t go looking for Jesus — He came for me. And in just 90 days, He transformed every part of my life. In this episode, I’m sharing how Jesus radically shifted my: • Identity — from self-reliant, performance-based, and world-shaped to Daughter of Christ• Finances — from fear and striving to supernatural provision and Kingdom stewardship• Location — how God moved me across states and why He did it• Relationships — instant restoration and reconciliation after years of distance and pain• Healing — how He broke trauma patterns, control, and survival mode• Desires — how my goals, calling, and focus shifted from mine to His• Relationship with God — how I learned the difference between religion and intimacy This is for the woman who: Has tried healing, manifesting, therapy, or “being strong” on her own Has felt God tugging at her but didn’t know how to surrender Is tired of performing, controlling, or striving in her own will Wonders what it looks like to follow Jesus in her real life — not just in theory He didn’t just change my beliefs. He rerouted my life, my money, my heart, and my direction. Inside The Healing Room and Rewritten, I help women heal at the root, break survival patterns, rebuild identity in Christ, and walk in what God is calling them into next. Details are below:  Free What's Your Love Identity Quiz Healing Room Waitlist Rewritten Self Paced Course Topics: identity in Christjesus testimonychristian transformationhow Jesus changed my lifehearing God’s voicehealing with Godself reliance to surrenderchristian trauma healinggod changed my financesmoving in faithreligion vs relationshipsupernatural provisionobedience and callinghow God healed my relationshipskingdom stewardshipdaughter of God identity

Are you stuck in toxic love patterns — breadcrumbing, trauma bonds, or feeling “not enough” in relationships? In this episode, we unpack why affirmations and self-help aren’t enough, how your nervous system wires you to chase unavailable love, and how inviting God into your healing rewires everything.

Are you tired of asking questions like “Why won’t he choose me?” or “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men?” In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, we’re taking a devotional approach — giving you 3 powerful prayers to pray over your love life. These aren’t about begging God to fix someone else. They’re about healing your own heart, building discernment, and aligning your desires with God’s best. Here’s what you’ll learn today: Prayer for Worthiness & Identity — to break free from the lie of “not enough.” (Ephesians 1:4) Prayer for Discernment — to spot red flags and stop confusing chemistry with God’s clarity. (James 1:5) Prayer for Alignment — to release counterfeits and prepare for covenant love. (Psalm 37:4) If you’ve been searching “Why am I attracted to unavailable men?” or “Why do I keep attracting toxic relationships?” this episode will give you language to finally break those cycles. God doesn’t give crumbs — He gives daily bread. And prayer is one of the most powerful ways to stop settling for less and step into the fullness of His design for love. 👉 Want to go deeper? Check out my Rewritten self-paced course — where we heal the root wounds, rewire your nervous system, and rebuild your self-concept in God’s truth. Join HERE    Topics Covered: why won’t he choose me, why I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, why am I attracted to unavailable men, why do I keep attracting toxic people, christian dating podcast, prayers for love life, healing father wounds, break trauma bonds, godly relationships, how to attract healthy love, christian women dating podcast, self-worth in God, nervous system healing, prayer for relationships

Are you stuck googling things like “why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men,” “why won’t he choose me,” or “why do I keep attracting toxic relationships?” You’re not alone. In this episode, we break down: Why your brain and nervous system keep pulling you toward familiar pain (neuroscience + trauma wiring). How self-concept and low self-esteem cause you to settle for less than God’s best. What “breadcrumbing” and “trauma bonding” really mean, and how to break the cycle. A powerful practice where you ask God: “How do You see me? What do You want me to know about my worthiness?” Practical tools to rewire your thoughts, reset your nervous system, and start embodying the truth: You are already chosen and beloved. 💡 Whether you’ve searched “how to get him to commit,” “how to manifest love,” or “how to rewire negative thoughts,” this episode will help you stop chasing, stop settling, and start believing you are enough in Christ. 👉 For deeper support: Rewritten (self-paced course): Heal your self-concept, rewire old patterns, and build a new love identity. Learn More Here The Healing Room (live coaching): Join other Christian women healing unworthiness, rewiring their nervous system, and anchoring their worth in Jesus. Learn More Here   Topics Covered: why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men why won’t he choose me why won’t he commit breadcrumbing in relationships trauma bonding love how to manifest love as a Christian woman rewire your nervous system for love self-concept in love Christian women podcast feeling not good enough for love

Have you ever asked yourself: “Why won’t he choose me? Why won’t he commit? Why do I keep attracting unavailable men? Why do I feel like I’m not good enough for love?” You are not alone. So many women spiral in these questions, waiting for a man to finally “pick” them. But here’s the truth: God already calls you chosen. In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, I’m breaking down:✨ Why you keep being pulled toward emotionally unavailable men✨ The real reason he won’t commit (and why it’s not your worth)✨ How your self-concept and nervous system keep you stuck in chasing mode✨ What changes when you stop waiting to be chosen and start living as already chosen by God This is for Christian women who are tired of chasing, overthinking, and settling for breadcrumbs in love. It’s time to heal the root wound, rewire your identity, and experience the kind of love that reflects God’s truth about you. 👉 Ready to go deeper? Start with Rewritten — my self-led course to reprogram your love identity and stop the cycle of unworthy love.👉 Or get on the waitlist for The Healing Room Live Coaching Group, where you’ll learn how to rewire your thoughts, regulate your body, and invite Jesus into your healing for lasting transformation.   Topics: why won’t he choose me why won’t he commit how to get him to commit Christian why do I feel not good enough for love why I keep attracting emotionally unavailable men Christian women healing relationships stop chasing him Christian podcast God calls you chosen Christian women identity in Christ relationships

Rewiring Your Thoughts With Jesus So You Stop Spiraling in Love You’ve tried journaling, affirmations, and mindset hacks to stop overthinking in love — but somehow you still spiral. I get it. Self-led healing tools are powerful (I still use neuroscience and somatic practices daily), but they can feel exhausting when the whole burden is on your shoulders. In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, I share what happened when I stopped white-knuckling my healing and started partnering with Jesus. You’ll learn: ✨ Why self-led healing works but still leaves you striving✨ What supernatural healing with God looks like (and how fast He can move)✨ How to practice receiving instead of self-efforting✨ A simple shift to rewire your thoughts with Jesus at the center — so you can finally feel secure in love If you’re ready to go deeper: 💡 Start with Rewritten — my self-led course that shows you exactly how to reprogram your identity and break free from toxic love patterns.👉 [Rewritten] 🤝 Or get on the waitlist for The Healing Room Live Coaching Group — where you’ll learn neuroscience + somatic rewiring in partnership with Jesus and receive live coaching support so you don’t have to do it alone.👉 [ Healing Room Waitlist] This episode is especially for Christian women who are tired of overthinking, chasing, and settling for breadcrumbs in love. It’s time to release the pressure, rewire your identity, and experience the healing only He can bring. topics: rewiring your thoughts with Jesus Christian women healing podcast stop spiraling in love Christian how to stop overthinking in relationships Christian women relationships healing rewire your mind with God healing love wounds with Jesus Christian podcast for women in love identity in Christ and relationships overcoming fear of abandonment Christian reprogram your mind with faith nervous system healing with God Christian women dating advice stop attracting unavailable men Christian trauma to truth podcast Christian

Are you tired of waiting for a man to finally choose you — only to end up disappointed, confused, or questioning your worth? In this episode, we’re talking about the “pick me” dynamic — when your mood, self-worth, and even your future plans hinge on whether someone else finally commits. We’ll unpack why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, why you confuse mixed signals with love, and how your past wounds can make crumbs feel like a feast. You’ll learn: The truth about the “pick me” pattern Why he hasn’t chosen you (and why it’s not your fault) The trauma patterns behind chasing unavailable men How father wounds and early abandonment shape your attraction One step to start reclaiming your power today If you’ve been asking, “Why won’t he choose me?”, “Why do I keep attracting unavailable men?”, or “Why am I drawn to hot and cold relationships?” — this is your wake-up call. God’s love is steady, consistent, and never withholding — and that’s the kind of love you’re worthy of. 👉 Ready to heal at the root, rewire your nervous system, and stop settling? Join us inside The Healing Room — where we break these patterns for good. Tags / Keywords why won’t he choose me, why am I attracted to emotionally unavailable men, why do I keep attracting unavailable men, why I keep attracting toxic people, why won’t he commit, why I keep attracting narcissists, dating advice for women, healing father wounds, stop attracting unavailable men, break trauma bonds, how to attract healthy love, self-worth healing, christian dating podcast, nervous system healing, healing love addiction

Tired of feeling confused, disappointed, or strung along in your love life? This episode is your wake-up call. In No More Breadcrumbs: Why You're Not Crazy for Wanting the Whole Loaf, we’re talking about breadcrumbing in dating and relationships — what it is, why you keep falling for it, and how to finally break free from emotionally unavailable men who offer just enough to keep you hoping... but never enough to feel secure. If you've been settling for situationships, one-sided love, or mixed signals that leave your nervous system in survival mode — this is the healing, revelation, and realignment your heart has been craving. We’ll unpack: What breadcrumbing really looks like (even the subtle forms) Why your self-concept keeps attracting the same emotional cycle How trauma, father wounds, and fantasy bonding keep you stuck What it means to rebuild your worth with Jesus at the center Why it’s safe to want more — and how to receive it God doesn’t offer crumbs. He offers daily bread. This is your permission slip to walk away from confusion and into clarity, peace, and love that stays. 👉 Ready to rewrite your story? Join us in [The Healing Room] for nervous system healing, self-concept rebuilding, and trauma-informed identity work rooted in God’s truth.  Keywords Section: breadcrumbing in dating, emotionally unavailable men, dating advice for women, self-worth healing, Christian dating podcast, trauma bonds, father wounds, healing love patterns, stop settling in relationships, how to attract healthy love, breadcrumb relationship, self-concept healing, Jesus and dating, faith and relationships, nervous system healing, identity work, godly relationships, love addiction recovery

Babe, if you’ve been repeating affirmations every morning, trying to speak life over your love life… but deep down you’re still scared love will leave — this episode is your wake-up call and your invitation to actual healing. We’re talking about how father wounds and abandonment wounds shape the way you see love, what you accept in relationships, and how safe your nervous system feels just being chosen. You’ll learn:• Why “I can fix this myself” is a trauma response, not a truth• What happens when you finally believe Jesus is more powerful than your pain• Why your body won’t believe affirmations when the root is still infected• How the authority of God as Father rewires the lie that love abandons you If you’ve tried everything… but still don’t feel free — this is where healing begins. 📖 Psalm 68:5 — “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” Ready to stop striving and start receiving?The Healing Room is open — but Founders Pricing ends July 31st.This is your container to:✅ Regulate your nervous system✅ Rewire your identity at the root✅ Change the story of your love life while partnering with Jesus Click here to join The Healing Room before doors shift. You weren’t created to heal alone.   Tags:healing father wounds, abandonment wounds, healing inner child, how to heal father wound, Jesus heals trauma, self-worth in Christ, Christian love and identity, nervous system healing, trauma recovery with God, rewrite your identity, healing love wounds, break the breadcrumb cycle, Christian podcast for women, love identity, self concept healing

You say you trust God...But in your love life, you’re still chasing, fixing, and overthinking.You're still waiting on his reply, still trying to be chosen, still repeating patterns you swore you were done with. In this episode, we’re getting real about what it actually looks like to surrender your heart, healing, and love life to God. We’ll talk about: Why trusting yourself more than God is not strength — it’s survival How relying on you is the slowest way to heal What fear of surrender really means (and how to break it) How Jesus can rewrite your identity in one moment What it looks like to actually submit your love life to God — without fear, shame, or delay This is not just another “trust the process” pep talk.This is a Holy-Spirit-led call to stop settling for pain and start receiving what God actually wrote for you in love.    Want to break this pattern for good? Join Rewritten — a Christ-centered experience to rebuild your identity in love, stop settling, and start receiving the kind of love God actually has for you. 👉 [Link to Rewritten] ✨ Take the Free Love Identity Quiz: [Download Here] 🎧 Subscribe + leave a review if this spoke to you.  

Are you tired of chasing clarity from a man who keeps you confused? In this raw and honest episode of No More Breadcrumbs — the Christian podcast for women healing from toxic love and reclaiming their identity — we’re talking about why emotionally unavailable men feel so magnetic… and why God’s love is nothing like that. You’ll learn: What breadcrumb love actually is (and why you keep accepting it) How trauma wires you to equate chaos with chemistry Why striving for love is a symptom of broken self-worth What divine love looks and feels like — and how to start receiving it If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I feel not good enough in love?” — this episode is going to feel like truth and freedom all at once. 💥 Want to break this pattern for good? Join Rewritten — a Christ-centered experience to rebuild your identity in love, stop settling, and start receiving the kind of love God actually has for you. 👉 [Link to Rewritten] ✨ Take the Free Love Identity Quiz: [Download Here] 🎧 Subscribe + leave a review if this spoke to you.

You know what to do — but your heart keeps getting stuck in the same pattern.  Because emotionally unavailable love feels familiar — not because it’s good, but because it's known. That magnetic pull? You've been trained to chase what's unpredictable.  In this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, we dive into:  Why your nervous system craves what feels like home – even if he can’t give you real intimacy How believing you're not enough rewires love to look like effort, not rest Why your body sometimes chooses pain over peace — trauma mislabels danger as "connection" What Jesus actually says about your worth — that you're chosen, whole, and loved How to rewire your self-concept and open your heart to safe, real love You’re not broken. You’re not unfixable. You’ve just been playing by a distorted playbook — and it’s time to rewrite it. 👇 Ready to break the cycle once and for all? 🔗 Take the Love Identity Quiz – find out why you keep attracting what you don’t want, and how to shift that pattern fast👉 [Click Here]  🔗 Join Rewritten – a Christ-centred journey to rebuild your identity and receive real, lasting love 👉 [Start the Reset]

You’ve done the healing work. You’ve journaled. You’ve prayed.But when it comes to love… you still feel like you’re not enough. If you’ve ever found yourself Googling things like: “Why do I always feel not good enough in love?” “How do I stop feeling not good enough for my boyfriend?” “Why do I feel unworthy in relationships?” …then this episode was made for you. In this powerful teaching, trauma therapist and Christ-led coach Kim Velez walks you through the real reason you still feel unworthy — even after all the inner work — and how to finally anchor your identity in what God already said about you. Inside this episode, you’ll learn how to: ✅ Break free from rejection-based identity ✅ Stop needing to be picked to feel worthy ✅ Start seeing yourself the way God sees you in love ✅ Shift from not-enough to secure, chosen, and wholeYou’re not broken.    You’re not too much. You’re not unworthy. You just haven’t agreed with God yet. 👑 Start your reset now:→ Take the Love Identity Quiz: [Download here]→ Begin Rewritten Course: [Get Access Here]   topics covered: feeling not good enough in lovenot good enough in relationshipsidentity in Christhow God sees youhealing from rejectionself-worth in loveChristian dating podcastemotionally unavailable mentrauma-informed identityfeeling not good enough for boyfriend

The day I met Jesus, I stopped performing and started REALLY healing. This isn’t about religion. This isn’t about rules. This is about an encounter so real it wrecked everything I thought I knew — and revealed the truth that Jesus is real, and He had been pursuing me the entire time. I wasn’t broken. I was burdened. And when I finally stopped relying on self-help, mindset hacks, and manifestation... Jesus did what nothing else could. In this episode, I’m sharing how the real Jesus met me in my pain, rewired my heart, and brought me back to the woman God always said I was. Whether you've been questioning if Jesus is real, or you're just tired of chasing healing on your own... this episode is for the one who’s ready to encounter the truth that sets her free. 🔥 What We Cover: Why “self-reliance” is secretly keeping you stuck in survival How one encounter with the real Jesus broke my striving cycle Why Jesus is reality — not a concept, not a philosophy, but a living Savior How healing didn’t come from fixing myself — but finally letting Him in What it means to be chosen, loved, and safe without having to earn it 👑 Ready to break the cycle of painful love?✨ Take the free Love Identity Quiz to discover your current love pattern + how to shift it fast:Click HERE 💥 Or jump straight into the healing work with my 7-day experience to reset your love story with Christ: 👉 Rewritten: Course]  🕊️ Subscribe for faith-forward truth about healing, identity, and finally receiving the love you were always worthy of.

Do you crave love... but feel your heart slam shut when someone gets too close? If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I afraid to be loved?” — this episode is for you. Inside this episode of No More Breadcrumbs, I show you how God softens the walls trauma built around your heart. We’ll uncover why you still feel guarded, even when you want connection… and how Jesus meets you in that fear. What you think is self-sabotage might actually be self-protection. But when God restores your heart, you stop bracing for pain and start receiving real, safe love. You’ll learn: ✅ Why fear of intimacy forms after toxic relationships ✅ How God retrains your nervous system to feel safe in love ✅ What to say to yourself when you're tempted to push him away ✅ The truth about your identity that heals your need to self-protect 👑 Ready to drop the walls and step into chosen love?→ Take the Love Identity Quiz: Download Free Quiz here→ Access Rewritten Course: Get Access Here