Are you stuck in burnout-mode, constantly wondering if you’re doing too much or not enough?
This episode dives into the messy truth of self-growth for late-diagnosed autistic adults—where resting too much feels like failure, but pushing too hard just leads to another crash. If you've ever questioned whether you're making excuses or respecting your limits, you're not alone.
In this episode, Matt unpacks:
The hidden dangers of both over-catering and over-challenging
How burnout warps your sense of what’s possible
The difference between self-care and self-abandonment
Three key questions to check in with yourself before saying yes, no, or not yet
This isn't about toxic productivity or hiding under a blanket forever (even if the blanket is weighted and magical). It's about learning to calibrate—compassionately, intentionally, and in a way that actually works for you.
Whether you're in burnout recovery, learning to set boundaries, or just tired of feeling stuck between guilt and exhaustion, this episode will help you find your footing.
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In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Matt explores the gap between performative autism awareness and the lived experiences of autistic adults. With April bringing the usual wave of blue lights and puzzle pieces, this episode is a clear-eyed call to go deeper- to move beyond slogans and into real understanding, action, and inclusion.
Through honest storytelling, Matt reflects on the impact of late diagnosis, the cost of lifelong masking, and the grief and relief that come with finally being seen. He unpacks the history of public autism narratives, the invisibility of autistic adults in awareness campaigns, and the importance of centering actually autistic voices in conversations about autism.
Whether you're autistic, love someone who is, or are just beginning to learn, this episode invites you to question assumptions, expand your perspective, and rethink what true allyship looks like.
It's not about being perfectly informed. It's about being open. Curious. Empathetic. Supportive.
Take a listen- and consider what it means to really see someone.
What if the difference between struggling and thriving wasn’t about working harder—but working smarter? In this episode, we’re breaking down what accommodations really are and why they matter for everyone—not just those with official diagnoses.
I’ll share what I’ve learned about self-advocacy, the surprising ways accommodations have reshaped my work and home life, and why balance—not just ease—matters when making things more accessible. Plus, we’ll dive into the myths, misunderstandings, and pushback that often come with asking for what you need.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re pushing through life on hard mode, this episode might just change the way you think about making things possible.
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This Holiday Special and Season 1 Finale aims to take everything that we covered this season and stitch it together into one cohesive big picture with some new insight and juxtaposition of these themes. Resources mentioned in the episode: Embrace Autism
I need your help... Did you know that more than 70% of autistic adults remain undiagnosed- including as much as 80% of autistic women, and 90% of autistic adults over 50- navigating a world that was never designed for their needs? As someone who lived this reality for over four decades, I know the pain, the confusion, and the loneliness all too well. But here’s the truth: understanding and connection can change everything. This past year, My Autistic World has become more than just a podcast—it’s a lifeline. It’s a space where late-diagnosed autistic adults like me can feel seen, heard, and validated. Together, we’ve built a community that thrives on vulnerability, truth, and advocacy. And now, we’re on the brink of something even bigger. Season 2 is about amplifying more voices, sharing authentic stories of late diagnosis, and advocating for change in a world that often overlooks us. But I can’t do this alone. Here’s where you come in: Your donation will directly fund: Transcripts and accessibility tools so our content reaches everyone who needs it. Production costs for high-quality episodes that resonate deeply. Outreach efforts to connect with more late-diagnosed autistic adults and their loved ones. The urgency is real: to meet the demand and expand our reach, we need to raise at least $5,000 by February 14th- Valentine's Day- 2025. Every dollar you give brings us closer to creating a world where late-diagnosed autistic adults no longer feel invisible. Take action now: Go to linktr.ee/myautisticworld to donate now. And share that link and this episode with your network—it costs nothing but makes a world of difference. I’ll leave you with this: When I first spoke into the void, I never imagined people would care. But your support has shown me that they do. You’ve already helped create a space where we can unmask, grow, and heal. Let’s take it further—together.
In this episode of Adult Autism: My Autistic World, Matt dives into the fascinating world of special interests- those unique and intense passions that bring so much joy and purpose to many autistic and neurodivergent individuals. He shares some of the special interests that have shaped his life, from ancient civilizations to cults, and his obsession with Tori Amos. He also shares his latest and dominant special interest- neurodivergence, which has consumed his focus for the past two years.
Matt also discusses the struggle of suppressing and hiding special interests for years, feeling pressure to “leave childish things behind,” and the trauma of misdiagnosis and mapping special interests to signs of mania. He reflects on how this suppression and shaming made him feel diminished joy and connection to self. Rediscovering special interests has been a journey of self-acceptance and authenticity for him.
He also highlights the importance of special interests, explaining how these passions provide a sense of purpose, a means of self-expression, and a pathway to mental and emotional well-being.
In this episode of Adult Autism: My Autistic World, Matt takes a reflective journey through their employment history, shedding light on how undiagnosed autism impacted his career. Despite often being recognized as a strong employee, he frequently experienced burnout, often leaving jobs due to feelings of overwhelm or becoming stuck in issues related to a strong sense of justice. He also discusses how autism contributed to difficulties in managing basic self-care, finances, relationships, and other aspects of life outside of work. Taking classes to become a life coach improved not only his professional abilities but also his home life. Systemization became a key strength, allowing him to excel at work by seeing the path from point A to point B more clearly. These newfound skills also helped him manage his personal life more effectively, leading to better self-care. He touches on the topic of employment disclosure and the process of seeking disability accomodations, highlighting the power of understanding and advocating for one's own needs.
At the end of this episode, Matt discusses his plans for his future and the future of the podcast, including a second season focused on hearing other autistic people's experiences.
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In this episode of Adult Autism:My Autistic World, Matt takes a deep dive into the world of sensory differences experienced by autistic individuals. With a focus on the eight sensory systems—visual, auditory, tactile, olfactory, gustatory, vestibular, proprioceptive, and interoceptive—he explores the complex relationship between sensory overload and sensory-seeking behaviors, known as "stimming." This episode is perfect for those looking to better understand the intricacies of sensory processing in autism and learn about practical coping strategies.
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In this episode of Adult Autism: My Autistic World, Matt tackles the issue of misdiagnosis among undiagnosed autistic individuals, sharing personal experiences and shedding light on why autism can go unrecognized until later in life. This episode is particularly insightful for those navigating their own diagnostic journeys or supporting loved ones who may be experiencing similar struggles.
Matt opens up about the frustration of receiving multiple mental health diagnoses over the years, none of which fully explained the root cause of their challenges. From bipolar disorder to major depressive disorder (MDD) to severe anxiety and disordered eating, these labels seemed accurate on the surface but always felt "just off the mark." This is a common experience among autistic adults who were diagnosed later in life, leaving many stuck in a cycle of ineffective therapies and lingering confusion.
For many adults diagnosed with autism, the path often begins with a series of misdiagnoses. Diagnostic criteria for autism has been updated over time but misinformation has remained a systemic issue in medical and mental health professions. This lack of awareness and outdated practices have left many autistic adults searching for answers. Misdiagnoses of depression, anxiety, or even bipolar disorder are common, and while these conditions may share some overlapping symptoms, they fail to capture the core traits of autism. The emotional impact of living undiagnosed can be profound, leading to trauma and C-PTSD from a lifetime of being misunderstood, labeled as lazy or difficult, and deprived of the accommodations they needed to thrive.
In this episode of Adult Autism: My Autistic World, Matt dives deeper into the nuances of burnout, comparing traditional occupational burnout with Autistic Burnout and Autistic Burnout Syndrome. After receiving questions from listeners following the previous burnout episode, the host provides a more detailed exploration of how autism affects burnout and the additional challenges of being undiagnosed.
He begins by breaking down the similarities and differences between traditional burnout, Autistic Burnout, and Autistic Burnout Syndrome. He highlights how all three types of burnout share common traits, such as fatigue and brain fog, but also discuss the unique challenges posed by each. Additionally, the host shares personal struggles with multiple underlying conditions—like vitamin deficiencies, low testosterone, and sleep apnea—that exacerbate the fatigue and brain fog.
He delves into the neurological differences in autistic individuals that contribute to burnout and also explores the long-term effects of undiagnosed autism, such as the development of C-PTSD from the pressures of living in a world designed for allistic (non-autistic) people.
This episode provides a comprehensive look at the different forms of burnout, with a focus on autism. It’s a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how neurodivergent individuals experience stress and fatigue, as well as those looking for strategies to manage burnout and embrace a more authentic life.
In this episode of Adult Autism:My Autistic World, Matt delves into the complex topic of self-diagnosis in autism, exploring its benefits, challenges, and the broader conversations happening within the neurodivergent community. He shares personal experiences and insights, aiming to provide a balanced perspective on this often-debated subject. He addresses the controversy surrounding self-diagnosis, noting that some people view it skeptically or even take offense to it while acknowledging the importance of self-diagnosis as a tool for many in the neurodiverse community, highlighting voices that advocate for its benefits and the potential it has to improve lives. As he explores the pros and cons, he underscores that self-diagnosis can be a valuable and necessary step for many, particularly those who face barriers to accessing an official diagnosis. While it may not be the final step for everyone, self-diagnosis offers access to terminology, community, and resources that can significantly improve lives.
