In this episode, we dive into the reasons behind values. What is their purpose? How can they benefit you when it comes to overcoming pornography addiction? Can they guide you to making better choices, rather than turning to porn to cope with uncomfortable feelings? If so, how? All that and more in this episode!
When it comes to pornography addiction, mindfulness is key. It's hard to make decisions in your life when it doesn't even feel like you are in this reality. This is why pivot #4 is here!
Have you ever been really anxious or upset, and you think to yourself, "Why am I so angry right now? This is strange." That is your observing self. Is this something you can always access, this part of you that is not affected by the overwhelming thoughts, emotions, and feelings? When it comes to things like pornography addiction, this is a key pivot. This allows you to take a step back and see the entire picture without getting consumed by cravings and urges.
Here is the Self-as-Context handout for some exercises you can try to practice this pivot: Click here
This is the second episode in a six-part series where we talk about the six pivots to achieve psychological flexibility. Pivot 2 is a powerful step towards becoming the person you want. It doesn't start by challenging your thoughts or emotions; it starts by accepting them.
Psychological flexibility will allow you to live the kind of life you have always wanted. When you are fighting porn addiction, it will allow you to work through an urge or temptation and pivot towards the real you!
Acceptance Exercises here
In this episode of The Inner Revolution Podcast, we dive into the first step of psychological flexibility in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): Defusion. Learn how to unhook from sticky thoughts, quiet the “dictator within,” and create space to choose actions that align with your values. Perfect for anyone navigating anxiety, depression, or addiction.
Defusion Handout: Click Here for the Defusion Handout
(If it doesn't work for you, comment down below and I can send it to you:) )
Let's take a look at this argument around pornography being classified as art. What do you think? Is porn art?
In the days of constantly comparing ourselves to others through an online presence, it can be hard to not love yourself for who you are. Even when you are doing your best to live a value-driven life, self-love can be lackluster. Hopefully, in this episode, you can have a better sense of how to love yourself, even when it feels like you can't.
We tend to overcomplicate addiction recovery. Addiction is not complicated; it requires consistency. Consistency in doing the small things day in and day out. Most people don't want to hear that, but it's the truth, and it's what works. In this episode, I talk about one place you can start:)
Can your self-worth change? Is it based on what you do? In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-worth in recovery. Buckle up!
When you think of eating a reeses, what happens? You jump on the train of thought and experience what it would be like to eat it. This all happens in a matter of milliseconds. This is why you start to salivate when thinking about eating your favorite foods. We are constantly jumping from train to train in our sea of thoughts.
In context of addiction, this means that we can always get off the train when it leads to a potential PMO. It starts with acceptance and acknowledgement:)
There is a misconception in the mental health world surrounding addiction. We tend to think that a specific amount of time without relapse is the end-all be-all with the addiction. However, recovery is a lifelong process. The brain and body will never forget what it was like to view pxrn when you were feeling stressed, sad, mad, etc. We need to treat recovery like our values. It is not a destination, it's a direction.
Focusing on time is a waste of time. When it comes to addiction, we tend to focus solely on how many days we have been sober rather than focusing on the things that bring change.
If you create a porn dependency from a young age, is it your fault? Let me know your thoughts!
I want to reiterate that I do not personally know this family or this young man. My intentions are not to shine a bad light on the family. What happened here is tragic, and we need to keep them in our prayers. I want to use this as a catalyst in starting a conversation about normalizing talk around pxrn, sxx, and sexuality in general. We talk about the bad without any of the good. That has to stop.
Enough said.
In this episode, I talk about the negative affects that screen time can have on your porn habits. Screens are not going away...neither is porn. We need to learn to how to live in a world that runs rampant with both. This episode marks the beginning of your journey toward changing your habits around your phone. Hoorah!
You know what you need to do when it comes to change. In this episode, I talk about some guidlines you can use when working on changing yourself through this process of recovery.
In this episode, I will review some key principles within Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you practice and use these tools daily, they will give you a strong foundation for recovery!
When it comes to recovery, most people don't have a solid base from which to build. A lot of people have a filter on their phones, and that's it. However, when it comes to pornography addiction, the filter alone will not cut it.
In this episode, Enoch discusses four key areas in recovery capital that can be strengthened to increase one's chances of recovery.
Take the Recovery Capital test here: https://www.discoverandchange.com/tests/sexual-addiction-recovery-capital-registration/
References: Treating Sexual Addiction by Kevin Skinner
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When you PMO, you may struggle with feelings of shame, guilt, and negative self-talk. The Buddhist monks refer to this as the second arrow. These negative experiences are self-inflicted and can become a habit that will drive you deeper into the addiction itself. Becoming aware of this second arrow is one of the first steps that need to take place in the recovery process.
