There is a misconception in the mental health world surrounding addiction. We tend to think that a specific amount of time without relapse is the end-all be-all with the addiction. However, recovery is a lifelong process. The brain and body will never forget what it was like to view pxrn when you were feeling stressed, sad, mad, etc. We need to treat recovery like our values. It is not a destination, it's a direction.
Focusing on time is a waste of time. When it comes to addiction, we tend to focus solely on how many days we have been sober rather than focusing on the things that bring change.
If you create a porn dependency from a young age, is it your fault? Let me know your thoughts!
I want to reiterate that I do not personally know this family or this young man. My intentions are not to shine a bad light on the family. What happened here is tragic, and we need to keep them in our prayers. I want to use this as a catalyst in starting a conversation about normalizing talk around pxrn, sxx, and sexuality in general. We talk about the bad without any of the good. That has to stop.
Enough said.
In this episode, I talk about the negative affects that screen time can have on your porn habits. Screens are not going away...neither is porn. We need to learn to how to live in a world that runs rampant with both. This episode marks the beginning of your journey toward changing your habits around your phone. Hoorah!
You know what you need to do when it comes to change. In this episode, I talk about some guidlines you can use when working on changing yourself through this process of recovery.
In this episode, I will review some key principles within Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). If you practice and use these tools daily, they will give you a strong foundation for recovery!
When it comes to recovery, most people don't have a solid base from which to build. A lot of people have a filter on their phones, and that's it. However, when it comes to pornography addiction, the filter alone will not cut it.
In this episode, Enoch discusses four key areas in recovery capital that can be strengthened to increase one's chances of recovery.
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References: Treating Sexual Addiction by Kevin Skinner
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When you PMO, you may struggle with feelings of shame, guilt, and negative self-talk. The Buddhist monks refer to this as the second arrow. These negative experiences are self-inflicted and can become a habit that will drive you deeper into the addiction itself. Becoming aware of this second arrow is one of the first steps that need to take place in the recovery process.
This episode goes out to all those who think they are broken, not enough, or feel shame because of where they are at this point in their lives.
Most likely, your addiction started when you were fairly young. When you realized this was a problem, it was too late; you were hooked.
In this episode, I aim to help you have more empathy and patience with yourself on this road of recovery.
Before starting the road of recovery, you need to ask yourself, are you willing to quit? In this episode, I talk about three key questions that can help catalyze your recovery process!
If you are struggling with addiction, odds are you don't think you can overcome it. Why not? Why not you? In this episode, I talk about ways to make that become your reality:)
When you have an urge to watch pornography, it can feel like you are thrown into the middle of a big storm with no way out. Luckily, there is a way to observe these thoughts and emotions without being controlled by them; this is done by dropping anchor with the ACE formula:)
In this episode, I talk about two different kinds of pain; the pain of presence and the pain of absence. Pornography addiction can cause both of these at various times or you may experience both at once! I also go into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how it can help you understand what to do when you feel this pain.
You are getting duped by pornography! In this episode, I talk about the Gypsy Moth and what that has to do with pornography addiction.
References:
Anna Salleh, “Sex Pheromones Cut Pesticide Use,” ABC Science Online, October 16, 2000.
Jason S. Carroll, Laura M. Padilla-Walker, Larry J. Nelson, Chad D. Olson, Carolyn McNamara Barry, Stephanie D. Madsen, “Generation XXX: Pornography Acceptance and Use Among Emerging Adults,” Journal of Adolescent Research, Vol. 23(1) 2008, 6-30.
Morton Beroza and E. F. Knipling, “Gypsy Moth Control with the Sex Attractant Pheromone.” Science, 177 (4043): 19, July 7, 1972, 19-27.
Some days it can feel like the addiction will never end. Is it even possible? In this episode, I will cover the six stages of recovery and what you can realistically expect regarding how long you need to prepare for.
Hey, all! Thanks for tuning into the show:) In this episode, I talk about some of the differences in why women may respond differently to men when it comes to consuming pornography.
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References:
Original study talked about last week
Bridges, A. J., & Morokoff, P. J. (2011). Sexual media use and relational satisfaction in heterosexual couples: A longitudinal study. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(4), 823-836.
Dines, G. (2010). Pornland: How porn has hijacked our sexuality. Beacon Press.
Hamann, S., Herman, R. A., Nolan, C. L., & Wallen, K. (2004). Men and women differ in amygdala response to visual sexual stimuli. Nature Neuroscience, 7(4), 411-416.
Hilton, D. L., & Watts, C. (2011). Pornography addiction: A neuroscience perspective. Surgical Neurology International, 2(19).
Kraus, S. W., Meshberg-Cohen, S., Martino, S., Quinones, L. J., & Potenza, M. N. (2015). Treatment strategies for problematic pornography use: Review and recommendations for psychotherapy. Journal of Behavioral Addictions, 4(1), 1-10
Perry, S. L. (2021). Pornography and relational dynamics: Differences in emotional and psychological responses among men and women. Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy, 43(2), 278-290.
In this episode, I go over a study published by the Cambridge University Press that looks at the differences porn can make in the lives of both men and women when it comes to specific outcomes!
Reference: The article is here
In this episode, we sit down and have a real talk. Come join:)
