Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.
Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
We'd love to hear from you!
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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.
Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.
The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.
The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.
We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!
This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...
We'd love to hear from you!
We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Is your child friends with a bad influence?
Are they being bullied or treated poorly by someone they think is a friend?
Do they struggle to broaden their social circle?
If you relate to any of the above, then this episode is a must listen, because I am going to explain the how, the why, and the what you can do about those unhealthy friendships your children find themselves in.
It happens to everyone, even us parents! But knowing how to spot them and, importantly, knowing how to support your children to see it for themselves, is the real challenge. You might just learn a thing or two about your own relationships as well!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Friendships: The Whole Nine Yards: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/helping-children-with-friendships/
Highlights from this episode:
01:24 - Toxic is toxic
03:43 - The warning signs of an unhealthy friendship
05:33 - Focus on the behavior, not the child
09:31 - Listen without judgment
13:43 - Red friend green friend
19:30 - Encourage them to broaden their social network
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Diagnoses of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, are rising sharply.
But how do you know if you or your child might have it?
And what can you do about it?
It can be hard to find the right info about symptoms, causes, and treatment. So In this episode I’m going to talk through what OCD is, but also what it isn’t, and what the common early signs are.
Plus, I’ll give you some super easy, practical things you can do right away to support your children in the best way possible.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Reports of OCD triple: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdr612zrl0no
The life event scale: https://www.simplypsychology.org/srrs.html
Highlights from this episode:
01:33 - Are we taking OCD seriously enough?
04:50 - Obsessions versus compulsions
07:54 - Why has there been an increase?
10:16 - Keep it in the family
11:39 - Life events and external triggers
14:51 - OCD early warning signs
18:33 - OCD or anxiety?
21:18 - How can we help our children?
24:42 - Challenge the intrusive thoughts
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Are you looking for fun and free or low cost family activities?
Have you considered reading?
Before you switch off, hear me out, because reading can be an incredibly relaxing and enjoyable activity, and I’m here to explain how you can encourage your children to want to read.
However, there’s been a huge decline in recent years of young people who enjoy reading, and it’s on us - the mums, the dads, the parents, the guardians and the teachers - to do something about this.
Reading a good book can be great for the soul, and help not just your kids, but also you, to empty your buckets. That’s why this topic is so important to me.
I will tell you the three main benefits of reading, and what you can do to make reading feel like less of a chore to your kids.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Get Britain Reading by The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/get-britain-reading?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b
Highlights from this episode:
00:41 - Get Britain reading again
04:55 - The numbers don’t lie
07:26 - The three benefits
10:52 - Paper beats screen
15:05 - Take the hard work out of reading
19:14 - Model reading for pleasure
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Are you getting in your child’s way?
Should you praise effort or results?
And are you strict enough with enforcing your own rules?
In today’s episode, I’m expanding on a recent episode (linked below), where we explored how your children build their sense of self, to answer the above questions and more.
I’m going to give you the five areas where I believe you can really help your children navigate their most critical stage of identity development. This usually happens around 7-8 years old, but every child is different, so no matter where you are in your parenting journey, this episode will definitely help you.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity
Highlights from this episode:
01:28 - Ages 7 to 8 are critical
06:00 - The 8 stages of identity development
09:03 - Do what you say you will
13:28 - Are you getting in your child’s way?
19:17 - Manage your expectations
22:27 - The benefits of praising effort
28:35 - The world is NOT school
31:57 - Episode cheat sheet
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💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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What went wrong?
Have I failed my children?
That’s the question many parents ask themselves when contemplating home schooling. But in reality, the school system simply isn’t the best choice for some children.
In the second part of our discussion, we look closer at the process of choosing a home schooling option, what a good education really looks like, and when or why you might transition your kids back into a school environment.
To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…
Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.
She is also an integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/
Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:24 - What does good schooling look like?
08:49 - Neurodivergent burnout
12:31 - The journey back to school
18:50 - The growth option
21:38 - Breaking social moulds
23:55 - Give yourself the space to mess up
28:57 - Every parent has their own story
33:41 - Pushing over the cliff edge
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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Has your child ever refused to go to school?
It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?
In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.
Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.
To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…
Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.
She is also an integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/
Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:20 - These stats might shock you
05:32 - School refusal
11:46 - How to manage school incapacity
15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z
18:55 - Why are the stats going up?
21:21 - Ruth’s story
29:00 - School support for neurodivergence
32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child
36:35 - A message to schools
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library
💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Does your child refuse to go to bed?
Is the nighttime routine a daily stress?
And why won’t your children sleep when they’re tired?
Today’s episode is a listener question, and one I’m sure affects most parents, because it’s all about how to make bedtime less of a battle and more of a breeze.
I am going to talk through the reasons why the sleep showdown happens, give you three things you can do, and give you the ultimate bedtime checklist to work through. There’s no perfect, instant solution because every child is different, but if you take the right approach with the right mindset, you’re halfway towards a peaceful evening!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Mentioned in this episode:
Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have it All? - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all/
Highlights from this episode:
02:47 - Audit your shoulds
05:06 - Are we setting impossible standards?
08:28 - Find a moment to empty some of your bucket
12:21 - Download Mode
15:12 - How to set boundaries
17:37 - Where can your child have more autonomy?
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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Are you more emotionally mature than your children?
Do you project your problems onto your kids?
Does your child feel like a burden or a failure?
These might be tough questions to think about but, according to a recent study, these are common things your teenagers might be thinking, but do not feel like they can tell you.
And don’t worry, you are not a bad parent, and this isn’t a generational thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re a boomer or a millennial, sometimes we can get so busy doing the day-to-day parenting, that we forget to pay attention and listen - truly listen - to what our kids are trying to tell us.
That’s why I’m doing today’s episode, which is all about helping you to understand what your teens really need from you, and giving you some practical advice which you can start using right away.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:21 - What do you wish you could tell your parents?
06:40 - 3 ways you’re not showing up for your teens
12:32 - Invest in self-awareness
15:53 - Reflect in whatever way works for you
18:01 - Start showing up
21:18 - Honest conversations
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
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When I say breathwork, what comes to mind?
Many of you will think of yoga, meditation, or something a bit silly. I’m sure most of you don’t think it can help your children, and I get it!
But did you know that good breathwork can have real, physical benefits on our nervous system, our brain, and our body? In other words, it’s not just some hippy dippy nonsense, and I’m going to explain why.
This means when our kids are stressed, scared, overwhelmed or anxious, good breathing can be the difference maker in a situation that usually gets out of control very quickly.
In this bucket emptying episode, I want to dispel any stigma you might have around breathwork. I’m going to tell you exactly how & why it helps, and give you some practical, actionable exercises you can start doing right now.
Here’s the Take 10 method to get you started: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
01:35 - Fight, flight or freeze
05:48 - The physical benefits of breathwork
08:07 - Getting creative with breathwork
12:40 - Biometrics are a great learning aid
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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“I want it all. I want it now” - timeless words sung by the late Freddie Mercury, and sampled by every child ever, including your own, am I right?
But let’s be honest, they’re not the only ones. As parents, we put ourselves under so much pressure to keep up with the Joneses and have it all… but what does that even mean?
A big house?
Private school?
Or maybe just financial security?
In this episode, I am here to tell you one thing, and one thing only: you are not perfect, and that’s okay! It’s time to follow my seven tips and embrace the beautiful, incredible, imperfect you.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
00:37 - Having it all… but at what cost?
06:21 - There’s no such thing as work-life balance
10:20 - Your inner conflict
16:11 - All does not mean perfect
18:01 - Asking for help is not a weakness
21:28 - Be present for yourself
27:11 - Be ruthless
32:41 - You are imperfect, and that’s ok
34:22 - Who are you?
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
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Let’s be clear: tylenol does not cause autism.
It does not cause ADHD.
Neurodivergence is not contagious.
And it is not a disease to be caught or cured.
You’ve probably heard these claims being made by certain politicians and Presidents recently, but let me assure you: there is no credible scientific evidence to support this.
As parents, we already feel so much shame and guilt about our kids’ neurodivergence, be it ADHD, autism, or anything else.
Why didn’t I spot it sooner?
Am I a terrible Mum?
Have I failed my child?
We’ve all been there, and the answer is no, no, NO! So in this episode I am sharing the best bits from my recent interview with journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.
We cover everything from Mum guilt, to the school system, and what you can do to create a more positive, supportive environment for your neurodiverse kids.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because we’re about to take the RFK out of ADHD, and give you some home truths you don’t want to miss…
Listen to the full episode with Jessie here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson/id1571503566?i=1000723801183
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
00:58 - ADHD Myth Versus Reality
03:37 - The Broken School System
06:50 - Mom Guilt
10:10 - Guilt and Motherhood Go Hand in Hand
11:06 - Let the Doctor Make the Call
12:56 - How to Rebuild Self-Esteem in Neurodivergent Children
15:28 - Epiphany at the Cinema
18:12 - F You All
20:11 - A Neurotypical World
21:55 - Be the Shield from Society’s Judgment
22:24 - Do You Have ADHD?
More from Jessie:
Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf
Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b
Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk
Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Someone leaves you in a room with a tasty treat. You can eat it right away, but you’ve been promised two treats if you resist for 15 minutes. What do you do?
This isn’t a riddle, but a very important experiment called The Marshmallow Test, and I bring this up to show you that building self-control and willpower in our kids is an age-old challenge for parents like you and me.
Which is why in this episode, I talk through some of the crucial factors that impact self-control and explain why taking the time to help your children develop this important skill, can set them up for success in adult life.
Plus, I share some super practical tips which you can start using right now.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
00:22 - What the Tokyo World Athletics teaches parents
02:55 - What is self-control?
08:45 - The marshmallow test
12:20 - Crucial factors
16:54 - Be a role model for your kids
22:35 - How to encourage self-control
27:48 - We are the scaffolding
💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together
💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/
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Is your child’s self-confidence at rock bottom?
Are you feeling a bit helpless, or lost at how to help?
Firstly, remember we have all been there, I promise you! And secondly, this bucket emptying episode builds on our previous episodes about confidence, but this time I talk specifically about how to boost really low self-confidence in your kids and teens.
I’m going to share three things that I guarantee you will find super helpful when managing your child’s low self-confidence.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
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Highlights from this episode:
01:10 - What is self-confidence?
03:27 - Building a new, capable mindset
05:16 - Learning to try
07:48 - Shake it off
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Confidence is something we all struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis.
But for our kids, who are dealing with new experiences, new challenges, and constant change all the time, their confidence and self belief is being really tested. Childhood is not quite as easy as we like to remember.. we’re all guilty of that!
That’s why I’m kicking off a trilogy of episodes, taking a long hard look at confidence in our children, and how we, as parents, can support them through the tough times and help them build their self-belief.
Remember, our goal is to be the scaffolding for our kids, to help them grow into healthy, resilient and confident people, and I’m here to guide you through every step.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
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Highlights from this episode:
02:01 - These stats might shock you
05:00 - The difference between self belief and self confidence
06:30 - You must model confidence for your kids
10:58 - Effort > result
14:04 - Set regular goals
17:17 - Cultivate curiosity for new things
20:35 - I don’t like chores
23:20 - How thoughts drive feelings
26:52 - Our faith in them is unconditional
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Do you find yourself getting louder and louder when your kids don’t listen to you?
Are you constantly fighting to get them to do what you ask?
In the second of our two part bucket-emptying special, I am helping you manage your child’s non-compliance: when they just say no or, more annoyingly, they ignore you completely!
Last week we talked through some of the main reasons why your children do this, and if you haven’t listened to that yet, spoiler alert: they’re not naughty.
On this episode, I give you six practical things you can do right now to manage those moments when you just want to pull your hair out.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
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Highlights from this episode:
01:56 - Not all buckets are created equal
06:18 - Keep it simple
09:35 - Take a moment to reset
12:03 - Use a quieter voice
14:46 - Can you turn it into a game?
16:07 - Praising progress
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On today’s episode, I am joined by Tish Feilden, formerly a teacher and psychotherapist, but today one of the founders of Jamie’s Farm.
Alongside her son, they have created a life-changing program that, in their words, leaves children ‘better equipped to thrive academically, socially and emotionally during their school years and beyond.’
We have a great chat about the benefits of putting the screens down, getting your children outside, and giving your kids the autonomy and the agency they need to thrive as confident, independent people.
You don’t want to miss this!
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
More from Tish
Visit Jamie’s Farm: https://jamiesfarm.org.uk/
Tish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tish-feilden-a8a7b14b/?originalSubdomain=uk
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
02:33 - A whole different ball game
06:02 - Why go to school when I can Google it?
11:19 - Give your kids a sense of purpose
15:39 - Embrace change and milk a cow
21:17 - Help
26:31 - It’s only a little electric shock
29:28 - A week without phones
33:02 - Every emotion is healthy
37:20 - Your job as a parent is never complete
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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.
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Do your children refuse to follow boundaries?
Do you think you are never being listened to?
In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them!
But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no.
Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries
03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives
06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle
10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do?
15:40 - Catching them off guard
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Your sense of self is so important, and a lot of it is wrapped up in who we think we are and how we compare ourselves to others.
The same goes for your children, and supporting this will be one of your biggest challenges as parents.
That’s why, in this episode, I’m going to explain what identity is, I’ll talk through the different developmental stages, and what you can do to help your kids navigate these particular stages in their life, as well as your own.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Come to the Webinar
Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm-
Highlights from this episode:
04:19 - What is identity?
08:24 - Conflict is at the core
11:38 - Infancy conflicts
14:20 - Autonomy and purpose
18:54 - Primary school and self-confidence
23:02 - Adolescence and identity
26:35 - Intimacy versus isolation
29:23 - Middle age stagnation
34:10 - Old age despair
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Do you compare yourself to other parents?
Do you sometimes think you’re not good enough?
Here’s a secret… you are good enough, and every parent out there has the same doubt. I say it’s time to silence the inner critic!
In this short bucket emptying episode, I give you four practical tips you can start doing today, to get rid of your inner critic and start being the happiest, most confident version of yourself. Because you cannot possibly look after your kids if you don’t first look after yourself.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
00:49 - Every parent experiences at least one of these
03:16 - “I’m a bad parent”
04:46 - Give yourself some slack
05:49 - What’s your mantra?
07:46 - Find your tribe
09:50 - Go to sleep!
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Everything you know about ADHD is probably wrong.
That’s the title of an influential article written by today’s guest, journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.
Jessie joins me to talk about the challenges she faced before her son’s diagnosis, the guilt she feels as a parent for not acting quicker or better during that time, and why the education system is built for a neurotypical world… and the problems you might face if you are also parenting a neurodiverse child.
This is a fascinating conversation that will reframe everything you think you know about neurodivergence, autism and adhd.
So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…
Highlights from this episode:
02:51 - The social shaming around ADHD
11:01 - ADHD myth versus reality
14:54 - ASD or ADHD?
20:33 - Rebuilding self-esteem in ADHD children
27:23 - F you all
31:31 - A neurotypical world
35:57 - Barriers in the system
40:04 - Do I have ADHD?
More from Jessie:
Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf
Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b
Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk
Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson
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