Hey Bestie—whether you're someone who over-apologizes for existing or resists apologizing even when it matters… this episode is for you. 🙋♀️
Apologizing is powerful when it's genuine—but when we misuse it, it creates disconnection, resentment, and reinforces unhealthy dynamics. Today, we’re diving into the psychology behind saying sorry: when we should, when we shouldn’t, and how to apologize in a way that actually strengthens relationships and self-leadership.
We'll explore:
- How attachment styles impact how we apologize
- The difference between shame-based apologies and values-based ones
- A simple framework for real, healing repair
- When to stop apologizing altogether (like for having needs or boundaries!)
You’ll walk away knowing exactly how to apologize well without losing yourself in the process.
🧠 Key Themes:
- NLP, attachment theory, and positive psychology on the power of apology
- The five-part apology framework
- How to stop saying sorry for things that don’t need one
- Why asking for forgiveness matters
- What healthy repair looks like in relationships
💭 Reflection Questions:
- Where do I tend to over-apologize?
- Where do I resist it—and why?
- What did I learn about apologizing growing up?
- What would it feel like to apologize with clarity not shame?
- Is there a relationship that needs a real apology—or a clear boundary instead?
📣 Take Action:
- Check out the Episode on Boundaries
- Send this to a friend who over-apologizes or struggles to own their part—lovingly, of course 💌
- Book a breakthrough to release the unconscious stories driving over- or under-apologizing
- Want to coach through transformation like this? ICC might be for you—learn how to use tools like NLP and values-based language in coaching
