🔥 Episode Summary:

How many times have you said yes when everything in you wanted to say no?
In this powerful episode, Dr. Britt unpacks what’s really behind people-pleasing—spoiler alert: it’s not kindness, it’s often fear. She explores the psychology behind the pattern, including how NLP, MER, and stoicism help us identify the root causes, rewrite our responses, and reclaim our power to say no with confidence and calm.

💡 What You’ll Learn:

• Why people-pleasing is a strategy, not your identity
• The difference between kindness and self-abandonment
• How unresolved guilt, fear, and limiting beliefs drive the need to say yes
• Tools from NLP, MER, and positive psychology to break the pattern
• How to visualize and future-pace a more aligned, confident version of you
• What it really means to say no—and why it’s one of the kindest things you can do

🔁 Key Takeaways:

• Saying yes to everyone else at the expense of yourself is not kindness—it’s self-abandonment
• People-pleasing is usually rooted in unresolved emotional baggage (like fear of rejection or guilt)
• Your beliefs (“If I say no, they’ll leave… I must be useful to be loved…”) shape your behaviors
• Releasing that baggage allows you to create space for aligned choices
• Visualization and language re-pattern your mind to embrace boundaries with strength and clarity

📝 Reflection Questions:

1. What am I afraid will happen if I say no?
2. Where in my life have I been overextending myself to avoid rejection or guilt?
3. What belief am I reinforcing when I say yes out of fear?
4. What would be different if I believed my boundaries were a form of love?
5. What’s one small “no” I can practice this week to honor myself?

🔗 Related Episodes:

• Boundaries.. Gotta have 'em
• All about anxiety
• The Secret Sauce: Your Unconscious Mind
• Release the baggage... I did!