Somewhere along the way, love can start to feel heavy.
Not because your partner isn’t right… but because in the process, we sometimes forget ourselves.
In this episode, we explore why losing your individuality in relationships can quietly affect your friendships, your happiness, and even your connection with your partner.
We talk about why people chase highs in love, how to spot the warning signs, and most importantly — how to love in a way that adds to your life, rather than trying to complete it.
Because love shouldn’t make you feel half of yourself — it should help you be more than half.
Somewhere along the line, our generation made emotional distance look powerful — like the one who feels less, wins. But in the war of ego, the loser always wins.
This episode dives into avoidant attachment — what it truly means, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes how we love and connect. We talk about how fear of vulnerability often hides behind phrases like “protecting my peace,” and how avoidance might explain you, but can’t excuse how you treat people.
It’s not a blame session — it’s a gentle reminder that while your past may have shaped your patterns, healing is your responsibility. Because love, friendship, and connection can’t grow through distance.
💭 Vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s courage.
Because in the war of ego… the one who feels, always wins.
Heart, Unfiltered – Episode 15: The Weight You Don’t See
Low self-esteem is often invisible, but it quietly shapes self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and how we see ourselves. In this episode, I share personal stories, unpack societal and familial pressures, and explore real ways to rebuild self-worth — without pretending to be perfect.
Reflection: What’s one thing you’re downplaying about yourself but are actually good at?
Tune in, breathe, and remember: your worth isn’t defined by the mirror.
Ever feel like you don’t belong, even after you’ve achieved something? In this episode, we dive into imposter syndrome — what it really feels like, why it sneaks up after self-doubt, and how to navigate it without losing yourself. Real stories, and lessons for anyone trying to figure life out, one step at a time.
Perfection is a trap that keeps too many of us waiting on the sidelines. In this episode, we explore the weight of self-doubt, the illusion of “perfect timing,” and why waiting until it’s perfect often means waiting forever.
From the pressures of comparison to the surprising truth about why many highly intelligent people underachieve, this conversation is as real as it gets. I even share parts of my own journey—how self-doubt kept me from applying for jobs I could have thrived in, and how I almost let fear stop me from starting this very podcast.
If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m not ready yet,” this episode is for you. Perfect can wait—but your life can’t.
🎧 Listen now and let’s unlearn the myth of perfection together.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for someone isn’t giving advice, fixing their problems, or sharing your own story—it’s simply listening. This week, we explore the art of truly hearing the people in your life, honoring their struggles and their victories, and holding space without judgment.
Who are you when the titles, labels, and first impressions are stripped away? In this episode, we explore the part of you that can’t be summed up in a résumé or a social media bio — the quiet legacy you leave behind in every room you enter. Through real voices, heartfelt reflections, and an honest challenge, Beyond the Bio invites you to rethink how you define yourself… and how others will remember you.
Many of us are good people who still struggle to love well. This episode explores how emotional neglect, unhealed trauma, and cultural norms have shaped the way we give and receive love, and why we need to relearn the basics: presence, respect, kindness, consistency, and vulnerability.
It’s not just about romance. It’s about the kind of love that builds us—and others—up.
Have you ever felt like you’re always the one giving, checking in, or trying?
Maybe the problem isn’t you. Maybe… they were never your tribe.
In hopefully the concluding episode of our Friendship Series, we talk about mismatched friendships, wrong expectations, and the cycles we repeat—even when we know better.
This episode is a sequel of sorts — a continuation of our last conversation around friendships and the many "-ships" we find ourselves in. But now that you’ve identified your people, the real question is: are you showing up for them? Are you putting in the effort, being intentional, and being present?
Let’s talk about the difference between being anchored and actually maintaining the anchor. Let's talk effort, presence, and choosing your people — every day.
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🎵 Music Credit:
"Filaments" by Scott Buckley – www.scottbuckley.com.au
Licensed under CC BY 4.0
You call everyone your friend… but deep down, you feel like no one’s really yours.
In this episode, I’m talking about blurred boundaries, why we confuse connection with commitment, and how that leaves us emotionally scattered and quietly heavy.
🎙 Episode 7 — All These -ships, But No Anchor
Open hands, heavy heart — let’s talk about why boundaries matter.
We say we’re healing… but are we really?
Or are we just avoiding, numbing, distracting?
This week on Heart, Unfiltered, I’m unpacking the not-so-linear journey of healing, the relapses, the silence, the mess, and what real, intentional healing might actually look like. No fluff, just truth.
🎧 Episode 6 – “That didn’t fix it?” is out now.
Ever felt taken for granted by the people closest to you? This episode unpacks the Nigerian concept of “see finish”, what happens when familiarity turns into disregard. Let’s talk about how closeness can either deepen connection… or quietly erode it. It’s raw, honest, and a little uncomfortable, but necessary.
We’re tired, and not just physically.
In this episode, I sit with the quiet sadness so many of us carry and ask:
Why does it feel like we’re all barely holding on?
From the pressure to glow up, to the quiet fear that this can’t be all life has to offer, this one’s for anyone feeling stuck in the middle.
Let this be your reminder: you’re not too late. You’re just in the middle.
🎧 Episode 4 — “This Isn’t It… Right?”
Now streaming.
Ever held on, not because it felt right, but because you were scared it might be the last “good” love you’d find? In this episode, I reflect on fear, scarcity, and the stories we tell ourselves about good people and good love. Maybe the question isn’t whether they still make them like this… but whether you still believe you’re worth more.
Not all breakups are born from betrayal. Some come from caring too much to let someone settle. This episode is about the kind of love that's not loud enough to last and the courage it takes to walk away.
A reflection sparked by a Netflix series, about love, guilt, growth and the kind of people we're meant to remember, not keep. Just a chapter, not the whole book.
