...In reality, we have both! And that's ok. It's part of the human experience on this earth. We aren't supposed to be perfect....we're on the road of perfecting ourselves....it's a journey and not a destination. So, get fearless in finding out your anger patterns. It's going to be ok. I promise. Trust me when I say that I'm still on this journey of self-confronting my anger patters and leaning into the wisdom of what it is trying to tell me about my Self.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Anger
Anger is a natural human emotion that serves an important purpose in our emotional landscape, but how we experience and express it makes all the difference.
Healthy anger functions as a signal that something is wrong and needs attention. It typically:
Is proportional to the situation
Motivates constructive problem-solving
Protects legitimate boundaries
Leads to appropriate assertiveness
Dissipates once addressed
Involves awareness and responsibility for the emotion
When expressed healthily, anger can strengthen relationships by communicating needs clearly and respecting others' perspectives. It often follows a pattern of recognition, regulation, and resolution.
Differentiation: Anger is like a flag - telling you that a boundary has been crossed. I could be a physical boundary, mental, emotional, or psychological - there isn’t safety. So where do you not feel safe?
Unhealthy anger becomes problematic when it:
Is disproportionate to the triggering event
Manifests as explosive outbursts or prolonged resentment
This leads to verbal or physical aggression
Gets suppressed entirely, turning inward
Damages relationships repeatedly
Controls the person rather than being controlled
Becomes chronic or the default emotional response
Unhealthy anger often creates a cycle where the person feels justified in their rage while causing harm to themselves and others.
Healthy anger tends to resolve issues and create positive change. Unhealthy anger typically creates more problems than it solves, damaging trust and emotional well-being.
Would you like me to explore any specific aspect of anger management in more detail?
Healthy AngerUnhealthy AngerThe Difference in Outcomes
Healthy anger tends to resolve issues and create positive change. Unhealthy anger typically creates more problems than it solves, damaging trust and emotional well-being.
Would you like me to explore any specific aspect of anger management in more detail?
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Bio:
Charmaine Horn, BSN, RN, EFTMP-C, is a Registered Nurse, Certified Qigong (pronounced "Chee-Gong") Instructor, and Certified EFT Practitioner. After working 8 years as a psychiatric nurse, she realized that the psychiatric medications she gave to her patients rarely seemed to help improve her patients' symptoms long-term. She left her nursing job in 2020 to discover holistic healing methods that can help people heal from emotional and mental health issues. That is when she ultimately discovered Qigong, which she used to help herself heal from burnout, anxiety, and grief. Charmaine is now on a mission to help people overcome stress, anxiety, and depression with Qigong so they could live a more joyous and fulfilling life.
(For more details, check out my About Me page!)
Titles/Credentials:
Registered Nurse (Credential: BSN, RN)
Certified 200-Hour Qigong Teacher
Certified Master Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Practitioner (Credential: EFTMP-C)
Certified Tai Chi Easy Practice Leader
Certified Somatic Coach
Certified Life & Weight Loss Coach
Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) 6-Week Program Completion
Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) 10-Week Program Completion
Links:
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For questions: hyonorthlifecoach@gmail.com
Resources from this episode:
"Boundaries", by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend HERE
Dr. David Hawkins HERE
Doctrine & Covenants 10:1 - 3 HERE
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To see if Elaine can help you to navigate dividing assets during a divorce, please reach out to her for a free consult:
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"Tell me not your politics or religion. Tell me only your suffering". - Louis Pasteur
"Life is suffering".- First of four noble truths of Buddhism
I never found the question, "What is the purpose of suffering", to be very helpful..
Rather, I'd like to pose another question (or two) with you instead...
"What is suffering calling you to do?"
I heard this question asked by Dr. James Hollis and it stopped me dead on my tracks (well,, not really because I was driving).
And then another question came up from that...
What is suffering calling me to Become?"
I've been marinating on these two questions and felt a nudge to make it into a podcast episode.
So, my friends, get ready with pen and paper and be prepared to do some curious inquiry.
#lds #divorceanddiscipleship #hyonorthcoaching #hyonorth #sacredsuffering #choiceandaccountability #jesus #grace #healingwithgrace #godislove
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Dr. Suess mentions in that book, “Oh the Places You’ll Go”.
You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...
...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or the waiting around for a Yes or No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.
What are we waiting for?....I call those the “unmet blessings”, the “unanswered prayers”. And to be in that waiting place can be so painful. I can feel that even within myself. It’s like a sinking feeling that makes me want to cave into myself. But whatever you’re feeling as you are thinking about this, I want to invite you to carve out “sacred space” and allow it to be there for just a moment….at least through this episode.
To reveive your FREE copy of the Book of Mormon, click HERE 3 Nephi 20
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I remember as a kid saying, in a taunting voice, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Boy, was I wrong because I had plenty of words thrown at me and they did hurt. Like I can still remember some of them. AND, I remember throwing out words to others that I know was hurtful to them. (Sigh). What I wouldn’t give to take those forms of sticks and stones back. In reality, a lot of my healing has been around words that were said by others and words said to my own Self. And maybe this episode has to do with a bit of healing within me and I hope that it will bring insight and healing to you as you may be identifying moments and memories where words were used to hurt and define you in ways that have had a negative impact in your life.
I want to take the “Somatic Life Coach” approach about the impact on words, especially when directed toward our Self. Ok, just saying that made me realize that I always take that approach as well as integrating the teachings of Jesus Christ and how as disciples of Him, we can implement words in our lives to help you and I to move along what President Nelson calls the “covenant path.” You will hear me share personal stories, stories by my clients, and how, as a somatic life coach, I address these concerns in a session. I hope that as I share the different tools I use and why I use them, you’ll find them helpful in your own personal circumstances.
Helpful links from the episode:
Words Matter (2024 April General Conference) Link
3 Nephi 19 Link
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President Russell M. Nelson, Prophet and President of The Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day Saints, released a YouTube video about “The Healing Power of Gratitude” (click HERE for link).
Gratitude on positivepsychology.com, click HERE
I remember telling my eldest daughter that I was going to start a podcast and surprisingly, she was totally supportive, on board, and wanted to be on it as a guest. That was almost two years ago and now, it's finally happening.
I have to tell you that it is "candid" meaning, no editiing out words, stories, emotions, and memories. I personally learned so much from this conversation and trust me, I had all the emotions.
Why did we do this? To let you know that motherhood and mothering is a process, an imperfect, messy process of Becoming...and I don't think we're meant to "get it" in this life. How could we when our perception is still flawed and skewed because we're human.
For that reason, I am so very grateful for the Atonement of Jesus Christ. If I didn't have the hope that He could heal not only my heart, but the hearts of those most dear to me, then I would have given up a long time ago. I am so grateful that I didn't. I am so grateful that I kept seeking, searching, learning, testing, in order to transform and transcend where I began to the Present moment. I have so far to go but I'm not alone in this journey.
I hope that through this conversation, you will gaiin insights into your own kids and into your own patterns and that rather than choosing hopelessness, you will choose grace. It's a choice to choose healing, grace, and our Savior Jesus Christ. Love, Hyo
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The Forest, by Nikita Gil
One day when you wake up, you will find that you’ve become a forest.
You’ve grown roots and found strength in them that no one thought you had.
You have become stronger and more beautiful, full of life giving qualities.
You have learned to take all the negativity around you and turn it into oxygen for easy breathing.
A host of wild creatures live inside you and you call them stories.
A variety of beautiful birds nest inside your mind and you call them memories.
You have become an incredible self-sustaining thing of epic proportions.
And you should be so proud of yourself, of how far you have come from the seeds of who you used to be.
Grit - Angela Duckworth TED Talk here
Grit, The Power of Passion and Perseverance here
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The "Focus Five":
The first focus, Faith and Spirituality
The second, Relationships - friends, family, and ex-spouse!
The third, Health and healing
The fourth, money and finance - you heard me right. Money ladies. Super important and I’m working on gathering experts to teach us all about this.
And fifth, career/work.
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Chris Rich is a life coach who helps others in mixed-faith relationships find "peace" that passeth all understanding.
We discuss these points and how they can help you navigate your ex-spousal relationship when he decides to no longer "do church".
When life “gives” you a cactus, you don’t have to sit on it
When difficult circumstances arise, ask yourself, “How do I need to handle myself” in this moment to be a person I respect?
What if this a your greatest “gift” for growth?
THINK acronym
I encourage you to connect with Chris and take advantage of her freebie: My Loved One Left The Church. Now What?Chris Rich Coaching Certified Life Coach www.chrisrichcoaching.comchrisrichcoaching@gmail.com
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Pronouns: She/Her
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Podcast episode with Susan Astle talking about what constitutes a marital asset HERE
Barbara Morgan Gardner, The Priesthood Power of Women - click HERE
- Favorite podcast episode with Dr. Gardner HERE
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Who is in your tribe? Have you been intentional about who you let in and who you confide in? I personally have found that not all of my past friends are currently in my tribe. At first, I felt some guilt but then realized that I wanted to surround myself with those that were:
Help me to “arise and come forth” towards Christ
Don’t co-sign my BS and my victim mentality
Still be a soft landing when I do have bad days - safety
Share your dreams, desires, wantings, longings
And the most important of all…I wanted to surround myself with those I wanted to “emulate.” Those that had characteristics and attributes that I desired to instill in myself. This took time for me to find. I did a lot of watching and listening. I did a lot of checking in with myself
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Sometimes....ok, who am I kidding.....going through a separation and divorce can feel like a "ping-pong ball." Back and forth and and back and forth mentally, emotionally, physically, and even spiritually.
And what can that spiritual ping-pong effect feel like? It's like having faith and then having doubt and then back to faith and now back to doubt.
In this episode, I talk about holding space for the duality of those to experiences when we're going through something as trying as a legal battle with our soon-to-be or current ex-spouse.
Then, how to I have helped my client as well as myself navigate these uncertain waters.
I also introduce what "Divine Consciousness" is but will talk more on this at a later episode.
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3 Nephi chapters 9 - 11.
As I was studying these chapters, I was struck by how relateable my marital circumstance was to the people of the Book of Mormon experiencing the destruction following the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. I hope that I have conveyed that relatedness and invite you to do the same.
Hey, so I was wondering...what ado you want for dinner? Serious. AND when was the last time someone asked you what you wanted to eat, wear, play, work? I think you get the point. We mamas are ALWAYS asking others what they want but NOW is the time to ask yourself what YOU WANT! Let's do this ladies!!
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