Keywords
over-functioning, relationships, co-parenting, boundaries, emotional intelligence, self-care, empowerment, women, parenting, mental health
Summary
In this conversation, the hosts discuss the dynamics of over-functioning partners, particularly in the context of relationships and co-parenting. They explore the emotional toll of over-functioning, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for self-care. The discussion also emphasizes the role of women in breaking the cycle of under-functioning partners and empowering the next generation to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for change and healing, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth and seek supportive communities.
How to Find Ashley!
Her website is www.drashleysouthard.com
IG and FB handles are @drashleysouthard
Takeaways
Over-functioning often leads to burnout and resentment.
Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.
Women are often conditioned to take on more responsibilities in relationships.
Co-parenting dynamics can exacerbate over-functioning issues.
Recognizing one's own over-functioning is the first step to change.
Empowering the next generation involves teaching emotional intelligence.
Women are increasingly choosing to be single rather than settle for under-functioning partners.
Healthy relationships require reciprocity and mutual support.
Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Communities of support can help women navigate relationship challenges.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Over-Functioning Partners
05:58 Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing
06:33 The Impact of Conditioning on Relationships
06:43 Introduction to Over-Functioning Women
09:40 Understanding Over-Functioning Dynamics
12:50 Co-Parenting and Over-Functioning
15:50 Weaponized Incompetence in Relationships
18:44 The Gender Dynamics of Over-Functioning
21:43 Breaking the Cycle of Over-Functioning
24:43 Awareness and Change in Relationships
30:50 The Importance of Balance in Relationships
33:36 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help
36:43 Recognizing Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning Dynamics
38:42 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children
43:40 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations
46:46 Empowerment and Community Among Women
49:54 Navigating the Challenges of Modern Parenting
52:50 The Complexities of Co-Parenting
55:47 Understanding Under-Functioning Partners
59:05 The Burden of Expectations in Co-Parenting
01:01:55 The Financial Dynamics of Divorce
01:07:51 Learning and Evolving Through Experience
01:09:42 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics
01:09:46 Navigating Legal Aspects of Co-Parenting
Keywords:
The Sparrow Collective, divorce support, women's empowerment, community housing, financial literacy, holistic wellness, nonprofit funding, collaboration, women in crisis, supportive living
Summary
In this conversation, Susan Trippi of the Sparrow Collective discusses the challenges women face during and after divorce, including financial burdens and the need for supportive communities. The Sparrow Collective aims to provide a holistic living environment for women and children impacted by divorce, offering various support services, including legal, financial, and emotional assistance. The discussion also highlights the importance of community involvement and collaboration in creating impactful solutions for women in crisis.takeaways
Summary
In this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when one or more children have ADHD. They explore the challenges faced by parents in maintaining consistent routines and communication, the importance of structure for children with ADHD, and various strategies to support these children effectively. The discussion also highlights the significance of positive reinforcement, the need for clear communication between co-parents, and practical tools to help manage ADHD behaviors. The episode concludes with resources for parents seeking additional support.
Takeaways
Co-parenting can be challenging, especially with ADHD involved.
Routine and structure are crucial for children with ADHD.
Communication between co-parents is essential for the child's well-being.
Using positive reinforcement can motivate children to complete tasks they dislike.
Transitions between homes can be difficult for ADHD kids.
Visual aids and checklists can help children manage their routines.
It's important to model calm behavior for children.
Parents should prioritize the child's needs over personal differences.
Using timers can help children focus on tasks for short periods.
Celebrating small achievements can boost a child's confidence.
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Keywords
co-parenting, ADHD, parenting strategies, family dynamics, peaceful parenting, communication, routines, transitions, positive reinforcement, parenting tools
Ally and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.
Ally and Jill talk holidays!
keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases, the importance of shifting control to the court, and the role of attorneys in empowering clients. They explore the long-term implications of co-parenting, the function of guardian ad litem, and the cost-effectiveness of the conciliation process. The discussion emphasizes the need for a holistic approach in family law, highlighting the significance of finding trained conciliant professionals.takeaways
co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community
Summary
In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy and understanding in financial planning, especially for women who may feel overwhelmed by their circumstances.
Summary
Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance of open communication, patience, and understanding in supporting their children's gender identity. We also address common misconceptions and offer advice for parents who may be struggling to accept their child's gender identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for therapy and professional support for both the child and the parents. Overall, we highlight the importance of affirming and empowering transgender children to live their authentic lives.
Keywords
transgender, parenting, gender identity, early intervention, gender clinic, medical care, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, acceptance, emotional journey, co-parenting, transgender child, open communication, acceptance, therapy, support
Takeaways
Early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics is crucial for transgender children.
Medical professionals play a vital role in guiding parents and children through the transition process.
Parents may experience a range of emotions and challenges, but it's important to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being.
Forgiving oneself for mistakes and being open to learning and growth is essential in supporting a transgender child. Open and honest communication is crucial when co-parenting a transgender child.
Parents should be patient and understanding as their child explores their gender identity.
Therapy and professional support are essential for both the child and the parents.
Acceptance and affirmation are key to helping transgender children thrive.
Parents should educate themselves and seek resources to better understand their child's experience.
We discuss all things co-parenting and back to school in this short espresso shot!
In this epresso shot we discuss schedule changes, vacations, and how to manage summer break while co-parenting!
In this espresso shot Ally and Jill discuss their experiences with sharing clothes, toys, sports equipment between houses. They also discuss things that have worked and not worked so well for them in keeping track of the stuff!
A story shared from one of our listeners reclaiming her voice!
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This very special episode covers an important and serious topic: coercive control, a form of domestic abuse. Our Coffee Date today is with advocates Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT and Hilary Purtell. We will explore what coercive control is, how to recognize it, and what to do if you or someone you love is in a relationship with a coercive controller. Even if you have not experienced coercive control, this is a must-listen to know how to recognize it, either for your future self, or to know what to look for as you support friends and family going through a challenging relationship.
Main Points
Today’s Quote: “The truth is, it takes a village to get through the tough stuff in life. It doesn’t have to be a big village, but we all need people to help hold us up when life, loss, and grief knock us down.” -Michelle Deville
Defining coercive control
What to do and not to do
Navigating court with a coercive controller
Shared Story: Forgiveness and Letting Go
Coffee Date Info
Coffee Date Guest: Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT
Coffee Date Bio: Larissa Crane is a psychotherapist and yoga teacher based in the Boston area who specializes in helping people overcome anxiety, depression, and eating disorders using a trauma-informed approach. Her practice is dedicated to supporting "high conflict" litigants who are navigating the Massachusetts probate and family court. Larissa is highly skilled in conducting GAL (Guardian ad Litem) reports, parenting coordination services, and counseling for those who have experienced coercive control or narcissistic abuse.
Coffee Date Guest: Hilary Purtell
Coffee Date Bio: Hilary Purtell is a professional actor, voice talent and on-camera host, and is co-director of the Jane Does Well Education and Advocacy Committee. Hilary holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology, and writes articles about family law best practices and divorce in Massachusetts.
Coffee Date Links and Resources:
Article on janedoeswell.com:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: https://www.nrcdv.org/
Casa Myrna (Massachusetts): https://casamyrna.org/
Massachusetts Coercive Control Bill Information: malegislature.gov/bills/193/s1097
This Mother shares a letter she wrote to her sons about her choice to get divorced and the heartache and hope that she knows they will share through this experience.
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Ally and Jill invite their Moms on this special Mother’s Day episode. We talk about how they managed our divorces and watching us go through such challenging times as their children. We discussed how they felt, What was their biggest fears were, and how they feel now.
Main Points
Today’s Quote: “As you prepare for all possible outcomes, may you also remember to prepare for positive outcomes, too. May you prepare yourself for good memories, good lessons, and all the little places where sunlight will come shining through.” -MHN
Shared Story: A letter to my sons
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Jill and Ally discuss this common milestone in a co-parenting experience.
In this story our listener shares their experience of stepping back and recognizing their kids growth and happiness after divorce.
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One of the most empowering experiences after a split can be arranging and decorating your living space to make it your own. Our Coffee Date today is with LInda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, a former nurse who turned her passion for working with people into an interior design and Feng Shui business. We will explore how even little things can bring positive energy into your living space as you work to make it your own, whether you stayed in the home you shared with your ex or you’re settling into a new place.
Main Points
Today’s Quote: “Under the anger, under the fear, under the broken-heartedness, there is a radiance that has never been lost, that is the truth of who you are.” Ganaji
Decluttering
Lighting
Using the Ba-Gua
Shared Story: The unexpected best part
Coffee Date Info
Coffee Date Guest: Linda Varone
Coffee Date Bio: Linda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, is an award-winning consultant and professional speaker awarded Boston magazine’s Best of Boston©. Heading her firm, Nurturing Spaces, for over twenty-five years, she consults and lectures nationwide on Interior Design, Interior Psychology, and Feng Shui. Linda is well known for making complex subjects accessible and entertaining. She has presented at the Boston Society of Architects – Women in Design, Harvard, MIT, the International Feng Shui Conference – San Diego, IKEA, and Cisco Systems. She has been quoted in the Boston Globe and Boston magazine. She has appeared on WCVB-TV’s Chronicle. Linda is writing a book on Interior Psychology based on her home consultations and background in psychology.
Coffee Date Links: https://www.lindavarone.com/
Ba-Gua:https://www.lindavarone.com/blog/
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Divorce and Co-parenting can be very lonely. In this espresso shot we talk about what loneliness is..How we have experienced it in our process and some things we have done to combat it.
In this story our listener shares their experience with the breakdown of a relationship struggling with addiction.
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