That's life, and like good 'ol Frank said, I can't deny it.
There I was, minding my own business and BOOM like a storm out of the blue, a hurricane or tornado I wasn't prepared for, I am reminded...girl, you got some baggage!!!
Just when I think I am doing ok, this journey of no contact with toxic family reminds me..this is not easy.
And just when I think I have healed....oh bless my heart.....
Song:
'That's Life" Frank Sinatra
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnlPtaPxXfc
Don't you dare look back. You have come too far. Keep walking.
You guys, I don't even know what to say about this episode except...you may feel dizzy after listening!! I am legit ALL over the place as I talk about my brother, my relationship with him growing up, what lead to me going no contact with him and the fallout of emotions I feel because he is not in my life.
This no contact journey sucks sometimes.
Sending so much love, hugs and healing to those of you who will resonate with this episode.
Song:
I Love You, I'm Sorry
~Gracie Adams
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uxjhN_Donfw
Keep walking folks.
You are not alone.
On this episode we get down to the basics. The down and dirty, cold hard truth reminders about our toxic families.
Things like:
~No, they don't miss us
~No, they have not changed
I rattle off a list of reminders as to why we are on this no contact journey to begin with and I hope that reminds you and empowers you to keep walking.
I would love to hear from YOU! What is a a cold hard truth about your toxic family that would help others to keep walking?
Let's get chatting in the comments!
You are LOVED and you are GOLD!
Thank you for being here. Sorry you are, but know that you fill and heal my soul.
Song:
Gold: Britt Nicole
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p9PjrtcHJPo
Whale, another one bites the dust.
Not gonna lie, I digress a bit about a recent situation cus another bitch reared her ugly head and left my life.
But, the main point of this episode is because it got me thinking. Well shit, this keeps happening...between my family, and bitches disguised as friends, it's easy to think that we are surrounded by 'drama.' Is it ME??
I had some epiphanies and we chat all about it!
Spoiler alert..no, we do not start drama....
Song:
'Bless Your Heart'
~Megan Moroney
Hey girl heyyyy....guess what, just when I think I'm all good and I don't have any other issues lurking around in the shadows..BOOM...issues show up like, bitch, yes you do.
On this episode of the podcast we discuss things like:
~spending to the edge
~making rules for ourselves
~buying something new, but not using it right away
~having a plan b or escape plan
~grocery shopping as if a hurricane was coming
~Jumping back into a relationship after a fallout as if nothing happened
~constant self-criticism and critique
~assuming the worst of people
Oh you don't have any issues? Well then, consider this episode a confidence booster for ya.
Song:
"You Will Be Found"~ Natalie Grant & Corey Asbury
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjipTBGNTYE
You are not alone and you are certainly not the villain for walking away from you toxic family.
Keep walking friend.
Welcome to Season 3!!!!!
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we chat about celebrating our birthday while we are no contact with our toxic family.
Some years I am happy and some years I am fromp...
This year, I am fromp.
But, we are jumping right in and discussing all of the emotions that are associated with this no contact with toxic family journey.
You are not alone friend.
Song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyfYvLeG0tc
Yup.
That's right, my father was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.
Did anyone in the clown circle call me to let me know?
nope.
Am I going to break no contact?
nope.
What am I going to do? Talk about the fuckery with all of you.
Song:
Join me as I chat with Marie Birtel. She is author of the book,
"I Love You When..."
This fictional narrative sheds light on the often
overlooked area of covert narcissism in families. Through
Emma's poignant story, readers are given a glimpse into the
profound effects and insight into this subtle and insidious
force. The story emphasizes that healing from narcissistic
trauma is not only possible but crucial to breaking the cycle
of abuse in future relationships.
"I love you when..." is a story of hope, self-discovery, and
freedom.
To learn more about Marie, visit her website:
Order the book, "I Love You When..." :
Connect with Marie:
On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we are going to talk about six things we are NOT going to embrace this year.
1. Minimize, belittle or downgrade ourselves to make someone feel better.
2. Thinking that loving our family more would have made things different.
3. Saying yes to things we don't want to do.
4. Beating ourselves up for saying no to things we do not want to do.
5. Embracing where we are on this journey and the mood we are in.
6. Not giving people who fuck up and keep on trucking a second chance.
Song: Phil Collins, 'I Don't Care Anymore'
Welcome to the shortest episode ever!
On this episode I take a few minutes to connect with YOU and talk about the peace that being no contact with toxic family during the holiday season can yield.
I also talk about what I did with my peace and ask you..what will you do with your peace? Let's chat in the comment section!
Song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YdTTAaYVPM
Also making a guest appearance is a very needy and whiny Viszla...
This episode of the Character Outs podcast is your friendly reminder to keep walking. Even amongst the FA LA LA and peace and joy. (BAH HUMBUG)
You knew why you walked away from your toxic family. Don't let the sparkle of the Holidays gaslight you and make you doubt why you walked away.
Song: Taylor Swift: it's time to go:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mFCNdWPop-Y
In case no one has told you, it's not you, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
Keep walking.
...there is something wrong with you, something seriously wrong with you....
Has your toxic, abusive parent ever said that to you?
Same.
But guess what, there is nothing wrong with you.
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about my journey with mental health. I feel vulnerable af sharing this with all of you but that is what I am here for with the hope that you feel less alone.
Incase no one has told you, its not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
Keep walking friend.
The Song: Crazy Bitch, Madeline:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LTulvuXrS_E
Join me as I chat with Dr. Sherrie Campbell.
You may think you know Dr. Sherrie and her list of stellar accomplishments, such as her recent TEDx talk (not all parents are good), flourishing therapy practice, groundbreaking podcast (sherapy sessions: cutting ties with toxic family), and the collection of books she has written, (including her most recent, "Adult Survivors of Emotionally Abusive Parents.")
(And to think she is just getting started!)
But just wait until you hear how she describes herself!!!
One of the things that makes Dr. Sherrie so special is that she's just like us, a survivor of a toxic family, and on this no-contact journey with us. Her wisdom and relatability is a beacon of hope for so many.
On this episode you will hear Dr. Sherrie's empowering message, her ability to flip the script on being the scapegoat, and her guidance on what to say when the kiddos ask why Gramma and Grandpa don't come around anymore will leave you feeling inspired to powerfully keep walking on this road of no contact.
Dr. Sherrie is the pioneer for destigmatizing the societal perceptions of cutting ties with toxic family and this beautiful soul right here changed my life.
*Find Dr. Sherrie on Instagram (you will love her Thankful Thursday messages every week):
https://www.instagram.com/dr.sherrie/
*Check out her website:
https://drsherriecampbell.com/
*Listen to her podcast: Sherapy Sessions, Cutting Toxic Family Ties:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sherapy-sessions-cutting-toxic-family-ties/id1591691842
*Grab a copy of her most recent book here:
https://www.amazon.com/Adult-Survivors-Emotionally-Abusive-Parents/dp/1648482635
Incase no one has told you; it's not you, never has been and you don't have to fix it.
Oh, the tales that our toxic family tell. They can swirl around and behind us like an impending storm. And we thought walking away would stop this!!! (aren't we adorable)
Also-let's be real...the tales are NEVER good.
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we dive into how we can navigate this inevitable fallout on this no contact journey.
We discuss:
*Bracing for impact
*Our response
*Remembering the source
*Cultivating our peace
Also-who does this?!?!?!?! Oh yea..ourr families. As if we needed yet another reason to keep walking.
Let's get our heads in the game, remember our worth and keep walking.
Song: Chasing Rainbows: High Kings
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46jAXMq7esQ
Character Outs podcast Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the good ol' apology.
Wait, you mean the kind I have to give?
No.
Ew.
Knock it off.
I am NOT here for that.
Omg, you feel that way about apologies too??
YES! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!
We grew up in a toxic family where an apology was:
~forced
~coerced
~weaponized
When in reality in a healthy and safe relationship an apology is:
~sincere
~genuine
~leads to both parties to being vulnerable
We talk about why we feel that ick associated with giving an apology and how we can get past it.
We got this...
On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast..
The bitch is BACK!
Oh, is it great to be behind the mic again!
On this episode, we talk about the multiverse.
NO, no...not in the Sci-Fi kinda way, but in the way it pertains to us on this no contact with toxic family.
The wonderings of:
*What would my life look like had I not had the childhood that I did.
*What would my life look like if my toxic family member could just be nice and loving (GASP!)
*What if our toxic family member could be present at milestone moments instead of being the absent ass holes that they actually are.
But all that matters is TODAY friend.
Join me in the multiverse, won't you?
Join the fun and snark over on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/
Check out the website:
https://characteroutspodcast.com/
Song:
Show:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6ucGt_Xp14
In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about the haunting of our toxic family members that we have gone no contact with.
Ok, ok..I'm not talking about Ghostbusters shit. I'm talking about when we see, smell or hear something that reminds us of our toxic family.
Let's face it, we went no contact, but they are still a part of our past and our memories.
So...what should we do when they haunt. We will talk all about it.
Join the fun over on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/
Check out the website for the blog and other resources:
https://characteroutspodcast.com/
In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the honor of chatting with this beautiful light in the world, Founder & CEO of Beautiful Disaster Clothing, Christina DuVarney.
Christina DuVarney is the visionary force behind Beautiful Disaster Clothing, a brand that transcends mere fashion to become a symbol of resilience and empowerment. Drawing from her own journey of overcoming personal trials and traumas, Christina has transformed her experiences into the very essence of her brand. Beautiful Disaster Clothing is not just about stylish apparel; it's about wearing strength and confidence as a statement of empowerment.
As the founder and owner, Christina's mission goes beyond designing clothes; it's about encouraging women to move away from pain and towards happiness, to embrace their inner strength, and to find solace in the journey of self-discovery. With each garment she creates, Christina imbues a message of resilience, reminding women that they are capable of rising above any adversity they may face.
In Christina's vision, Beautiful Disaster Clothing isn't just something you wear; it's a wearable reminder of the strength that lies within every woman. It's about having a piece of confidence hanging in your closet, ready to be worn whenever you need a reminder of your own power and resilience. Through her brand, Christina continues to inspire women to embrace their flaws, celebrate their uniqueness, and move confidently towards a brighter, happier future.
ENJOY!!!
Shop the Beautiful Disaster clothing line here:
Christina's Resources:
*Think & Grow Rich Book: https://a.co/d/07sfls4
*Think & Grow Rich Workbook: https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Workbook-Transforming/dp/158542711X
*Three Feet From Gold:
On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the shrinking circle.
Ya know, when you have the bittersweet superpower of seeing:
~manipulation
~passive aggressive behavior
~gas lighting
~crazy making
And....you want to run but you can't because:
~you would be a bitch
~you've been friends with that person forever
~you would be like your toxic family
NO!
On this episode I am on a mission to change the societal perception that having ALLL the friends in the world defines you as a 'good person' and not allowing toxic friends to have access to you makes you a bitch.
I like to consider myself an exclusive club and no, I do not allow a lot of people in. But I am tired of making apologies for my boundaries and standards and keeping toxic people in my life because it's the right and nice thing to do.
We have let go of our toxic families and we are growing and evolving. Not everyone will be able to keep up and...that's OK!
https://characteroutspodcast.com/
Join the fun over on the 'Gram:
On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about that good ol' phrase I ask myself over and over...
Am I the problem?
Sigh....
That phrase used to haunt me.
Yes, it USED to haunt me.
Not that I feel I have achieved perfection (hell nah.)
I have just refused to comply to the balls of toxicity thrown at me anymore.
Things like...
'Oh, your family doesn't talk to you? YOU must be the problem.'
or
'Oh, your entire family has a problem with you? You must be the common denominator.'
We talk about how to NOT allow these things to bother us anymore cus let's be honest, we are critical enough on ourselves for the entire population, am I right?
Visit the website for the blog and resources:
https://characteroutspodcast.com/
Join the fun over on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/
In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.
