Ready to move beyond “checking the boxes” in recovery? In this powerful conversation, Luke Gordon and Isy Williams, coaches with Choose Recovery Services, explore the turning point when betrayal trauma recovery and sexual addiction recovery shift from something you do to something you live.
Through personal stories and hard-won wisdom, they share how emotional healing, integrity, and authentic connection create lasting transformation—and why embracing discomfort is the key to real change.
What You'll Learn:
The difference between halfway commitment and full immersion in recovery
Why ownership matters more than compliance or perfectionism
How embracing discomfort leads to authentic transformation
Learn more about Isy and book a complimentary session here.
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
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Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Ever notice how the harder you try to get everything right, the more isolated and empty you feel? This week Luke unpacks perfectionism not as a personality flaw, but as a survival strategy—a shield we use to avoid shame and rejection.
Drawing on Brené Brown's work and his own recovery journey, he explores why we chase an impossible standard and what it costs us in connection, authenticity, and peace.
What You'll Learn:
Why perfectionism is fear-based, not excellence-driven
How shame and control fuel the need to be "perfect"
Practical questions to shift from performance to presence
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
What if claiming you’ve shared everything with your partner is actually sabotaging your recovery? In this eye-opening episode, Luke explains why the statement “I’ve told you everything is so damaging.
He reveals how recovery works in layers, why humility trumps certainty, and how acknowledging what you don’t know yet actually builds more trust than claiming you know it all.
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
What you’ll learn:
Why claiming full awareness breeds stagnation and relapse in recovery
How denial creates constructed realities that feel safe but aren’t fully true
How believing you’ve “made it” shuts down growth
Chapters
01:10 The Problem of “I’ve Told You Everything”
02:07 Constructed Realities and Denial
04:33 Addictive Systems and Belief Structures
07:40 The Illusion of Full Awareness
13:43 Managing Outcomes vs. Living in Truth
15:10 Practical Language for True Awareness
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Are you beating yourself up in the name of accountability and in the process accidentally blocking the very change you’re after? This week Luke challenges the myth that shame leads to transformation, sharing a powerful D-Day story where his self-loathing actually prevented him from hearing his partner’s pain.
He breaks down why self-compassion isn’t about escaping accountability; it’s what makes genuine accountability possible.
Listen to learn:
Why shame blocks empathy and keeps you stuck
How self-compassion and accountability can exist in the same breath
What self-compassion actually looks like in recovery (and it’s not letting yourself off the hook!)
Chapters
00:15 Luke’s Personal Story of Shame
01:25 Understanding Self-Compassion
03:19 Debunking Myths About Self-Compassion
08:59 Real-Life Examples of Self-Compassion
LAST CHANCE TO REGISTER!
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Apply for scholarships here.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Why is it so hard for a betrayed partner to see the positive changes you’ve made? This week Luke is again joined by Alana Gordon (LMFT, co-owner and founder of Choose Recovery Services, and president of APSATS) and together they delve into the complexities of betrayal trauma healing.
Listen in as Luke gives a powerful analogy of hiking with a mountain lion to explain the brain’s constant search for emotional safety.
Tune in to learn:
The necessity of consistent positive actions
The importance of letting go of instant validation
How to truly rebuild trust over time
Chapters
01:17 Understanding Betrayal Trauma
01:55 The Mountain Lion Analogy
04:11 Emotional Safety and Trust
08:57 Advice for Individuals Seeking Recovery
Register Now!
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Apply for scholarships here.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Are you struggling to know what real recovery and change looks like? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, co-owner and founder of Choose, and president of APSATS) is back to continue the discussion about red flags and green flags when it comes to recovery. Listen in to hear about boundaries, lifestyle shifts, and empathy.
Learn to identify toxic patterns, embrace healthy changes, and cultivate deep empathy for yourself and others as you heal.
Tune in to learn:
Why real recovery requires changing your environment and relationships, not just your behavior
How to rid yourself of the “what about me” mentality
The difference between performative and genuine empathy
Chapters
01:21 Boundaries and Lifestyle Shifts
03:48 Rationalizing Risky Environments
11:53 External Promises vs. Internal Guardrails
13:19 Commitment to Safety Over Old Patterns
16:47 Healthy Rhythms and Self-Care
20:45 Boundaries and Values
28:37 Empathy and Attunement
33:45 Heartfelt Empathy
Register Now!
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Are you truly in recovery, or are you just performing? This week Luke welcomes Alana Gordon to the podcast (LMFT, co-owner and founder of Choose, and president of APSATS). Together they explore the difference between surface-level recovery and authentic transformation in this no-holds-barred conversation.
They reveal the green flags and red flags that separate real healing from going through the motions—and why the work you resist most might be exactly what you need.
Listen to learn:
The difference between "being in recovery" vs. "working recovery"
Red flags like selective effort and performing only under pressure
Green flag behaviors that show authentic recovery progress
Chapters
01:05 Introducing Alana
04:53 Honesty in Recovery
15:38 Sobriety and Accountability
18:53 Selective Effort
24:46 Performing Under Pressure
30:53 The Power of Personal Power
Register Now!
Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT.
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Do you feel like since the betrayal, your relationship with your partner is like a house you are carefully trying to rebuild and your partner often comes in with a sledgehammer to “test the walls”?
This week Luke explores why this might happen and what that means for healing. This episode may completely shift how you view conflict in your relationships.
Listen to learn:
The House Analogy - why your partner may appear to be trying to destroy what you are building
Your Conflict Blueprint - how your family of origin shaped your relationship with conflict
Reframing Conflict - why conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not something to avoid
Chapters
01:35 The House Analogy
03:54 The Sledgehammer
08:51 Understanding Conflict and Its Impact
09:23 Conflict Isn’t the Enemy
11:41 Family of Origin
Register Now!
Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT.
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
When you’re in recovery but nothing seems to be helping your relationship, it can feel like you’re powerless to create real change. This week Luke welcomes Isy Williams (fellow Choose Recovery Services coach) and together they reveal what betrayed partners are actually looking for (and it’s not perfection!).
Listen to learn:
The difference between consistency and perfection
How to shift from external motivation to values-based recovery
Four specific signs betrayed partners need to see to rebuild trust
Chapters
01:02 Introducing Isy Wiliams
04:49 Deconstructing Lies in Recovery
17:14 The Importance of Consistency
22:55 Perfection vs. Consistency
25:38 Grace and Patience
31:51 Importance of Self-Driven Recovery
Register Now!
Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT.
Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women October 14-17, 2025, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air!
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Do you ever wonder why you keep repeating the same destructive patterns despite wanting to change? This week Luke tackles a huge question in recovery: Do we actually have free will, or is everything predetermined by our past trauma and brain chemistry? This isn't just philosophical debate—it's about understanding what actually needs to be in place for real transformation to happen.
What You'll Learn:
The difference between free will and determinism, and why most people get stuck in the extremes
The 5 essential requirements that must be present for true choice to even be possible
How to reframe recovery from "just try harder" to creating the right conditions for sustainable change
Chapters
01:02 Free Will vs Determinism
04:38 Exploring the Extremes and Middle Ground
07:26 Requirements for Free Will
13:45 Questions to Ponder
Register Now!
Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all women seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
You know the recovery scripts by heart, but when your partner is triggered, it still feels performative and hollow. Sound familiar?
In this powerful episode, Luke welcomes Hali Roderick (fellow Choose To Be coach) and Tim, a participant from the recent Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive. Tim shares how somatic work and community vulnerability can crack open the shells we've built around our hearts, moving us from performative recovery to authentic healing.
What You'll Learn:
Why recovery scripts fall short and how to embody real empathy
How body-based healing breaks through emotional barriers
Why vulnerability in community accelerates healing
Chapters
01:06 Meet Hali and Tim
03:58 The Purpose of the Help Her Heal Intensive
09:36 Somatic Work: The Key to Healing
16:15 The Value of Community
20:41 The Nervous System’s Response to Trauma
24:20 Being Ready For Change
26:39 Family of Origin Analogy
Register Now!
Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
You know the recovery scripts by heart, but when your partner is triggered, it still feels performative and hollow. Sound familiar?
In this powerful episode, Luke welcomes Hali Roderick (fellow Choose To Be coach) and Tim, a participant from the recent Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive. Tim shares how somatic work and community vulnerability can crack open the shells we've built around our hearts, moving us from performative recovery to authentic healing.
What You'll Learn:
Why recovery scripts fall short and how to embody real empathy
How body-based healing breaks through emotional barriers
Why vulnerability in community accelerates healing
Chapters
01:06 Meet Hali and Tim
03:58 The Purpose of the Help Her Heal Intensive
09:36 Somatic Work: The Key to Healing
16:15 The Value of Community
20:41 The Nervous System’s Response to Trauma
24:20 Being Ready For Change
26:39 Family of Origin Analogy
Register Now!
Our next men’s intensive is coming up! Unmasked: Path to Authentic Masculinity is a four-day in-person experience designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on September 16th-19th. Learn more and register HERE.
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
Worthy By Design Women’s Retreat - This four-day retreat is for women ready to reconnect with their authentic selves and step into their unique design. Experience Human Design exploration, somatic healing, breathwork, sound baths, and sisterhood in the stunning Utah mountains. Perfect for any and all woman seeking renewal, clarity, and joy. Retreat is September 14th-17th in Mapleton, UT.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Do you find yourself thinking that being tough on yourself is the key to growth? It’s not! This week Luke dismantles seven common myths about self-compassion and reveals how being kinder to yourself can fuel real change, recovery, and connection.
Listen to discover:
Why self-compassion strengthens accountability
How self-compassion is a strength, not a weakness
How self-compassion in moments of failure can spur growth
Chapters:
02:07 Understanding Self-Compassion
03:29 Myth: Self-Compassion Means Avoiding Responsibility
03:59 Myth: Self-Compassion is Selfish
06:30 Myth: Self-Compassion Lowers Standards
07:13 Myth: You Have to Earn Self-Compassion
08:23 Myth: Self-Compassion is Fake Positivity
09:37 Myth: Self-Compassion Only Works for Good People
10:27 Myth: Self-Compassion Means Avoiding Hard Emotions
Register Now!
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
How quickly can someone go from noticing to fantasizing? This week Luke answers a listener’s question about how the brain processes attraction and the resulting sexual response.
Get answers to these three questions:
How quickly can someone go from noticing to fantasizing?
Where does the three-second rule fit into the brain sexual response cycle?
Is it okay to acknowledge that someone is attractive?
Listen to Episode 46 for background on the neuroscience behind the body’s sexual response.
Chapters
01:29 Recap of Episode 46
03:24 Question 1
05:12 Question 2
08:29 Question 3
Register Now!
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
How do you make decisions when you’re not sure you can trust your emotions? This week Luke welcomes Sy Bee back to resume their discussion from last week. They continue exploring the differences between emotionally-based and values-based decisions.
Tune in to hear:
Sy’s personal experiences of triumphs and failures
What is meant by “shadow emotions”
The dangers of letting your inner child drive your decisions
Chapters
01:26 Emotionally Based Decisions
04:37 Understanding Values
08:17 Identifying Personal Values
15:16 Exploring the Root of Behaviors
20:34 Shadow Expressions
27:16 Integrity and Trust in Recovery
32:50 Discovering Core Values
Register Now!
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Ever wonder why your brain tells you to quit long before you actually need to? In this powerful episode, Luke and fellow Choose Recovery Services coach Sy Bee discuss how doing hard things can transform your recovery and help you discover your authentic self.
You'll learn why physical challenges aren't just about fitness, but about building unshakeable confidence that no one can take away from you.
Listen to learn:
How physical challenges rewire your brain
The difference between emotion-driven decisions and values-based choices in recovery
How pushing your physical limits reveals what you’re truly capable of achieving
Chapters
01:25 Introducing Sy
05:16 Personal Stories of Overcoming Challenges
07:36 The Role of Exercise in Recovery
13:45 Client Success Story
17:16 Building a Relationship With Self
29:58 Principled vs. Emotional Decisions
. Register Now!
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
What’s the difference between noticing and objectifying? This week Luke welcomes guest Stephen Thomas (fellow coach at Choose Recovery Services). Their conversation will challenge your perspective on what healthy sexuality looks like and reveal the hidden costs of reducing people to their physical appearance.
Learn:
The crucial difference between noticing attractiveness and objectifying someone
How objectification hurts both strangers and your own partner (even when they're not around)
Why becoming a "protector" instead of a "consumer" leads to deeper intimacy and authentic connection
Chapters
01:03 Meet Stephen Thomas
03:27 Defining Objectification
16:58 Personal Recovery Journey
18:44 Understanding Intimacy Beyond Sex
21:59 Objectification in Society
Register Now!
Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - LAST CHANCE TO REGISTER! This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Are you confused about whether your partner can help you in your healing journey or if you need to do it alone? This powerful episode breaks down the myth that it's an either/or situation.
This week Luke shares an episode he did with Alana Gordon on the Choose To Be podcast. Together they dive deep into the three essential ways partners can support healing—emotional availability, accountability, and co-regulation—while exploring why ultimate responsibility for healing must remain with you.
Register Now!
Revive and Thrive Women’s Intensive - Join us for a transformative four-day somatic healing intensive for women carrying trauma and tension in their bodies. Experience gentle release through expert-guided breathwork, brainspotting, energy healing, and nature immersion as you reclaim your body. Intensive is Aug 26-29 in Spanish Fork, Utah.
Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.
We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans are available for all of our intensives. Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
Have you followed all the recommended steps in your recovery yet still feel stuck? This week Alana Gordon (LMFT, betrayal trauma coach, and Director at Choose Recovery Services) joins Luke, and together they dive into the importance of somatic healing.
Discover how addressing the trauma stored in your body can transform everything about your recovery journey.
Chapters
01:10 Welcoming Alana Gordon
03:11 Luke’s Personal Story
07:33 The Importance of Somatic Work
15:13 The Role of Other Modalities
19:46 The Three Brains
23:26 Call to Action
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
Register Now!
Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.
Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat aims to provide a holistic and nurturing environment for women to heal through somatic body work. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 26-29, 2025 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.
Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
How does entitlement fuel betrayal in relationships? This week Luke welcomes therapist Hope Ray (LPC, CSAT, CHFP, CCPS) to explore how entitlement impacts relationships and fidelity.
They discuss the D.I.R.E. model and how overcoming old programming is key to rebuilding trust and authenticity in partnerships.
Learn more about Hope at https://www.hoperay.com/
Chapters
01:23 Introducing Hope Ray
03:17 The D.I.R.E. Model
09:23 Exploring Entitlement
19:45 Family of Origin
25:23 Rebuilding Trust and Authenticity
Watch the episode on YouTube HERE
Register Now!
Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us July 8th-11th in Spanish Fork, UT. NEW - Couple’s Add-On Experience - invite your partner to join you for an optional fifth day together in a safe, supportive environment to practice what has been learned.
Scholarships and payment plans are available for our intensives! Fill out an application to learn more and see if you qualify.
Connect With Us:
Learn more about Luke here.
Schedule a complimentary consultation here.
Don’t miss an episode! Join our email list and get notified when new episodes air! Sign up here.
Follow us on Instagram @choose_recovery_services
Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:
Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.
Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:
Intensives - Accelerate your healing journey with one of our intensives, available year-round for individuals, couples, and professionals. Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.
Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal.
Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.
Healing Hearts - This is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. It emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Available as a support group or a self-paced course.
Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
Betrayal Trauma Recovery Book Study Group - This group provides a safe space for women to discuss books about betrayal trauma, ask questions, and find community support.
Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.
Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com
