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Were You Raised By Wolves?
Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
325 episodes
1 week ago

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Were You Raised By Wolves?
Selling Soap to Wedding Guests, Eating Wine Corks, Tipping Hospital Valets, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about selling soap to wedding guests, eating wine corks, tipping hospital valets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:Is it tacky to sell soap at your wedding?What is the etiquette for eating your wine cork?When should you give flowers to a cast member at a Broadway show? Should you tip the valet when parking at hospitals?If a public bathroom door was propped open, is it OK to close it? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWHow to make goat milk soap YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 285 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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27 minutes 26 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Spotting Americans Abroad, Declining to Go Horseback Riding, Singing on Airplanes, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spotting Americans abroad, declining to go horseback riding, singing on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTSAMUSE-BOUCHE: The American LeanA QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Turning around with subtletyQUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to assume someone's pregnant because of their halloween costume? How do we decline to take people horseback riding? VENT OR REPENT: Rude at the airport coffee shop, Singing "Happy Birthday" on airplanesCORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the land, Thanks to a flight attendant THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWBlackening candle wicks YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 284 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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43 minutes 26 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Decoding "Mountain Formal," Pacifying Picky Houseguests, Sharing Sushi Platters, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about decoding what "Mountain Formal" means on a wedding invitation, pacifying picky houseguests, sharing sushi platters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:Will wedding guests be confused by a “Mountain Formal” dress code?What should you do if someone wishes you a happy birthday on the wrong day?How does one respond to houseguests who complain about the brand new mattress you bought specifically for their visit?Is there an established etiquette for sharing sushi?What’s the right thing to do when strangers join your table at a coffee shop? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOWPuck's final monologue from "A Midsummer Night's Dream" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 283 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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26 minutes 55 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Second Helpings: Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle enjoying a fika in Sweden, staying at bed and breakfasts, telling guests what not to bring to your party, and much more.
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38 minutes 15 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Second Helpings: Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about picking the correct utensil for mac and cheese, spelling like an Australian, lingering in stores after they're closed, and much more.
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1 month ago
28 minutes 11 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Wiping Fingers With a Yubifuki, Dining at Michelin-Starred Restaurants, Calling Strangers “Pal,” and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using a yubifuki in sushi restaurants, dining at Michelin-starred restaurants, calling strangers "pal," and much more.
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35 minutes

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Hosting Surprise Houseguests, Correcting Misspelled Signs, Sending Late Sympathy Cards, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hosting surprise houseguests, correcting misspelled signs, sending late sympathy cards, and much more.
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1 month ago
27 minutes 29 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Discovering Bone Dishes, Enduring Waiting Rooms, Texting Wedding Thank-Yous, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bone dishes, enduring waiting rooms, texting wedding thank-yous, and much more.
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1 month ago
47 minutes 4 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Dodging In-Law Requests, Melting Candy Bars in Diapers, Hiding Coffee Truths, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dodging requests from mothers-in-law, playing unfortunate baby shower games, neglecting to disclose when you're serving half-caf coffee, and much more
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2 months ago
28 minutes 13 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Using Napkins in Italy, Changing Passwords on Friends, Handing Strangers Your Phone, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using paper napkins in Italy, changing streaming service passwords on friends, hanging strangers your phone, and much more.
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2 months ago
41 minutes 52 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Anniversary Bonus: Holding Teacups Properly, Escaping Boring People, Clapping for Plane Landings, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! It's our six year anniversary and we found a never-before-heard episode deep in the archives just for you. In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the right way to hold teacups, escaping boring people at parties, clapping when airplanes land, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTSAMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding teacups properlyA QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to escape boring people at partiesQUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to clap when an airplane lands?YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT Click Here See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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2 months ago
13 minutes 30 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Overreacting to Messy Houseguests, Skipping a Friend’s Wedding, Wiping Down Sticky Trucks, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about overreacting to messy houseguests, skipping a close friend's wedding, wiping down sticky trucks, much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who asked me to “make adjustments” to a piece of art I made for them? Are we overreacting to messy houseguests? What should we do about a close friend who’s skipping our wedding? How should I deal with a colleague who doesn’t wipe down our shared truck? What should I do about a thank you note I received for a gift I did not give? Aftermath: Abandoning dinner guests THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode with question about abandoning dinner guests in your kitchen YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 277 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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29 minutes 27 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Meeting Amy Vanderbilt, Acknowledging Mysterious Gifts, Retrieving Lost Phones, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle getting to know Amy Vanderbilt, acknowledging mysterious gifts, retrieving lost phones, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Amy Vanderbilt A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The power dynamics of scheduling links QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I received a gift, but I don't know what it is...how should I acknowledge it? What should I do when everyone assumes I'll always be the driver? VENT OR REPENT: Retrieving lost phones, Wrist flicks on the street CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the lock box, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Beginnings" with Amy Vanderbilt ⁠⁠New York Times: Amy Vanderbilt obituary Photo of mystery gift YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 276 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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3 months ago
41 minutes 21 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Rescuing Lost Chips, Taking Over Parties, Correcting People's Pronunciation, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescuing lost chips, taking over parties, correcting people's pronunciation, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should you do if you break a chip in a salsa bowl? What should I do about a guest who tried to change the location of my party? Is it OK to inquire about an acquaintance's divorce? What should I have done when my friend corrected my pronunciation in front of a waiter? Should I have left a buffer seat at a Japanese steakhouse counter? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠⁠⁠Diagram of Japanese counter restaurant seating YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 275 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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3 months ago
23 minutes 54 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Saving Seats in Singapore, Avoiding Unnecessary Meetings, Bringing Your Own Sodas, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving seats in Singapore, avoiding unnecessary meetings, bringing your own sodas to parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Chope-ing in Singapore A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Does this need to be a meeting? QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about friends who bring their own fountain sodas to my parties? Should we let our house guests use our master bedroom? VENT OR REPENT: Bad audience members, Too much glassware CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to old friends, A nice message THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠The Newton Food Center scene from "Crazy Rich Asians" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 274 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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3 months ago
40 minutes 11 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Pouring Water Like Wine, Breaking Up Before Weddings, Tossing Hair on Floors, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pour water like wine, breaking up before weddings, tossing hair on flooors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Why was water poured like wine at a recent restaurant visit? When entering a room where others are already gathered, whose responsibility is it to do the initial greeting? What do we do about a couple invited to our wedding who recently broke up? How do I invite just my friend over for dinner and not any of the friends she’s traveling with? Is it normal to toss hair strands on the floor when visiting a friend’s house? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠⁠Slate: "How One Librarian Tried to Squash Goodnight Moon" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 273 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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3 months ago
37 minutes 40 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Inviting Thirteen Guests, Attending Pool Parties, Hogging Laundry Machines, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle inviting thirteen guests to dinner, attending pool parties, hogging laundry machines in apartment buildings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Thirteen dinner guests A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pool parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to use both of my apartment building's laundry machines at the same time? When a house guest, what is the proper etiquette for when to wake up and join one's hosts in the morning? VENT OR REPENT: Releasing doves, Couches at "The Clock" CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the dog rescue, Thanks for the cookies THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Kaspar at the Savoy Hotel "The Clock" by Christian Marclay YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 272 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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3 months ago
39 minutes 20 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Second Helpings: Demanding Birthday Cake, Putting Time Limits on Meals, Getting Nosy at the Pharmacy, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about demanding birthday cake, putting time limits on meals, getting nosy at the pharmacy, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask for birthday cake before the guest of honor blows out the candles? Is it OK to be salty for not receiving any thank you for helping at my friend's wedding? What is the time limit for someone to finish their meal? How do I get people to not send an RSVP to my BBQ invitation? Bonkers: Nosy at the pharmacy THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠New York Times: "On Language: Have Your Cake and Eat It Too"⁠ YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠ ⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠ ⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Visit our official website⁠ ⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠ ⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ & ⁠Leah Bonnema⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ Theme Music: ⁠Rob Paravonian⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠Click here for details⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠Episode 191 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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4 months ago
27 minutes 54 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Second Helpings: Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What to say in a French elevator A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: What to bring to a dinner party QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond when someone says, "must be nice"? In a walk-up building, can you buzz people in or do you have to personally greet them at the building's front door? VENT OR REPENT: A not-important email, TV Spoilers CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Supporting others, Bagging groceries at the supermarket THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠French elevator etiquette on YouTube⁠ ⁠Belle says "Bonjour" in "Beauty and the Beast"⁠ ⁠Andrew Wyeth's "Christina's World"⁠ ⁠"Out of this World" Episode 1⁠ ⁠MC Escher's Relativity⁠ YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠ ⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠ ⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠ ⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠, ⁠Facebook⁠, and ⁠Twitter⁠ ⁠Visit our official website⁠ ⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠ ⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ & ⁠Leah Bonnema⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠Nick Leighton⁠ Theme Music: ⁠Rob Paravonian⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠Episode 72 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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4 months ago
36 minutes 2 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?
Abandoning Dinner Guests, Running Into Former Students, Singing Happy Birthday, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about abandoning dinner guests, running into former students, singing happy birthday, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How would you react if a friend invites you to stay for dinner, but then has you eat in the kitchen while she goes to the dining room to eat with her family separately? Should I tell my friend that I won’t be attending a Zoom exercise class anymore because of an awkward email exchange with the instructor? I’m a middle school teacher…what should I do when I run into former students in public? How do we decline food from our overly generous neighbor? What do you do when someone is singing "Happy Birthday" to you? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW ⁠#SwedenGate YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... ⁠⁠⁠⁠Support our show through Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Call, text, or email us your questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit our official website⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Sign up for our newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Buy some fabulous official merchandise⁠⁠⁠⁠ CREDITS Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠ Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠ Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠ ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here for details⁠⁠⁠⁠ TRANSCRIPT ⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 271 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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4 months ago
31 minutes 11 seconds

Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)