In this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt shared an account of a recent conflict that left them feeling disconnected, revealing how they worked to hit the "repair button" in their relationship. From miscommunications about schedules to the weight of parenting and caregiving stressors, they unpack how their Enneagram personality types—Kendra as a Six and Dr. Ryan as a Three—fuel their reactions and challenge their recovery. With guidance from their therapist, Steven, they explore practical tools to rebuild connection, emphasizing the power of proactive communication and mutual support.
Kendra and Dr. Ryan dive into the invisible labor of caregiving, the pitfalls of unspoken expectations, and the importance of weekly check-ins to stay aligned. With humor and vulnerability, they offer strategies like physical touch to de-escalate tension and the courage to ask for help, reminding listeners that every marriage faces rough patches. This episode is a must-listen for couples seeking to grow together by mastering the art of repair.
Key Takeaways:
Personality Awareness: Kendra’s Six (critical mode) and Ryan’s Three (achiever mode) shape conflict; Enneagram insights improve communication.
Weekly Check-Ins: Dedicated personal and financial meetings prevent resentment and align priorities.
Physical Reset: A hug or hand on the heart can quickly calm tension and foster reconnection.
Initiate Support: Partners should proactively ask, “How can I help?” to ease invisible labor.
Repair Toolbox: Therapy and communication strategies are essential for faster conflict recovery.
“You either choose to connect and make that happen, or you choose to disconnect.” – Kendra Hewitt
Learn more about Kendra Hewitt by visiting the following links:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kendra.hewitt/
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Dr. Ryan Hewitt Website: https://www.drryanhewitt.com/