Today, John and Shaun get real about control, creative burnout, and what it means to walk away - maybe just for now. From family patterns to personality frameworks, they explore the subtle ways we try to mold the people closest to us, and how that effort can quietly extinguish our own inner spark.
They reflect on how responsibility, relationships, and the pace of adult life can dim our fire - and how human design might offer clues to getting it back. Shaun shares what it means to live life as a Generator, while John questions his Manifestor impulses and tendency to burn out fast.
Also on the table: tattoos, tenderness, and a lot of laughter - plus a quiet, honest wondering: is this the end of the podcast… or just a pause?
It’s grounded, intimate, and full of the kind of clarity that only comes when you stop trying to make something happen - and just let it be.
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Karen Scholle – Integrative Wellness Coach and Human Design guide. Karen offers a unique approach by integrating Human Design with nervous system regulation, helping individuals align with their true selves. Learn more about her work at karenscholle.com
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Today, John and Shaun get real about trust, control, and what it means to shape a life that doesn’t always follow the plan. From confessions about the past to reflections on what we can and can’t control - careers, relationships, even timing - they navigate what it means to let go and still show up.
Shaun opens up about missing his father, while John shares what it’s like to not miss his. Compliments make things awkward, cheaters raise big questions, and somewhere in the middle, there's a gentle acknowledgment that we’re all just figuring it out.
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Today, John and Shaun get real about attraction, ambiguity, and the old wounds that shape how we love. From body talk and gym-floor preferences to the deeper imprints left by early heartbreak, they explore what drives desire - and what quietly drives us away.
They reflect on confusing signals, self-worth, and how our inner kids still shape our adult relationships - often in ways we don’t notice until it’s too late. It’s funny, honest, and filled with the kind of conversations men don’t usually have out loud.
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Today, John and Shaun get real about celibacy, the unexpected wisdom of edging and what it means to hold space for change. As they dive into how we show up for friends, and navigate endings with grace (or not), they explore what it means to sit with discomfort and desire.
Also on the table: sex in senior living homes, prostate surprises, and the enduring mystery of midnight erections.
And then comes the twist: a conversation that starts with podcast logistics quickly turns into something deeper—a surprising reveal that could shift the future of the show. It’s heartfelt, awkward, and unmistakably human.
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Today, John and Shaun get real about what it means to let go - with grace, awkwardness, and a few unexpected laughs. As the podcast edges toward its final episodes, they reflect on the shifting dynamics of friendship, the tension between presence and performance, and the quiet courage it takes to speak the truth out loud.
From lighthearted debates about minivans and shower preferences to deeper moments of emotional honesty, this conversation holds space for both the silly and the sincere - and leaves room for what comes next.
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Today, John and Shaun get real about psychedelic revelations, aging skin, and why they’re rethinking what makes their podcast worth doing. From John’s guided MDMA session and a “my mom never hugged me” breakthrough, to Shaun’s retinol skincare journey and anti-aging the natural way, this episode rides the line between hilarity and healing.
They dive into the tension of overcommitting, how time and money shape creative work, and whether Burning Man is really a sex fest (spoiler: not exactly, but there is a Foamy Homies shower rave). Also on the table: the wisdom of the cock, erectile dysfunction in your 50s, and how your penis might actually be trying to tell you something.
It’s introspective, a little chaotic, and full of naked honesty—both literally and emotionally. Plus: Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup debates, perimenopause shoutouts, and Shaun’s upcoming Love Camp at Kripalu.
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Frownies - The Original Wrinkle Patch
Dr. Bronner's: The Original All-One Magic Soap and More!
Shaun’s Love Camp : The Power of Connection and Play in Relationships
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Today, John and Shaun open up about emotional honesty, the fear of being too much, and the art of letting others take care of you. From cock ring experiments and therapist breakthroughs to growing up without unconditional love, they explore the tangled roots of worthiness and connection. Also: the Love Drive podcast is making a comeback, and the house cleaner found the cock rings.
They dive into what it means to feel safe in romantic vulnerability, Shaun’s fear of scaring people away with his sadness, and how early family dynamics shape our adult intimacy patterns. Shaun gets real about doubting his long-term relationship potential and shares his top five non-negotiables for a lasting partnership—including space to be silly, emotional resilience, and yes, vanilla sex.
Dr. MC McDonald joins the conversation with reflections on The Joy Reset, her new book about why joy isn't a luxury - it's a vital part of healing. They talk about survivor's guilt, the duty of joy, and how to support friends in messy relationships without playing savior. There’s also a candid take on how porn misleads us, why advocating for your desires matters, and what happens when your therapist tells you,"there’s a little me inside of you." It's tender, funny, and full of unexpected wisdom.
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Today, John and Shaun get real about singlehood, morning moods, and what it means to wake up feeling alone. From retirement fund fears and post-fire perspective shifts to questioning whether AI can truly touch hearts, they explore how life—and money—quietly reshapes us. Also on the table: LA as the land of opportunity and the timeless wisdom of Winnie the Pooh.
They dive into why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, the love we grew up with, and what it means to truly be seen. Shaun opens up about feeling like the one who always reaches out, while John reflects on letting go of career attachments. It’s intimate, a little raw, and full of moments that stay with you long after the episode ends.
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Today, John and Shaun ride the roller coaster of texting anxiety, threesomes, slippery self-care hacks, and the occasional social media meltdown. They break down why a simple “Good morning” text can feel like a high-stakes game and the many unexpected uses of coconut and olive oils.
Special guest, Lydia from Face Yoga by Lydia, joins to prove that, yes, your face needs a workout too. Expect expert guidance from Lydia and some endearingly awkward attempts from John and Shaun as they stretch and sculpt their way to eternal youth.
The duo also reflects on the emotional toll of online backlash and how it can unexpectedly get under your skin. And finally, they unpack the "Blowing Brian" story—plus a few very personal confessions along the way.
A little humor, a little wisdom, and a lot of things you can’t un-hear. Buckle up.
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Face Yoga with Lydia → faceyogawithlydia.com
Kripalu Love Camp → kripalu.org/presenters-programs/love-camp
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Today, John and Shaun dive into the orgasm gap—why so many women aren’t reaching the finish line in the bedroom. They break down the importance of communication in sex, myths around male performance, and why “homie, your dick’s not enough.”
They’re joined by guest, Sabrina Zohar, who shares her insights on modern dating, picky partners, and how unrealistic checklists keep people single. Plus, is blue balls a real thing? Should every guy read She Comes First? And why sometimes, you just need to tap out.
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Today, John and Shaun talk about the struggles of aging, navigating dietary changes, and the unexpected joys of pooping on command. They also discuss the concept of "optimistic nihilism" and the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships.
They share thoughts on speed dating, social media jealousy, and whether liking photos online is harmless or a sign of "leaky energy." Plus, Shaun opens up about his ski trip, his new “ski wife,” and the complications of modern relationships.
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Today, John and Shaun talk about hair insecurities, moving to Costa Rica, and the challenge of making big life changes. They also discuss dating in Los Angeles, social anxiety, and the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone.
As they look ahead, John and Shaun brainstorm ways to expand the podcast, from guest appearances on other shows to adding expert guests of their own. Shaun shares insights from a podcast agent he met at a recent party, and they reflect on how networking (even when you don’t feel like it) can open unexpected doors.
Plus, they answer a listener's question about struggling with loneliness after divorce and offer advice on rebuilding a fulfilling life.
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Today, John and Shaun talk about internal misogyny, dating older women, how they lost their virginity, and starting over. They also answer two listeners’ questions: how do you know when you’re ready to have kids, and how do you learn to trust yourself and your intuition?
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Today, John and Shaun talk about different styles of communication, the American dream, the meaning behind tattoos, and relocating outside of Los Angeles. They also answer two listeners’ questions: what was the skateboarding life like for you guys, and what’s the best way to disclose to someone that I have herpes?
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Today, Shaun and John talk about their recent Valentine’s Day retreat, past addictive behaviors, Shaun’s new sex toy, and the benefits of using cock rings in the bedroom. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: how can you help your partner without feeling like you’re mothering them?
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Today, Shaun and John talk about break ups, their Valentine’s Day retreat, making platonic friends, and celebrity drama. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: why don’t men make more noise in the bedroom?
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Today, Shaun and John talk about rebuilding after loss, their struggles getting older, the pressure to be productive, and comparing yourself to others on social media. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can men approach women without being “creepy,” and how do you know when you should leave a toxic relationship?
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Today, Shaun and John talk about their relationship with sweets, new love experiences, and making friends in Los Angeles. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how do I make friends and meet new people when I struggle with social anxiety, and can people stop using delivery apps and go out instead since it’s so hard to meet people in person nowadays?
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Today, Shaun and John talk about their fears regarding the aftermath of the LA fires, thirty day diet challenges, Shaun’s successful first date, and digital detoxes. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can I navigate feeling guilty for not wanting to spend time with my friend’s kids, and what does it mean when someone says they need to “cool off” from the relationship?
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As some of you might know, John and his family lost their home in the LA fires. John has started a GoFundMe to support friends and families in Altadena and help with basic needs such as shelter, food, and clothing. If you called to donate, please do so HERE
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Today, Shaun and John talk about the LA fires, their Valentine’s Day retreat, and how to help those who were affected by this tragedy. They also listen to a voicemail from one of their followers who lost their home in the fires. You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001
As some of you might know, John and his family lost their home in the LA fires. John has started a GoFundMe to support friends and families in Altadena and help with basic needs such as shelter, food, and clothing. If you called to donate, please do so here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/basics-needed-for-friends-who-lost-their-homes-today
Sending love to all those affected by the LA fires.
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