Send us a text Luck is knocking, but only after you put down the picture in your head. We kick off with a collective reading that hits on three themes—release, pride, and timing—then step right into a raw, unguarded session where life’s chaos collides with real tools for steadier days. Think tech meltdowns, car issues, and a live credit card breach caught mid-chat, all reframed through a lens that blends tarot clarity, astrology timing, and grounded self-awareness. With Janessa back at the t...
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Send us a text Luck is knocking, but only after you put down the picture in your head. We kick off with a collective reading that hits on three themes—release, pride, and timing—then step right into a raw, unguarded session where life’s chaos collides with real tools for steadier days. Think tech meltdowns, car issues, and a live credit card breach caught mid-chat, all reframed through a lens that blends tarot clarity, astrology timing, and grounded self-awareness. With Janessa back at the t...
Send us a text Luck is knocking, but only after you put down the picture in your head. We kick off with a collective reading that hits on three themes—release, pride, and timing—then step right into a raw, unguarded session where life’s chaos collides with real tools for steadier days. Think tech meltdowns, car issues, and a live credit card breach caught mid-chat, all reframed through a lens that blends tarot clarity, astrology timing, and grounded self-awareness. With Janessa back at the t...
Send us a text What if the story you’ve been told about depression and anxiety is too small for what you’re actually living? We dive straight into the messy middle—where SSRIs’ origin stories meet the placebo effect, where side effects complicate recovery, and where the medical system often manages instead of heals. Along the way, we unpack why ketamine therapy feels different for treatment‑resistant depression, how neural remapping can loosen trauma’s grip, and what “feeling better” looks li...
Send us a text Ever notice how a “quick catch-up” turns into the real show? We slide under a mountain of blankets, confess the latest ADHD detours, and admit that structure doesn’t stand a chance when life is shifting—work, weather, relationships, and energy. The good news: there’s wisdom in the wobble. We talk through fan love, being watched online, and choosing a quiet season when you need it. We unpack an 18-month friendship break we repaired with accountability, then share the tiny script...
Send us a text Ever wonder why some gestures land and others miss by a mile? We went beyond the memes and took a full love language quiz—yes, we even paid for the results—then held the mirror up to our past relationships, boundaries, and blind spots. The numbers were revealing: acts of service and quality time rose to the top for both of us, receiving gifts carried quiet power as thoughtfulness, and words of affirmation got messy when trust had been broken. From oil changes and fixed deadbolt...
Send us a text The mic caught us on a hard day—and we kept it rolling. Lacey names a depressive episode with no clear trigger, and we talk through what sadness feels like when it’s lodged in the body, why masking becomes second nature, and how a simple ritual—cranking music right after you “skip feeling”—can help release what you swallowed. No gloss, no edits, just the practice of showing up when you’d rather hide. From there, we let joy elbow its way in: book-club onesies, our Eeyore-and-Ti...
Send us a text Ever wondered what goes through a man's mind when he first discovers your collection of hair ties scattered throughout the house? Or the moment he realizes those cute jeans you're wearing don't have real pockets? In this laugh-out-loud episode, we dive into the world of male enlightenment that happens when men enter relationships with women. From the shocking revelation that women use substantially more toilet paper (not just for shaking dry, gentlemen!) to the baffling ...
Send us a text Ever found yourself completely clueless about whether someone is flirting with you? You're not alone! We're diving headfirst into the complicated world of flirtation, armed with hilarious dating app screenshots and our own awkward experiences. From finger-in-mouth disasters to decoding the subtle art of eye contact, we explore why 72% of people can't tell when someone's interested in them. We take a personality quiz that reveals our flirting styles (physical, playful, polite, ...
Send us a text The concept of pretty privilege might seem straightforward, but as our candid conversation reveals, it's anything but simple. We're diving deep into how physical appearance shapes our daily interactions, opportunities, and treatment from others—often in ways that those with the privilege don't even recognize. "That, my dear, is pretty privilege," one host points out when discussing how her co-host regularly receives gifts and attention from men without requesting them. Meanwhi...
Send us a text Heather and Lacey reunite with newfound energy as they catch up on life's recent adventures. Heather triumphantly shares her MaxFit competition win that capped off her rookie pro season, while detailing her subsequent celebration in Florida complete with mouthwatering key lime pie and a life-changing pistachio cream waffle. Meanwhile, Lacey's Colorado trip reveals more than just mountain views when she admits to "recycling" a former flame. The conversation evolves into a maste...
Send us a text When the world feels overwhelming and negativity threatens to take over, sometimes the most radical act is pausing to recognize what's good. In this heartfelt conversation, we dive deep into the transformative power of gratitude during life's hardest moments. We share personal stories about how our children became powerful motivators for growth and self-improvement, pushing us to pursue education, careers, and healthier lifestyles we might never have achieved otherwise. For on...
Send us a text Ever gained 4 pounds overnight despite doing everything "right"? You're not alone. This episode dives deep into the science of weight fluctuations and how stress impacts our bodies in surprising ways. We share a shocking real-life example of gaining eight pounds in 48 hours during bodybuilding prep despite strict diet adherence and increased cardio—proving that your body's response to stress is more powerful than you might think. Beyond the scale, we explore what true self-car...
Send us a text Ever wonder what the cards might reveal about your life's journey? In this captivating episode, we welcome energy worker and card reader Jenessa for an intimate session of live tarot and oracle readings that uncover surprising truths. The mystical adventure begins with an explanation of how different decks serve different purposes—tarot for gentle guidance and oracle for those brutally honest messages we sometimes need to hear. As Janessa shuffles and allows cards to naturally...
Send us a text "Is my brain actually broken, or is it just responding to something?" This question haunts millions of people trying to understand why they struggle with focus, emotional regulation, and executive function. In this raw and revealing conversation, we dive into the complex overlap between trauma responses and ADHD symptoms—a confusing territory where even mental health professionals sometimes struggle to make accurate diagnoses. Drawing from our personal experiences (inclu...
Send us a text Ever wondered what happens when two friends record their lives during a complete emotional spiral? That's exactly what we did in season one of this podcast, and now we're looking back at those wild times with a mixture of horror and amusement. In this deeply candid catch-up episode, we take you through the evolution of our friendship and personal journeys, from questionable fashion choices (like that four-inch hair poof that required half a bottle of hairspray) to the dramatic...
Send us a text Have you ever wondered why that nagging pain in your shoulder won't go away despite massages, stretching, and even medication? The answer might surprise you—your body could be physically manifesting emotional trauma you haven't processed. In this raw and enlightening conversation with massage therapist Jenessa from Intuitive Touch, we dive deep into the concept that "your body keeps score" of emotional experiences, storing them in physical form when they aren't processed menta...
Send us a text Dessert has never tasted so sweet as when you're finally free from competition prep restrictions. In this celebratory episode, Heather and Lacey indulge in a variety of treats while catching up on life, love, and the pursuit of the perfect lemon cake bite. Fresh off her successful bodybuilding competition, Heather savors her first real meal in months – a teriyaki burger from Hop Jacks (which Lacey stubbornly refuses to call by its new name, "Hops and Drops"). The duo shares l...
Send us a text What happens when your ex-friend's ex-husband sends you a friend request? Does Girl Code have an expiration date? We're untangling the complex web of unwritten rules that guide female friendships and setting the record straight on what Girl Code really means. The conversation kicks off with a real-life scenario that forces us to examine whether loyalty extends beyond the end of friendships. We share passionate takes on dating friends' exes (spoiler: it's a hard no), but acknow...
Send us a text Have you ever had an app read your soul so accurately you felt personally attacked? That's exactly what happened when we dove into astrology through the Co-Star app in this unplanned but revealing episode. What started as casual conversation about recent life changes quickly transformed into a cosmic deep dive when we began exploring our astrological profiles. The app didn't just tell us generic horoscopes—it called us out on our specific patterns, from relationship sabotage t...
Send us a text What keeps us locked in cycles of trauma, and how do we finally break free? This raw, vulnerable conversation takes you through our parallel journeys of healing from toxic relationships and traumatic experiences. The conversation opens with a crucial insight: toxic relationships aren't awful from day one. They start with genuine connection before gradually eroding boundaries through what we call "breadcrumbing"—offering just enough positive moments to keep you holding on throu...
Send us a text The wounds we carry from childhood often define how we navigate adulthood, especially in our relationships. In this deeply personal episode, we pull back the curtain on our experiences growing up with alcoholic parents and how these early traumas shaped who we've become. From functioning alcoholics who maintained perfect appearances while chaos reigned behind closed doors, to unpredictable substance abuse that created volatile home environments—we share the raw reality of grow...
Send us a text Luck is knocking, but only after you put down the picture in your head. We kick off with a collective reading that hits on three themes—release, pride, and timing—then step right into a raw, unguarded session where life’s chaos collides with real tools for steadier days. Think tech meltdowns, car issues, and a live credit card breach caught mid-chat, all reframed through a lens that blends tarot clarity, astrology timing, and grounded self-awareness. With Janessa back at the t...
