"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
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"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
Blinded by Belief: How Your Brain Defends Its Favorite Story - Even When It's Wrong!
Waking Up to Narcissism
1 hour 4 minutes 45 seconds
3 months ago
Blinded by Belief: How Your Brain Defends Its Favorite Story - Even When It's Wrong!
Have you ever tried to change someone’s mind—and watched them dig in even deeper? Or wondered why, even when you want to change your own beliefs, it feels like pushing against an invisible force? In this episode, Tony Overbay, LMFT, takes you on a journey that starts with a teenage quest for the perfect tan and ends with a powerful realization about how we construct our social realities. After sharing a personal story about undergoing a dramatic topical chemotherapy treatment for actinic keratosis, Tony reflects on how his temporarily altered appearance changed the way people interacted with him—and how it altered the way he saw himself.This experience sets the stage for a breakdown of the groundbreaking Dartmouth scar study, which revealed that the belief that you’re being judged can actually create that experience—regardless of reality. From there, Tony dives into the science of confirmation bias: how our brains are wired to seek out information that supports what we already believe, and how this cognitive shortcut influences everything from politics and religion to parenting and marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples, client stories (with details changed for confidentiality), and powerful metaphors that unpack why belief change is so hard—and why it’s also essential for personal growth, emotional maturity, and deeper human connection.00:00 The Quest for the Perfect Tan00:35 A Dermatologist's Warning01:33 The Chemotherapy Cream Experience02:27 Social Reactions to Visible Differences05:20 The Dartmouth Scar Study06:24 The Power of Perception15:25 Confirmation Bias in Action32:47 Interpreting Neutral Events33:04 Religion and Coincidences33:34 Selective Memory in Parenting and Beyond34:58 Confirmation Bias in Action36:23 Client Story: Recognizing Bias40:32 Vaccine Hesitancy and Confirmation Bias44:58 The Scar Study and Confirmation Bias54:56 Evolutionary Roots of Belief Protection57:33 Modern Challenges and Professional Competence01:01:49 Conclusion and Listener EngagementContact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group.And visit https://julie-dejesus.
Waking Up to Narcissism
"Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
