Sex is everywhere—but actually talking about it? That’s still a challenge. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get personal about what it’s like to openly discuss sex and sexuality. As co-hosts of a podcast that dives into taboo topics, we’ve seen firsthand how conversations about sex can empower, educate, and even shift cultural narratives. But we’ve also had to navigate the challenges that come with having these discussions openly.
We explore how having a platform like Unzipping Taboos has changed the way people perceive our expertise in human sexuality—sometimes in surprising ways. We talk about the social calculus of deciding what to share, setting personal boundaries, and how cultural and religious expectations can shape the way people engage (or avoid) conversations about sex. From family reactions to public scrutiny, we break down the complexities of being open about topics that many still prefer to keep behind closed doors.
Whether you're someone who's hesitant to talk about sex or you're already challenging taboos in your own circles, this episode unpacks the power of conversation, the risks and rewards of being open, and why normalizing discussions about sexuality is more important than ever.
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Anal sex is often wrapped in stigma, misinformation, and awkward silence—but we’re here to change that. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we break down some of the myths and misconceptions about what can make anal play safe, pleasurable, and well-informed.
We talk about the essentials: consent, communication, and why the right lube can make all the difference. We get into the nitty-gritty of preparation, hygiene, and common health concerns, including the risks of STIs.
But this isn’t just about the physical side—we also dive into the social taboos that keep people from talking about anal sex, why those stigmas exist, and how we can change the narrative around pleasure and sexual health.
Whether you’re new to the conversation or a seasoned pro, this episode is here to give you the facts, challenge the myths, and help you feel more confident talking about (and experiencing) anal play.
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What defines cheating, and where do we draw the line? In this episode, we unzip the nuanced world of relationships, exploring how communication, honesty, and personal boundaries shape our understanding of fidelity. From flirting and emotional connections to the impact of technology and dating apps, we dissect the complex dynamics that influence trust and transparency between partners.
You'll hear insights on identifying emotional baggage, the pitfalls of lying by omission, and why "calibration conversations" (a phrase Charlie coins) can help couples navigate evolving expectations. Whether it's tackling the challenges of meeting up with an ex or the ethical use of non-monogamy labels, this episode offers practical advice for fostering healthier, more honest relationships.
Tune in for a candid discussion that blends real-life scenarios with expert guidance—and learn how to create a stronger foundation of trust with your partner.
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In this impactful episode, we explore the complexities of consent, tackling its challenges and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate harassment and sexual assault. We confront the normalization of harmful behaviors, examine the influence of power imbalances, and discuss why "no means no" is an insufficient framework for understanding consent.
Our conversation emphasizes the importance of believing survivors, challenging rape myths and jokes, and addressing non-consensual behaviors like stalking and harassment. We also share practical advice on safely calling out inappropriate comments in various settings, creating safer spaces, and providing meaningful support to those affected.
By focusing on compassion, education, and cultural change, this episode equips listeners with tools to navigate boundaries, empower victims and allies, and contribute to a more consent-conscious society.
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Dr. Sue sits down with Becca, founder and director of I Need an A, to unpack the realities of abortion access in a post-Roe world. They tackle the confusion created by restrictive laws, the chilling effect of misinformation, and the resilience of communities working to keep abortion accessible. Becca shares how I Need an A provides clear, up-to-date information for those seeking care—without tracking data or collecting personal information.
They also discuss the looming threat of outdated laws like the Comstock Act, the broader challenges in reproductive healthcare, and why community-driven action is more critical than ever. Plus, Dr. Sue and Becca reflect on the importance of rest and self-care in sustaining this work.
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In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of kink, addressing the taboos, misconceptions, and societal norms that contribute to shame and stigma around sexual expression. We talk about the importance of consent as a cornerstone of any sexual encounter, emphasizing the roles of curiosity, communication, and aftercare when exploring experiences with a partner.
Dr. Sue shares her perspective on the weight of the term "kink" and how it can evoke discomfort or judgment, while Charlie highlights the need for open, honest conversations to dismantle outdated cultural attitudes shaped by Puritanical views on sex. Together, they explore the challenges of finding reliable information on sexual health and kink practices, particularly in a society that often censors or avoids such topics and resources.
The conversation also touches on navigating personal preferences, respecting boundaries, and encouraging self-discovery without judgment. Whether you’re curious about kink or looking to deepen your understanding of sexual communication, this episode unpacks essential ideas about consent, acceptance, and embracing your unique desires.
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In this episode, we tackle the often-daunting role parents play in sex education. We explore the fears many parents face—like not having all the answers, accidentally "giving permission," or losing control of the conversation—and offer practical strategies to build confidence. From acknowledging gaps in knowledge to being an approachable resource, we share how parents can navigate these sensitive conversations with empathy and openness.
We emphasize the importance of clarifying personal values, respecting bodily autonomy, and adapting to each child's unique experiences. Join us for actionable advice, recommended resources like amaze.org, and insights to help you strengthen your connection with your child as they grow.
Whether you're a parent, educator, or curious listener, this episode offers a thoughtful approach to fostering understanding and breaking down barriers in conversations about sex and sexuality.
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In this episode, we unzip the often-overlooked topic of aging and its impact on sexuality. We discuss the physiological changes associated with menopause in women and andropause in men, exploring how these transitions affect sexual functioning, relationships, and self-image. Dr. Sue explains the importance of understanding changes like testosterone decline and lubrication challenges, while Charlie highlights the cultural stigmas that discourage open conversations about aging and intimacy.
We also talk about practical considerations such as finding the right lubricant for postmenopausal vaginal health and the importance of exploring pleasure beyond traditional norms. Through stories, we emphasize the value of better education, open communication, and positive role models to break down taboos and empower individuals to embrace their evolving sexuality. Whether you're navigating these changes yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers empathy and insights to help you thrive.
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What are the questions about sex you’ve always wanted to ask but felt too awkward to say out loud? In this open and insightful episode, we take on seven of the most common—and most avoided—sex questions, inspired by this Buzzfeed article featuring Dr. Sue herself. Using our signature mix of expertise, humor, and candor, we shed light on topics many are too shy to talk about.
The questions we talk about are:
“What comes out when I squirt? Is it just pee?”
“Am I masturbating too much?”
“Will my vibrator desensitize me?”
“Do my weird sexual fantasies mean there’s something wrong with me?”
“Is there anything I shouldn’t be putting in my butt?”
“If I enjoy butt play, does that mean I’m gay?”
“How can I make my penis bigger?”
Through it all, we point out the importance of open communication, breaking down taboos, and embracing curiosity about your body and your pleasure.
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What is the “mating crisis,” and what does it really mean? In this episode, we unpack the complexities behind this increasingly popular term used to describe shifting dynamics in modern heterosexual relationships. We challenge its implications, questioning whether it reflects a genuine societal issue or simply perpetuates fear and blame—particularly targeting women.
We delve into the evolving concept of male loneliness, especially among straight men, and how it has been reframed as a "mating crisis." Our conversation explores how societal changes, including women’s growing autonomy and empowerment, have disrupted traditional relationship expectations. We also discuss the backlash women face, such as being labeled “childless cat ladies,” and how these narratives pressure women into relationships while ignoring men’s responsibility to themselves to evolve and adapt.
Dr. Sue and Charlie highlight the importance of embracing paths that align with personal desires and values, free from societal pressure. With a focus on rethinking harmful language and fostering honest conversations, this episode invites listeners to challenge outdated norms, redefine relationships on their own terms, and celebrate the beauty of autonomy and self-discovery.
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In this episode, we get real about the frustration, determination, and unwavering commitment it takes to keep pushing forward in a world that often tries to silence necessary conversations. From the political attacks on marginalized communities to the spread of misinformation, we explore the challenges of staying informed, the power of community, and the importance of resisting fear. We discuss why self-care isn’t just personal but political, how to support those most affected, and why we refuse to back down. Tune in for an unfiltered, passionate conversation about fighting for truth, justice, and the right to speak freely.
With the current political climate threatening access to accurate information and open discussions, we dive into how fear is used as a tool of control—and why it’s crucial to push back. We also emphasize the need for collective resilience, allyship, and finding strength in numbers, even if it’s just one trusted person. This episode is a reminder that questioning sources, seeking diverse perspectives, and holding space for difficult conversations are acts of resistance.
This episode serves as a call to action—because when we fight for truth, justice, and freedom of speech, we all rise together.
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Diversify your social media feeds to include voices from communities outside your own.
Contact your elected representatives and speak up about the issues that matter.
Take the initiative to educate yourselves on how to best support marginalized communities.
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In this episode, we dive into the critical but often overlooked topic of sexual health in healthcare settings. Did you know that only 6% of healthcare providers start conversations about sexual health? We highlight why this needs to change and discuss ways the system can do better—starting with medical school and advocacy programs. We talk about the gaps in training for medical professionals, the discomfort many of us feel when raising concerns with our healthcare providers, and the challenges of dealing with gender and racial bias.
We also share insights on the importance of treating the whole person and fostering open communication. On the patient side, we talk about how to prepare for appointments, advocate for yourself, and push back when your concerns aren’t being taken seriously.
This conversation is packed with practical advice, personal stories, and a call to action for providers to prioritize sexual health as a vital part of overall well-being. And we want to hear from you! Share your experiences and help us keep this conversation going.
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Statistics cited: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7177861/
National Coalition for Sexual Health https://www.nationalcoalitionforsexualhealth.org/
In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the often-asked question: What is the “normal” frequency for sex? *Spoiler Alert*—it’s different for everyone. We explore how individual preferences, partner compatibility, and life factors like stress, health, and age play a role in what feels “normal.”
The conversation delves into the motivations behind questions about sexual desire and frequency, the importance of open communication in relationships, and how to address differing libido levels. We also chat about challenges like the impact of medications on sex drive and navigating conversations about sexual needs in a vulnerable, non-judgmental way.
Whether you're curious about your own experiences or wondering how to have better conversations about sex and intimacy, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand what your “normal” is and what it can be for your relationships.
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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the essentials of reproductive health, focusing on the teenage years and the transformative changes of puberty. We discuss why understanding the basics—like the reproductive system, the hormonal shifts of adolescence, and when someone can get pregnant—is crucial for everyone.
The conversation explores common misconceptions about reproductive health, emphasizing the importance of empowering people with accurate information, and highlights the role of empathy in bridging the knowledge gap. Whether you’re a parent, a teen, or just curious, this episode is packed with insights to help foster informed and respectful conversations.
Tune in to discover why education and understanding are the keys to fostering a healthier, more informed future for all.
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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the evolving landscape of relationship structures, focusing on consensual non-monogamy (CNM) like open relationships or polyamory, and the importance of clear communication and boundaries. We talk about how societal expectations around marriage and commitment are shifting, creating space for people to redefine what partnership means to them.
From defining terms like monogamy, polyamory, and monogamish to addressing the complexities of jealousy, family dynamics, and social stigma, our conversation emphasizes the value of honesty, self-awareness, and proactive communication. We also share how these relationship styles challenge societal norms while offering opportunities for personal growth and deeper connections.
Whether you’re curious about non-monogamy or exploring it yourself, this episode provides insights into what non-traditional relationships can mean, and offers tips for fostering healthy, communicative partnerships in today’s evolving world.
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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the critical differences between sex and gender, shedding light on how these terms are often misunderstood and misused. They delve into the significance of respecting people's identities, using affirming language, and understanding the evolving nature of gender as a social construct.
The conversation explores the evolution of language surrounding gender, the importance of affirming people's chosen names and pronouns, and how respecting identities fosters safety, health, and happiness for those who don’t fit traditional labels. This episode encourages listeners to embrace the power of understanding and respect to foster a safer and healthier world for everyone.
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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about how dating and relationships have evolved in the wake of COVID-19. They also explore the pandemic’s impact on emotional connections, communication gaps between men and women, and the rise of new dating standards shaped by shifting social norms.
Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about the prevalence of online dating apps and the challenges of transitioning from digital to in-person interactions, as well as the pressures of navigating a world where dating expectations have transformed. From ghosting to misrepresentation and the resurgence of in-person events, Dr. Sue and Charlie discuss the ups and downs of modern dating.
With a focus on empowerment, effective communication, and setting personal standards, this episode offers insights into the current dating landscape and encourages listeners to reflect on what works best for them in this ever-changing world.
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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie dive into the complex and often misunderstood topic of abortion as healthcare. Tackling societal conditioning and pervasive myths, they shed light on the impact of restrictive reproductive laws, the importance of comprehensive sex education, and why access to contraception is crucial for real choice in reproductive health.
Dr. Sue and Charlie break down the misleading claims behind recent restrictive laws and policies, exposing how medical inaccuracies shape public perception and policy. They explore the stark realities of maternal mortality in the United States, and the profound effects of restrictive abortion laws on families and quality of life. Through a compassionate and clear discussion, they emphasize that reproductive choices are deeply personal and should not be politicized.
Dr. Sue and Charlie encourage listeners to protect their privacy by deleting period-tracking data (except for Euki), seek reliable health resources, and challenge misinformation. Wrapping up, they invite listeners to share the episode, join the conversation, and consider what it means to empower individuals to make informed choices about their bodies.
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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we challenge the concept of virginity. Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the concept’s social and cultural weight, diving into how gender roles and expectations shape our perceptions. They dissect the pressure and confusion that surrounds first-time sexual experiences and question why society is so fixated on “losing your virginity” as a milestone.
Our hosts also discuss the problematic nature of terms like “virgin” and how religious and heteronormative influences complicate our understanding of abstinence and sexual identity. The episode touches on unique cultural pressures and examines how these expectations can lead to risky sexual behavior or feelings of shame.
With a mix of expert insight and empathetic conversation, Dr. Sue and Charlie stress the importance of communication and comfort during those pivotal first experiences. They address common concerns and emphasize that everyone’s journey is valid and unique. Wrapping up with a look at the societal and historical influences that perpetuate virginity myths, this episode encourages listeners to rethink, communicate, and challenge these outdated constructs.
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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we invite listeners to a candid, compassionate conversation about sex and aging - an essential discussion for everyone at every stage of life.
Together, they explore the changing perception of aging and how media shapes our views on what it means to grow older, especially when it comes to love and intimacy. Dr. Sue discusses how societal pressures around youthfulness affect both men and women as they age, and why diverse, authentic representation of aging in media can impact our sense of self. They also address the rising rates of STIs among older adults, unpacking the biases in healthcare that often leave this demographic without the education and support they need to maintain their sexual health.
Dr. Sue and Charlie touch on the role of adult children in supporting aging parents who are re-entering the dating scene. They discuss the importance of being open, supportive, and nonjudgmental, as well as how adult children can help their parents navigate new relationships and online dating safely.
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