Is it a sin to have sex before marriage? Is sex before marriage still a sin if you love each other? These two questions are some of the most asked questions I get at Oasis Singles. Sex sin is a huge issue for Christian singles. Why? The simple answer is that most singles struggle with some form of sex sin, or at least are tempted in this particular area. Let’s lay aside masturbation for a moment. The question “Is it […]

Being a Military Christian single man or woman is one of the most difficult things I can imagine. While many single Christians are just worrying about how to find their next online Christian date, some military singles are simply praying to stay alive. Military singles who also happen to be Christians also have to deal more intensely with that fuzzy intersection of “giving unto Caesar what is Caesar’s, and giving unto God what is God’s.” Serving in the military is […]

This is a fact: Alcohol Use Disorder is much more prevalent among single people (across all age groups) than among those who are married. While single men are by far the largest demographic that uses and abuses alcohol, recent studies in the US and UK find alarming rises in alcohol use and abuse among single women. Alcohol abuse is a significant societal problem affecting multiple demographic groups, including Christian singles. Despite the public image of sobriety often associated with the […]

As Generation Z Christian singles can tell you, the vast majority of other 20-something singles  and college singles do not attend church. Paradoxically, Generations Z Singles as they are called today, are also one of the most receptive age groups to evangelize. How can both of these statements about Gen singles be true? The answer is that many Christian churches are simply missing huge opportunities by not communicating the Gospel to 20-something singles in ways that make sense to them. […]

Are you one of the Christian singles ghosting someone? Navigating the world of modern dating can be a challenge, particularly when digital communication complicates traditional relationship etiquette. One phenomenon that has emerged from this digital revolution is “ghosting.” For Christian singles aiming to live according to Biblical principles, the question arises: Is it Biblical to ghost someone? Let’s delve into the concept of ghosting, and understand it from a Christian perspective. Understanding Ghosting in Christian Dating Ghosting refers to the […]

That’s right we are going to talk about sexual purity in the Bible, the topic that everybody likes to avoid.  Sexual impurity ranges from lustful thoughts to actual acts of perverted behavior.  In today’s modern world, everywhere you look, there’s sex and very rarely is it between two married people.  If you turn on the TV, you see scantily clad women on MTV and HBO.  You can go to the supermarket to see magazines with half-naked models and articles about […]

Hey friend, let’s have a heart-to-heart about something that can be a little tricky when it comes to love: losing yourself. As a Christian single woman, I know how easy it can be to put someone else’s needs and wants before your own when you’re excited about a relationship. But what happens when you wake up one day and realize you’re not sure who you are anymore? If you’ve ever found yourself bending over backward to please someone, always putting […]

When God doesn’t make sense to you because all your Christian single friends have met someone, but you have not, does your faith waver?  As Christian singles, maybe it’s a Christian dating relationship that’s gone awry, or some other event in your life that’s got you thinking about “the why” of it all.  Why did God allow this? What’s God’s plan? Where do I go from here? Navigating the treacherous waters of singleness can often leave one feeling like a […]

Do you know the signs of lust in a man?  All Christian single men battle the lust of the flesh from time to time. In fact, let’s just make that ALL guys, whether they be single men or married men, Christian or non-Christian. One single man pal of mine said if his girlfriend ever knew his thoughts, she would never stop slapping him! Listen, men struggle with lust and masturbation, and any single man who says otherwise is just lying […]

Christian Singleness is often viewed as a waiting room—a period of life where we twiddle our thumbs, waiting for that special someone to sweep us off our feet. But what if I told you that this season of singleness is actually a golden opportunity for spiritual growth? Yep, you heard me right! Your solo status isn’t a cosmic joke, but a divine gift wrapped in the glittering paper of self-discovery, spiritual depth, and yes, a good bit of humor. So, […]

Wondering how to know God’s will for your life? Being single provides both unique challenges and unparalleled opportunities to draw closer to God. As Christian singles navigate their personal journeys, they often wonder, “What is God’s will for my life?” Here’s a guide to help you discern His voice amidst the noise of daily life. 1. Prayer: The Direct Line to God Begin every decision-making process with prayer. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask […]

Hey there, friend! If you’re reading this, chances are you’re tired of worry weighing you down. Maybe it’s the stress of relationships, the job you’re not thrilled about, or the future that seems like a big blank page. Whatever it is, worrying is exhausting, and as singles, we often feel like we’re facing these concerns alone. But here’s the truth: as a Christian, you’re never truly alone, and God never meant for you to carry these burdens by yourself. In […]

Ah, relationship status. That phrase that somehow carries the weight of a thousand questions, a million unsolicited pieces of advice, and enough awkward family dinner conversations to last a lifetime. If you’re a single Christian, you’ve probably heard it all: “So, when are you getting married?” “Have you tried online dating?” or the classic, “God has someone special for you, you just have to be patient.” Before you let out a big sigh or roll your eyes into the next […]

Wondering how to meet Christian singles for free? Finding the right partner can be a challenging journey, particularly when you’re looking for someone who shares your faith and values. As a Christian, you might be seeking someone who understands the depth of your beliefs, values the sacredness of marriage, and intends to live in a way that honors God. The good news is, in this digital age, there are numerous free methods to meet Christian singles. Here’s your complete guide […]

  In a culture obsessed with romantic milestones, being single can sometimes feel like a season of delay—or worse, denial. But what if your singleness isn’t a punishment or a sign something is wrong with you? What if, instead, your singleness is part of God’s intentional plan for your life right now? Whether you’re newly single, perpetually waiting, or unsure if love will ever come, this article will explore why God might be keeping you single for a purpose, rooted […]

Have you heard about those disability dating sites that exist to help disabled singles the chance to meet other singles with similar issues? Some people use disability dating sites because they feel it is harder for them to find a date on a regular dating site. I know of several Christian singles who have physical disabilities, and they with disability dating services. The main reason they use online disability dating is because they feel “normal” singles in the church and […]

This article centers on common characteristics of “best Christian sites”, Believe it or not, there are 100’s of purported online Christian dating sites worldwide. With so many Christian dating sites to choose from, you couldn’t blame Christian singles for being a little confused as to which Christian dating site to use. Understanding the qualities of the best Christian dating sites is crucial for single Christians to find a platform that aligns with their values and relationship goals. This article explores […]

Single people who suffer from anxiety attacks know how much it can affect their dating relationships and self-esteem. I should know because I used to suffer anxiety attacks for years myself. I remember one night being at the movies with my new date, when a terrible anxiety attack came over me. I started sweating, and my heart felt like it was jumping out of my chest. I later found out this was called relationship anxiety. LOL, I just thought I […]

Would you label yourself as one of those lonely Christian single women?  I met a single lonely woman today. She said she had no one  with whom to share the burdens of her heart.  If you feel like you too are a lonely single woman, you’re not alone. Lonely Single Christian women Facts According to a Duke University study, 25% of the US population feels like they have no one with whom to share their pains of life. The vast […]

Are you a time saver? A time waster? Do you have trouble prioritizing tasks? For whatever reason, time management and living single and alone don’t mix too well. Many single Christians, especially recently single again men and women, seem to be short on time. Many I know tell me the problem is they don’t prioritize their time efficiently. That’s what we call poor time management. Maybe one of the reasons some of us have time management issues is because we […]