This is our soft life manifesto. In this episode, we talk about how we’ve glamorized chaos in relationships, and how we’re now choosing peace. We unpack the cultural obsession with “ride or die” dynamics, the fear of setting boundaries, and how loving someone shouldn’t mean losing yourself. We also explore how struggle love has become normalized in both straight and queer relationships, and how choosing a soft, mutual, gentle love can feel revolutionary — and scary. We’re saying a hard NO to romanticizing struggle. We unpack how many of us were conditioned to believe that love has to hurt, and how deeply that belief has shaped our expectations and choices in relationships. This episode is for every woman who has loved at the expense of herself — and is now choosing peace, clarity, and softness. We also get real about how hard it is to reprogram yourself after years of normalizing chaos. But we’re choosing the soft life — not because it’s trendy, but because we deserve it. For the interactive Drunk Dialing segment, we open up our vintage phone line and listen to voicenotes from listeners sharing their own struggle love stories, wild boundaries crossed, and soft life wake-up calls.

In this debut episode, the girls come together to finally open the group chat to the world — no filters, no disclaimers. This is where we introduce the podcast, the story behind Under The Influence, and the dynamic between the three hosts: Hey Shawty, Sixam, and Yasmi. We break down the triple meaning behind the name — from being under the influence of society, love, and culture to being the actual influence. We talk about what the show means to us, the vision we have for it, and what listeners can expect every week. The main topic dives into "Being the Villain.” We explore the messy, complicated, and sometimes empowering experience of being misunderstood. From friendship fallouts and ex-relationships to setting boundaries that people didn’t like, we ask: what if being the villain in someone else’s story was exactly what we needed to become the main character in our own? Expect juicy confessionals, a few laughs, a little accountability, and a lot of “I said what I said." To wrap up the episode, we play Rumour Has It — a savage game where each host must face a spicy rumour. One’s true, one’s a lie — and if you don’t spill? You’re gonna be under the sipfluence! Join the channels memberships for additional content: / @thatorampedi 🔵 Thato Rampedi ● https://www.instagram.com/thatoramped... ● https://www.tiktok.com/@thatorampedi?... 🔴 Lebo Rampedi ● https://www.instagram.com/lebo_ramped... ● https://www.tiktok.com/@rampedilebo?l... ● / @lebogangrampedi 🔵 Mpho-Mpho (Mammi Dearest) ● / _mammi_dearest ● https://www.instagram.com/_mammi_dear... ● / @mammidearest 🔴 Caiah (Adeola) ● https://www.instagram.com/caiah.m/?hl=en ● https://www.tiktok.com/@caiahmeek?lan... ● / @caiahm 🔵 Lethabo Maluke ● https://www.instagram.com/lethabo_mal... ● https://www.tiktok.com/@lethabomaluke... 🔴 Hlomani Nkatani ● https://www.instagram.com/hlomani.sa/... ● https://www.tiktok.com/@hlomani.sa?_t... 🔵 Kagiso Mogola ● https://www.instagram.com/kagiso.mogo... ● https://www.tiktok.com/@kagiso.mogola...