It's been way too long everyone! Em & Rosa catch up on what's new since our hiatus, and our intentions for 2024.
Today's episode focuses on how we've gained social and physical self-awareness throughout the years. Rosa talks about navigating social situations with Asperger's and how she might have unintentionally burned bridges along the way. Em reflects on mindful communication and when is the appropriate time to give advice versus leaning in and being an active listener. We also talk about navigating personal relationships and the downside of overthinking.
Happy 2023 folks! We start off the first episode of the year with some one-word resolutions, new year traditions, and our future plans.
Rosa and Em reflect on what it's like to be part of large community events such as the World Cup, huge concerts of 10K+ spectators, opera house performances, among others. We talk about our favorite experiences, the people we've met, what it's like to live in the moment, and what we look forward to for next year. Moral of the story: Find a tall partner in your life to be your goal post (you'll get it when you listen inâș).
Weâre back (again)! After a pretty long hiatus, weâre sharing with you all what weâve been up to these past few months - new job changes, dog mom life, epiphanies, marathon training, inner-child healing, and so much more. We also talk about what itâs like to settle into our early 30s (eep!). Tune in and catch up with us!
As Em is about turn a new decade (!!), her and Rosa reflect on the concept of aging and how that affects desirability, job attainment, and societal expectations. We talk about motherhood, fear of âappearing oldâ to others, and marriage as an institution.
This episode was recorded back in Spring 2022. Please note that we are addressing these pressures as cisgender women.
"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." How would this sound in any other language?
In this episode, Em & Rosa talk about language elitism and language hallucinations. How does an accent change the way people perceive you? Why can people even project an accent on you just because of how you look?
We discuss our own journeys with our various languages and how it was not always a source of pride. We also try to find ways to figure out how to teach Cantonese to Em's future children.
Tune in to hear our perspectives in this episode dedicated to elitism and language!
âItâs always good to live in the present. Donât worry about the future because itâs coming anyway. If you worry about the future, you are going to live your future twice.â
Em & Rosa talk about navigating life changes, perfectionism as it ties to anxiety, goals, and the idea of the âcurated lifestyle.â
On this episode we talk about our fashion hits and misses. Rosa and Em analyze how our fashion sense has evolved and become more conscious over the years.
Rosa talks about the Miami fashion scene and how the Euphoria girls are not given anything that wasn't already seen in Pembroke Pines. Em speaks about how her style has change from basic AF comfy in Boston to still-basic polished in NYC. We also end on some fashion tips to what we think works best for us.
Grab a drink of your choice and tune in to our fashion vault!
We are starting off the new year with an exciting guest episode! We invite Judy, a forensic biologist located in NYC, to talk about her world of crime analysis and investigation. She covers what it's like working in a crime lab, analyzing case evidence, bringing justice for victims, how to cope with case results, working across different teams, and tackling cold cases.
We also discuss innovations in DNA tech (spoiler: they can and they will find you) and why itâs so important in this day and age to stay vigilant of your surroundings. If you are interested in hearing how true crime is in real life versus on television, tune in to this episode!
**Please note the episode has the following trigger warnings: abuse, violence against women and children, murder, death, sexual assault**
Itâs our last episode of the year - where has all the time gone??
Listen to our year in review - we look at how weâve progressed in our relationships, career, and physical/mental health in 2021. Weâve had so many life changing experiences that we are so proud of (running marathons and unlearning years of self-criticism, as examples) even amidst this panorama.
We also look at lessons learned and what weâre most grateful of this year. Then we look ahead to 2022 and talk through what we are most excited about (being bi-continental and not giving a sh*t about what people think).
If youâre in a reflective mood, listen in! Cheers to hoping that 2022 does not become 2020-too.
Do you live to work, or work to live? Todayâs episode tackles how we experience work culture in France vs. the United States, the trap of the hedonic treadmill, and our constant pursuit of the ânext best thing.â
We then dig deeper on what it means to be truly happy, and how we are trying to figure out ways to prioritize our work, family, and personal relationships.
In this episode, we explore our society's obsession with youth and beauty and how this affects us in our daily lives.
Rosa and Em share stories about growing up looking at scales, and the ways our friends and family can take part of creating insecurities.
We also tackle the dangers of body positivity, body neutrality, and why the beauty industry continues to be so lucrative.
Lastly, we look at what it means to be fat-phobic and how it dehumanizes individuals.
There is a lot to unpack, so let us know your thoughts as you listen to this!
Our latest episode covers first impressions, different types of friends and social circles, toxic friendships, crossing boundaries, and what it means for friends to be your chosen family.
We're back!! Welcome to Season 2 of the Unchecked podcast.
Reality TV might show how glamorous living in NYC and Paris is, but no one tells you how hard it is to find the right apartment. You can spend hours on Zillow dreaming away - but when reality hits, things like budget, metro, and roaches (ugh) are one of the many things you'll need to think about.
In this episode, we break down our experiences finding a new place - from pesky realtors to false advertising - and everything in between. We'll end with having found our piece of heaven in these bustling cities.
[Note: We recorded this episode earlier in the summer.]
Rosa and Em sit down to talk about self-love in the midst of social injustice and the pandemic, how we've dealt with immigrant guilt from our parents, and helpful steps to protect our personal boundaries at work and in relationships.
In a society that capitalizes on "self-care," just know that self-love is FREE and something you can start working on today. It means stepping into each day with kindness and compassion for YOURSELF and yourself only - free of judgment, hatred, and self-doubt. Everyone is on their own journey, but we hope this conversation can inspire you to kick-start yours.
Today's episode is about the importance of conflict resolution! We speak about gaslighting, passive aggressiveness, attention seekers, and pet peeves. Most importantly, we review the ways we have improved and how we try to go high instead of low.
Wedding season is around the corner! In this episode, we give you the 5 golden tips on how to be a good guest, what type of wedding guests we would be, and our ideal weddings.
We discuss the pressure many of us in our late 20s feel to get married, have kids, and comply to what society expects of us at a certain age. We discuss the pressure many of us in our late 20s feel to get married, have kids, and comply to what society expects of us at a certain age.
We also sprinkle in some fun stories from our past wedding experiences. Tune in to find out how Emily ended up being a wedding crasher and how Rosa learned to limit her drink consumption with an open bar!
Emily reflects on her anger to the recent Atlanta shootings and the uptick of anti-Asian hate incidents and crimes. We take a deep look into the racist policies that have dehumanized the Asian diaspora, the fetishization of Asian females in media, and the issues with policing and Asian-Black tensions. We end with resources and strategies you can utilize NOW to engage and support our community.
Please take care of yourselves - we all process differently. But after processing, it's important to take ACTION in your local communities to protect our elderly, our families, and our friends.
We are not insignificant, and we are not a statistic.
đ Resources mentioned: https://bit.ly/313Tcri
đ Podcast times: 00:00 Emily's Statement | 08:19 History, 1880s to Now | 16:30 Hypersexualization of Asian Women | 19:58 Yellow Peril to China Virus | 21:00 Model Minority Myth and Asian-Black Tensions | 26:24 AAPI Activism | 28:53 In Solidarity with the AAPI Community | 30:48 How You Can Support & Final Note
Photo courtesy of Eiko Hiromi/AFLO/Shutterstock
Join us as we talk to (okay, maybe interrogate) one of our guy friends Jason about his dating experiences in NYC and Hong Kong, the grey zone of defining relationships, commitment, love languages, dating red (and orange) flags, and what it means to go long-distance.