Hello hello, your girls are back to get in between cultural tricking! Is the hype around Nigerian men really justified, or is it just another internet trend? 🤔 In this episode, hosts Toni and Ifeatu sit down with their Nigerian male friend, Chibu, to unpack the fetishization of Nigerian men and the dating narratives that surround them. From social media takes to real-life experiences, we’re diving into the myths, the facts, and the interesting realities of dating Nigerian men.
Don't forget to like, comment, rate us 5 stars, and shareeeee hunny. and don't ever forget: #TrickLivesMatter.
Timestamps:
(00:10) Introduction of special guest and management team
(03:45) Discussion of Super Bowl and Kendrick Lamar controversy
(25:30) Exploring Nigerian men stereotypes and provider culture
(42:00) Dating dilemmas and intercultural relationships (Asake...wyd with India Love?)
(56:00) Nigerian marriage challenges and divorce story
(59:40) Closing thoughts and takeaways.
Hello, helloooo! Your girls are back and in their news anchors bag! Follow along on the first official episode of IBT Newsroom as NaToni discusses Trump's executive orders, the rise of casual cruelty, and the new alte-right. As always, thanks for listening, and don't forget to rate us 5 stars and share! Xoxo, IBT.
Timestamps:
(00:00) - Intro & Segment Overview
(00:41) - First 100 Days in Office
(01:19) - TikTok's Band and Trump
(02:31) - Rise of Right-Wing Content
(04:56) - Misinformation on Social Media
(06:39) - Impact of Elon Musk on Twitter
(09:10) - Tariffs on Imports Explained
(12:28) - Immigration Policies and Consequences
(15:00) - Foreign Aid and Its Implications
(17:50) - The State of Healthcare Research
(20:33) - The Role of Corruption in Nigeria
(23:45) - Concluding Thoughts and Future Outlook
Heyyyyy IBTFC! Your girls are backkk in a new year, with new opinions (as usual). From catfish uber eats delivery guys to amapiano, listen to NaToni discuss their 2024 Ins and Outs, then solve a few sticky dilemmas. Make sure you rate us 5 stars, then go watch our new amazing visual on youtube and give us a thumbs up there too! We love y'all #IBTBACK !
Timestamps:
Ins (Quick Run Through):
(00:30) - catch up/kiki
(05:00) - music! our movies of 2024
(15:00) - tv! our fave shows of 2024
(20:00) - favorite viral moment of 2024
(24:20) - fashion! favorite trends of 2024
(28:00) - OUT: following trends too closely
(IBT)
(30:00) - Everything isn't for everybody
(38:20) - Intentional incompetence: "can you tell me?" culture vs. doing your own research
(39:40) - Getting a job is IN, begging is OUT!
(41:20) - Oversharing is OUT
(48:10) - British (Nigerian) PR at an all time low...Nigerian-Americans we're sooooo back
(53:10) - Catfish uber drivers...safety vs. moral posturing
(01:00:30) - OUTS !
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Hey IBTFC! Your girls are back with another episode of #IBTLIBRARY! Grab a drink, a blanket and a copy of this edition's book: The Future x Naomi Alderman and follow along as we cover themes of the apocalypse, religion, technofascism, love, human connection and capitalism. Enjoyyy, rate us 5 stars & don't forget to share!
Timestamps:
(03:00) - Book rating
(03:30) - Book synopsis
(20:00) - Lessons learned, favorite parts of the book
(23:15) - Does absolute power corrupt absolutely? Is corruption innate or encouraged by power?
(29:00) - Does the industry you work in reflect your capacity for empathy, or lack thereof?
(37:30) - The Rabbit & Fox of it All
(40:00) - Favorite characters
(43:40) - What does "saving the world" even mean?
(57:00) - Closing thoughts
Thank you to Naomi Alderman for this amazing, culturally relevant book and to IBTFC for listening! xoxo
Heyyy IBTFC! NaToni is back with anoda...banga! Join us as we review Rema's latest album (and discuss the global implications), give our Love Island takes, dissect the Ballerina Farm trad-wife article, and debate impact vs. intent. Timestamps down below! Don't forget to rate, leave us a vn/curiouscat message, and SHAREEEEE.
(1:30) - Rema's HEIS Album review and dissection. We love an effricannnnn.
(10:20) - Will the reclamation of afrobeats extend to fashion and aesthetics?
(17:00) - Favorite musical drops of the summer! From Odeal to Victony
(22:00) - Mentorship in music
(26:00) - City Cinderella discussion! Why is there no princess of rap...? :/
(33:00) - Love Island USA's insane cultural impact
(38:30) - LIFE IMITATES ART...Kamala Harris running for president months before the election is insane...like something out of Veep
(40:00) - Ballerina Farm! The woman, the myth, the legend.
(44:15) - is the tradwife a victim of her own circumstances or is she happy to be barefoot in the kitchen?
(57:10) - Is posting your life as promoting your lifestyle?
(01:04:08) - Impact vs. Intent! Once you reach a certain audience, does the impact of your reach outweight your original intent?
(01:09:30) - The rise of trad-wife content aligns with the rise of fascism in post-trump America
(01:11:30) - U.S Election Predictions
(01:12:40) - Is the Democrats' stupidity intentional? Like...
(01:14:44) - We need a president with good cat! Representation matters
(01:20:00) - Biden you actually can't leave that office without running us our money...
(01:21:45) - Nigeria is done out here...and it's actually super depressing
(01:23:10) - Reverse emigration...are people wrong to escape poor living conditions in Western countries by moving to developing countries?
(01:32:00) - Is IBT moving?! Hehehe
That's all folks! Love you, see you Thursday after next. xoxo
Heyyyy IBTFC! NaToni is back with an episode to make you #think. Join your faves as they discuss digital globalization, identity politics and the epidemic of overcategorization. Love y'allll rate us 5 stars, leave a voice note, and READ! Timestamps down below xoxo.
(03:00) - Catch up; spontaneous outings v. pre-planned events
(08:03) - How trying too hard can backfire on you. System 1 vs. System 2 thinking
(12:30) - are the UK 'bad vibes' allegations true?
(23:27) - The economic crises worldwide...from Nigeria to U.S DAMN
(24:30) - When is resilience enough? When should adaptation end and retaliation begin? When will the people have had enough?
(34:00) - What's new in Music
(36:30) - The Tyla Coloured v. Black debate
(42:00) - The Nara Smith mulatto plagiarism debacle
(47:30) - Ice Spice...has the lightskin juice run out?
(53:00) - Identity...Jewish Mexican wins presidential election in Mexico. That's not crazy?
(57:00) - Can black people be gentrifiers? Are native New Yorkers justified in their anger toward "transplants"? What does it even mean to be a "native" anywhere in 2024?
(01:05:20) - Let's talk about ownership. What marks the line between appreciation and appropriation?
(01:12:00) - America's role in global desirability politics
(01:17:00) - Kendrick v. Drake turns into Attack the Mulatto Male
(01:18:45) - Kim K's role in ambiguity as the pinnacle of beauty. Did a white woman craving black features make black features more palatable?
(01:20:00) - The overlap in aesthetics...everyone follows the same trends to a degree.
(01:33:00) - Can we even call American produce real fruit anymore with all the pesticides and hormones in it?
(01:39:00) - As ambiguity becomes more desirable, the masses will demand more and more labeling to be able to conceptualize peoples' identities
(01:40:15) - How NaToni feels about labeling as it applies to themselves personally...are we vibing or strict?
That's all folks! Let us know what you think about the topic, and how you yourself choose to identify. XOXO
Heyyy IBTFC! Get comfy for today's service, cause we're passing the offering plate around! Join Natoni to discuss the post-pandemic rise in religion/spirituality and explore its possible causes. Along with our regular gist, you know the vibes. Time stamps down below, leave us a voice note, love y'all MWAH!
(02:00) - ASMR, Mukbangs & Disordered Eating hehe
(04:15) - Reality TV - Martha's Vineyard: Summerhouse mini review
(11:15) - Announcing the next book for #IBTLIBRARY ! The Future x Naomi Alderman - a fictional novel about technofascism, religion, love & the end of the world
(13:45) - Introducing the IBT! Why are people returning to religion in a post-pandemic society? Is it political? Economical? or Inevitable?
(20:00) - Remote life doesn't stop at work, Covid made Remote Worship the standard, encouraging ease of worship and discovering other digital church homes
(33:00) - Politicians are leaning into religion worldwide as a way to excuse their depravity
(37:00) - Capitalism KILLS! All evil can be traced back to this
(49:55) - Biden you will CROAK before you smell that white house again. Kiss goodbye to the Oval Office in November babe
(54:00) - Pride comes before the fall!! GREED comes before the fall!!!! People are getting tired worldwide.
(55:15) - The select few that dgaf what happens to the world as long as they're good? They will be our downfall. To lead is to serve! Being a sheisty politician is haram.
(59:00) - Reading the Bible as a book instead of something so literal and concrete can only encourage your faith.
(01:02:00) - Job: A Case Study. How he was punished for being faithful to God
(01:10:13) - It's okay to question God! It's okay to disagree with him and be hurt. A relationship with God is just that - a relationship
(01:14:00) - All we want as humans is a purpose and something to live for, which is why in these unprecedented times, people are turning to religion
(01:14:35) - The relationship between gender and religion - women are generally more religious and, in turn, more happy when compared to men.
(01:17:10) - Religion itself isn't inherently good or evil, it's like a liquid that takes the shape of whatever container it's in. If you're depraved and fanatical, the way you practice your religion will be depraved and fanatical
(01:18:25) - Why are womens' choices always dissected? It's a problem if we're "promiscuous", it's a problem if we're "prudes"
Love y'all, don't forget to rate us 5 stars, subscribe, and share! Xoxo
Hey IBTFC! Your girls are back with a card game! Listen to Natoni discuss love, life, friendship and lessons learned in their mid-twenties as they play the "Table Talk" card game and get deep. Enjoy!
(03:15) - catch up, INS (H5N1 Bird Flu)
(09:30) - anti-immigrant rhetoric on the rise in the U.S...ADOS is craaaazy
(20:00) - gofundme for a honeymoon isn't crazy?
(24:00) - the IBT! We begin playing the "Table Talk" card game and get deeppp
That's all the timestamps we got for y'all chile, we ping-ponged from topic to topic and question to question. Enjoy! And don't forget to rate us 5 stars, leave us a voice note and SHAREEEEE. xoxo love y'all byeeee
Heyyy IBTFC! Your girls are back with a special guest! Join Natoni on their first ever interview as they chat with the one & only Len.
The girls get in between his fashion choices, new album and the impacts of fame on his mental health. Stream #Cobalt & rate us 5 stars/leave a voice note! Love y'all mwahhh.
Time Stamps:
(01:00) - Catchup, we discuss personal ins and outs as well as casual racism in Europe
(05:45) - The Tenerife sky influenced the creation of the #Cobalt album
(08:23) - Destiny vs. Freedom of choice: what influences your life's story?
(09:40) - Love with Len! Loverboy or thot?
(13:01) - Tv and movie talk! From Lessons in Chemistry to Dune 2
(18:13) - Len's Musical Palette & what he's listening to currently
(20:13) - Performing in Lagos vs. London
(23:36) - COBALT: So Much More, the soundtrack to the loneliness of fame
(25:50) - Is isolation an indicator of success? How do you stay grounded through the fame?
(29:40) - What Len was listening to as he was making #Cobalt
(34:28) - Avatar talk! We discuss the tribes/nations we'd belong to in the Avatar universe
(37:38) - Astrology talk
(38:30) - Game # 1! This or That
(42:40) - The mad genius stereotype...does madness come with greatness?
(49:00) - Voicemail listener question! (Thanks Chibu) Len answers if we can expect more afrobeats/afrofusion songs from him in the future
(50:45) - Len's favorite ad-libs
(52:00) - Len's past as a street chemist...hush hush lmao
(53:31) - Lancey, Fimi and Len...UK Opium?
(56:30) - Out Scenario # 1: Ex GF spends thousands of dollars of Ex BF's money over three years. Was she wrong?
(01:05:08) - Out Scenario # 2: Former Side Chick is indecisive about telling her current partner of her past with a married man
(01:11:24) - We ask the real questions...Has Len ever been a side piece?
(01:17:44) - What are the "Side N*gga" Rules of engagement? What's a no-no while you're cheating?
Heyyy IBTFC! Join Natoni (isn't that cute?!) this week to discuss Nickoledon pedos, Beyonce's Renaissance Act II, and literally everything else in between. Time stamps below, don't forget to rate us 5 stars, vote in the polls and leave feedback! Love y'allll xoxo.
(03:00) Catch up! we discuss shows we've been into and argue over who's least faithful in Binging Ethics
(12:00) Why are you dm'ing me eyeball emojis instead of sending a love letter...can you get real?
(14:20) Renaissance Act II Album cover discourse! Was Beyoncé justified in using an American flag for optics in this political climate?
(35:15) Quiet on Set: the Nickelodeon scandals...former child stars come forward to speak on their abusive experiences which sparks a conversation on child exploitation
(40:42) Now that kids have moved away from child actors to streamers and vloggers for entertainment, are they less or more likely to be exploited? What does exploitation look like now? How do we keep children safe as we become increasingly entwined with technology?
(49:30) Because social currency is interpreted digitally now, children with large followings are "adultified" which puts them more in harms' way
(54:08) NASA Abuser sparks a conversation on cancel culture and "trying to cancel" someone when they "get their shine". Is that even a thing?
(1:00:45) Disgruntled, swagless Hérmes consumer sues them for "unfair business practices" after being denied a Birkin. Are we getting too entitled? Coach or Michael Kors weren't available?
love yawllll bye!
Heyyy IBTFC! Your girls are back to discuss Diddy's debauchery, the Nara Smith controversies, and the recently-announced merger between Nigeria's Mavin Records & America's UMG. Listen, share and rate us 5 stars! Leave a voice note or curiouscat message if the spirit moves you (let it move you...) byeeee love y'all xoxo
(07:30) - friends to lovers...in or out?
(10:22) - why alte n*ggas be hitting on you...babe you're supposed to be gay...
(17:00) - nara smith...why are people foaming at the mouth? is she really pushing mormon propaganda?
(26:40) - reesa teesa - why are people so cruel to women online? why is vulnerability mocked?
(35:00) - veteran sets himself on fire to protest the genocide on Palestinian people
(45:00) - nigerian actor gets twerked on by his daughter...why? where do we draw the line from familial affection to impropriety?
(53:00) - why are straight men dressing like butch queens now...what happened to trade?
(01:08:00) - UMG and Mavin team up, what does this mean for the future of african music? should we gatekeep?
(01:20:00) - THE IBT - diddy diddy diddy...how many times did we call you? you're a dirty dirty dog. Do money and power corrupt, or is corruption inherent based on your personality and character?
(01:36:00) - NICU nurse steals opioids from sick babies, should the coworker snitch?
(01:42:00) - older man leaves his wife for younger woman then regrets it after ex-wife marries ex-best friend...does he deserve sympathy?
Hey IBTFC! Your girls are back with Episode 1 of #IBTLIBRARY: Prince of Monkeys by Nnamdi Ehirim. Join us to discuss themes such as tribalism, classism, and political corruption found in this coming-of-age Lagosian novel. Chapters down below, send us a message
(01:15) - Natasha gets harassed at the library lmaooooo
(06:50) - #LoveIsBlind recap, attachment style discussion
(19:00) - Omah Lay bends it like beckham
(24:20) - Can you "steal" peoples' ideas in fashion? Hanifa v. Fashionnova. Sustainable fabric and fast fashion discussion
(37:25) - PRINCE OF MONKEYSSSS! book review and synopsis
(01:07:50) - Book Club Questions!
(01:38:40) - Out 1: Husband takes medication to lower his sex drive because he and his wife haven't been intimate in years
(01:50:45) - Out 2: Young couple escapes a religious cult, but cannot escape their sexual trauma. The wife sources sex workers for the husband...
Heyyy IBTFC! Your girls are back with a love-filled episode of All About Love. Join Natasha & Toni as they discuss soul mates, dating, and lessons learned in love. Leave us a voice note or anonymous message (curioustcat.live/theeibtpod) telling us about your love experiences so far. Love y'all MUAH! no bars...
(04:30) "In" Love scenario - unethical girl best friend wants her married male bestie
(17:11) Introducing today's IBT! All About Love: Q&A Edition! Asking each other questions about love including what we've learned, what we're looking for, and specific experiences.
(18:14) SYDNEY! WE'RE CALLING YOU SIS.
(35:00) What do you wish you knew about love at a younger age?
(43:13) Do you believe in soulmates? Do you think you'll find yours?
(53:23) When is the best time to discuss important things in a relationship?
(01:00:00) We can't all be housewives abeg
(01:03:45) Answering our #AskingForAFriend CuriousCat questions
(01:10:00) Getting into our love media! The girls discuss music, movies and television that are good representations of love.
sn: forgive the audio quality of this episode babes, we're working on #us, yeah? next one will be better dears don't be annoyed xx
Hey IBTFC! In this episode Natasha & Toni discuss which men are in, which men are out, and get in between dating and lessons learned romantically. Stream, rate us 5 stars, and LEAVE A VOICENOTE or Curiouscat message by clicking our linktree xx. Byeeee love y'all mwah!
