In today’s video, I respond to a viewer who is concerned about “videos of my girlfriend and her ex.”



Read or watch below to learn more about how to deal with a situation involving a “girlfriend and her ex,” and retroactive jealousy.









Zachary Stockill: As we all know, overcoming retroactive jealousy can be tough—and it can get even harder when we come across things we probably shouldn’t have seen.



In today’s video, I’m going to respond to someone dealing with retroactive jealousy around images he can’t unsee.



My name is Zachary Stockill, and since 2013, I’ve helped thousands of men and women from around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and save their relationships.



If you’d like to learn more about my work or are interested in working with me one-on-one, please click here.



The term retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, often obsessive curiosity, and what I like to call “mental movies” about your partner’s past relationships.



You might experience just one of those symptoms, or all three—but that, in a nutshell, is retroactive jealousy.



In today’s video, I’m going to read a comment I received from someone—I’m assuming a viewer of this channel.



This viewer writes that some men have been exposed to actual sex videos of their current spouse with an ex-boyfriend.



These were videos that had been stored in the home and were discovered several years later.



This experience can be traumatic because the images are real, even if the encounter happened long before the current relationship.



Seeing these graphic images can lead to frequent flashbacks of the video that are hard to forget.







There’s no way to sugarcoat this—so I won’t try:



That’s a very difficult situation.



Especially if you’re in the unfortunate position of having seen images—or maybe even videos—of your partner involved, so to speak, with someone else.



I’m not going to sugarcoat it—that’s really difficult.



I completely understand and can imagine how challenging that must be.



However, the first thing I need to say—and I don’t know if this applies to you, but I say it quite often—is that this kind of thing usually happens when the person struggling with retroactive jealousy goes snooping around the house or through their wife’s things.



An iPad, computer, phone, old hard drive, or something like that.



Quite often, this kind of thing happens because of snooping.



Not always—and I don’t know if that’s the case for you—but it often comes up as a result of snooping.



And as you know, if you’ve watched many of the videos on my channel, I have strong feelings about snooping and invading your partner’s privacy.



I’m a strong believer in personal privacy.



I believe that no matter how long you’ve been married—even 50 years—each person in the relationship still has a right to their privacy.



It’s not okay to go snooping through their phone...