In today’s video, I discuss the cost of The Red Pill in relationships.
Read or watch below to learn strategies for understanding the true cost of The Red Pill.
Zachary Stockill: Many men in the online red pill movement don’t really aim to build stronger men—they’re more focused on creating stronger customers.
And that’s exactly what I want to talk to you about in today’s video.
I’m Zachary Stockill from retroactivejealousy.com, and since 2013, I’ve been helping people from around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and strengthen their relationships.
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Today, I want to share a message that probably won’t sit well with everyone—but it’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while.
It’s been bothering me, and I just couldn’t keep quiet anymore.
A lot of online red pill or manosphere influencers don’t actually want you to heal.
They don’t want you to forgive or find peace.
They want you to stay angry—because they need you to stay angry.
If you heal, you stop watching.
If you grow, you stop buying. And if you forgive, you stop turning to them for clarity or reassurance.
And of course, that’s bad for their business.
But before we go further, let’s take a quick step back.
There are some valid insights in the online red pill movement.
For example, women do appreciate confidence—standing tall with your shoulders back.
They appreciate clarity, direction, and strong leadership.
And it’s true that many men today feel shamed or dismissed for expressing their masculinity.
Attraction isn’t really a choice.
In general, women tend to be drawn to men they see as high value, so to speak.
As far as I’m concerned, that’s all true.
But somewhere along the way, a lot of people in the red pill movement stopped promoting growth—and started selling rage instead.
You probably know exactly what I mean.
You’ve seen it—the YouTube thumbnails with loud, violent red text designed to trigger outrage.
The shouting matches on podcasts where they invite women on just to mock or belittle them.
The constant stream of “women today are garbage” content.
So why do they do it? Because
anger is addictive.
Selling anger works. Appealing to anger is powerful—and let’s be honest, staying angry is easy.
It’s easy to stay stuck in bitterness and self-pity.
It’s easy to put the responsibility for change on someone else.
It’s easy to blame your ex, or society, or modern women, or anything but yourself.
But you know what’s hard? Taking responsibility.
Owning your pain.
Doing the deep inner work to become the kind of man who no longer needs to blame anyone.
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