What was my favorite booking? What do I think about Lily Phillips and Bonnie Blue? What are my go-to icebreakers with clients? I'm answering these questions and many more!
Some other sex workers on TikTok you should follow, as mentioned in the episode:
https://www.tiktok.com/@juicypomma4.0
https://www.tiktok.com/@shakingsheets
https://www.tiktok.com/@pursenuggets5.0
https://www.tiktok.com/@inaralorde
https://www.tiktok.com/@jadeblairxox
https://www.tiktok.com/@tigressthe304.personal
It's officially been one year since I started escorting full time! Today I'm diving into all the lessons I've learned, and my personal reflections on this year for me.
A bit of a different topic today, but one I'm incredibly passionate about - my opinions on dating men, as a straight cis woman. This is purely about dating in personal life (not about my clients), and it's such an important facet of many women's lives.
This isn't a comprehensive totality of my views - I would have to talk for a few hours to get everything out! I'd love to hear your opinion in the comments and start a conversation.
TikTok accounts mentioned:
https://www.tiktok.com/@texasgardenfairy
https://www.tiktok.com/@the_yv_edit
https://www.tiktok.com/@observationswithmyeyes
(tip: if you don't have the TikTok app, you can watch all videos without having to download it or log in by viewing the links on desktop!)
Books mentioned:
Why Men Love Bitches, Sherry Argov
Calling in The One, Katherine Woodward Thomas
I've been living in Berlin for almost a decade (!) and often get asked online what it's like to live here - so here's a deep dive! I talk about the pros and cons from my personal perspective (warning: there's a lot of cons) as well has how much the city has changed since I moved here.
Today's conversation is full of not just juicy bits about porn, but important lessons for anyone who is even slightly interested in the industry. We discuss what a porn ban would actually look like, how AI effect the adult industry, the role of porn in sex education, and how porn is used as a political pawn.
Noelle Perdue is a writer, producer and porn historian with nearly 10 years of experience working platform side for multiple mainstream and independent adult industry companies. Having written everything from Food Network porn parodies to legally binding terms and conditions, much of her current work explores the blurry borders of obscenity and how pornography's history can influence our digital and political futures.
Follow Noelle on socials:
https://www.instagram.com/all_day_breakfast_/
Chiqui Love joins me for a lively discussion on her decades of experience as a stripper, how sex work has changed her approach to both dating and feminism, and how the industry has changed since she got her start in London in the early 2000’s.
Chiqui Love is a stripper, burlesque, and cabaret artist and all round erotic entertainer. With over 22 years’ experience in the industry, she combines different elements of performance into her own unique style, and is also a sex worker rights advocate. She was the founding member of not one, but two stripper’s collectives, one in London and one in Berlin.
Follow Chicqui on socials:
https://www.instagram.com/chiquilovelovelove/
Madame Ava L'affaire joins me for a discussion on all things BDSM and sex work. We talk about her past experiences as an escort, her passion for being a dominatrix, experiencing class discrepancies as a sex worker, the whorearchy, sexual shame, and more.
Madame Ava L'affaire is a dominatrix and sex worker rights activist. She grew up in Berlin and is the child of Afghan refugees.
Follow Madame Ava on socials:
https://www.instagram.com/madame_laffaire/
https://x.com/Madame_affaire
Today I am joined by the magnificent Sienna Carlisle. We discuss her journey from being a pro-domme to now being a domme and escort, transphobia in the sex industry, her experiences with clients, her recent rebrand, and working in Australia vs Europe.
Sienna Carlisle is an international trans goddess whose journey has spanned many countries and many parts of the industry. She is a luxury companion as well as a domme depending on the dynamic at hand.
Follow Sienna on socials:
https://www.instagram.com/sienna.carlisle/
https://twitter.com/siennacarlisle
Today I am joined by my friend and colleague, Bishop Black. We discuss what Bishop has faced as a bisexual POC in the industry, the difference between mainstream and "ethical" porn, and how Bishop has sustained their long and illustrious career in the porn industry.
Bishop Black (they/them) is a multidisciplinary stage, burlesque, and porn performer. Hailing from London, they currently reside in Berlin. They've been active in the porn scene for over 10 years and have worked with directors and studios such as Bruce LaBruce, Erika Lust, HardWerk, JoyBear, and more. They recently starred in the film The Visitor, which premiered at the Berlinale this year.
Bishop's socials:
https://instagram.com/thebishopblack3000
https://twitter.com/itsbishopblack
https://bsky.app/profile/thebishopblack3000.bsky.social
Why is the word "whore" a derogatory term? Is it ok for you to call me that? What other terms do we use to talk about sex workers, and where do they originate from? Class is in session, and I'm teaching you everything you need to know.
Do I pay taxes? Do I care if my clients are married? Do I fake orgasms? I get a lot of common questions about my work, and today I'm answering *all* of them. Plus, some extra answers from questions you asked on Instagram earlier this week. All your curiosities, indulged!
Season 2 of the podcast is back, and I'm starting off with a very personal story that happened this summer - I fell in love.
What's the best way to handle sex work legally? Should we use the Nordic model, to punish clients and decrease demand? What about legalization or decriminalization - and how are those two things different? Let's dive into the pros and cons of all the options.
This is the final episode of Season 1 of The Whore's Bedroom! I'm taking a summer break and will be back in September for Season 2.
Mentioned in this episode:
Juno's TED talk:
https://youtu.be/VJRBx0JjM_M?si=S9ODH8kvW6ZI2EEL
Lydia's twitter thread: https://x.com/LydiaCaradonna/status/1806963676462583855
Book: Revolting Prostitutes by Juno Mac and Molly Smith
What's it like to have sex for money? Can consent be bought? In this episode I'm breaking down what it's like to do my job, on both a practical and emotional level. I also dive into the argument that "consent cannot be bought" and what consent means when money is involved.
Today I'm discussing my own spirituality, including my spiritual views on sex, why I believe sex is sacred, and my frustrations with the way society views sex and relationships. I also dive into my own astrology chart at the end of the episode.
My astrologer who I mentioned:
https://pippa-kate.com/
In 2017, I was given a 5 year ban from the USA - which then turned into a 10 year ban, which then turned into an indefinite ban. I'm giving you the full story on exactly how it happened, and the aftermath I've faced, plus details on how the US border brutally discriminates against sex workers.
*I'd like to note - I meant to mention this in the episode but it slipped my mind - my experience was incredibly privileged as far as US border horror stories go. As a white woman I did not experience nearly the level of discrimination, harassment, and violence that other visitors and immigrants experience every day at the hands of border agents. I am thankful my experience was not worse than it was, and my heart goes out to those experiencing worse injustices.
The article I mentioned in this episode:
https://www.thedailybeast.com/why-ai-is-detaining-sex-workers-at-the-borderand-you-may-be-next
Today I'm answering audience questions about BDSM! I go over my favorite BDSM practices, advice for getting into BDSM, how kink is intertwined with patriarchy, the details of 24/7 relationships, and everything else you've been wondering.
The Contrapoints video I recommended in this episode:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqloPw5wp48
(yes it's long but it's worth the watch!)
I have years of experience in various roles within BDSM, and this week I'm telling you all about it. From discovering my submissive side when I was 20, to being a Domme in a 24/7 power exchange relationship, to getting comfortable with my most vulnerable and deep kinks, I'm sharing every detail - both good and bad.
How has sex work affected my dating life? Having been in and out of the adult industry for 8 years, it's had an impact on all of my serious relationships as an adult. I'm sharing all about my recent ex who hated that I was a sex worker, my current dating life with men who don't have problems with what I do, as well as my overall thoughts on how people tend to discuss dating sex workers. At the end of the episode I respond to an Instagram message from a fan who doesn't want to pay for my services, but hopes to date me for free.
I'm bringing you inside the strip club! I worked as a stripper for around 4 months, and although my time in the club was short, my stories are enough for a lifetime. I kept a detailed diary of all my working nights at the club, and I've never shared it with anyone - until now. I'm reading out the entire diary, which includes some crazy stories (like the former owner falling in love with me because I looked like his dead wife). I'm also giving you entire the low-down on the behind-the-scenes of strip clubs and what it's like to work in this industry.
