In this episode of "The Upshot," Jeremy, Kyle, and Shane dive into an often-overlooked topic: the significance of friendship for fathers. While it might seem like a lesser priority, building and maintaining strong relationships with other men is crucial for a dad’s well-being. The trio explores the challenges dads face in forming deep connections, the value of vulnerability in friendships, and how these bonds can be a lifeline in navigating fatherhood. Tune in as they discuss why every dad needs community and how cultivating meaningful friendships can positively impact your life as a father.
In this episode of The Upshot we sit down with Buck Giebelhaus, Lead Pastor of Northpoint Church, to explore the critical role of emotional health in fatherhood. Buck shares his journey of understanding and prioritizing his emotions and how it has impacted his relationship with his sons. He discusses practical strategies for fathers to maintain emotional health and the ripple effects it can have on the entire family. Join us as Buck delves into the importance of self-awareness, vulnerability, and emotional health in becoming a better dad.
In this episode of "The Upshot," we talk with Ryan Lehman about the value of raising kids in the great outdoors. Ryan shares how his mother's final days battling cancer inspired his family to explore parks and natural areas around central Texas. He discusses their decision to prioritize outdoor living and the benefits it brings, especially in a world dominated by screens. Join us as Ryan reveals how these experiences have shaped their family life and the lessons they've learned along the way.
In this episode, we’re thrilled to have Jason Perkins join us to share his fatherhood journey. Jason has raised three kids while working in the corporate world and pastoring a church in Colorado Springs. Now, he lives in Australia and partners with churches worldwide through the Irresistible Church Network. Many dads look up to Jason for his wisdom and experience, especially now that he’s an empty nester. Tune in to hear his practical advice and insights on fatherhood.
On this month's podcast, we are joined by Chris McSorely. A man normally behind the scenes but put on the spot (after being recommended by so many) to share his fathering wisdom. He tells the story of what it was like becoming a dad when he didn't have an example of his own growing up and what it means to win with daughters. Get ready, this episode is packed with wisdom to help you get it right as a dad, in whatever situation or season you find yourself in.
Welcome back dads! In episode 13, we are joined by friend Brandon Rogers. Brandon and his wife Jenn have their own following on Youtube that documents their life journey from Seoul to Maui to Austin while beginning a family. After beginning to settle in Austin, their life took a turn when their new daughter Izzy was diagnosed with an unexpected and rare illness. Brandon shares this painful story with an incredible vulnerability that opens the door for all of us to learn and apply his insight in our own lives as we face unexpected situations in parenthood. We hope his story inspires you as a dad!
In Episode 011 of the Upshot, we are joined by the better halves of our hosts: Jessica Watson & Alana Norcross. One of the most powerful questions we can ask as fathers is: What is it like on the other side of me? Alana & Jessica share their insights on what it is like as moms on the other side of us dads. Lean into what they have to say because part of getting it right as dads, is recognizing our blind spots and leaning into the wisdom given to us from our partners.
Welcome to the Upshot! In this episode, we are joined by a good friend & expectant father, Jordan Geist. As of the recording of this podcast, his first baby is due in just a few days! Jordan shares his perspective on what he has observed in his journey of becoming a father, what he has experienced, heard and learned from other dads in this process and insight from years in student ministry, learning parenting lessons while listening to high school students and their own stories with their parents. Whether you are a brand new dad or you've been a father for years, Jordan shares some great stuff here. Join us as we celebrate him stepping into fatherhood!
Welcome to The Upshot Podcast! In this episode, Shane and Kyle, along with guest Jeremy, explore the pivotal role of fatherhood in children's lives, sharing real-life anecdotes and insights. From the impact of absent fathers to practical tips for intentional parenting, this episode provides a poignant look into fostering emotional availability, creating secure environments, and engaging with teenagers. Join us as we uncover the keys to nurturing thriving homes and meaningful family connections. Subscribe and engage with us as we continue to explore the profound impact of intentional fatherhood.
Timeline:
• 00:00 Introduction
• 05:26 The playscape climb.
• 13:01 Chaotic Christmas Eve games at mother-in-law's.
• 19:14 Prioritizing family time leads to child flourishing.
• 24:33 Recognizing and managing emotions to avoid projection.
• 30:29 Struggling with emotional availability in relationships and life.
• 35:58 Communication challenges between fathers and teenage sons.
• 42:10 Holiday stress is relieved with family moments.
• 43:13 Memories of home and time together.
• 50:56 Kids' environment starts with parental relationship foundation.
• 55:58 Creating meaningful family rituals for quality time.
• 59:32 Prioritizing exercise helps me decompress effectively.
In this episode Shane and Kyle, along with guest Adam Ulatoski, explore the power of traditional rituals and ceremonies in shaping our boys' lives. From childhood experiences to organizing meaningful moments for their kids, they discussed how intentional markers guide boys through different stages of becoming a man. It's not just about masculinity, but about developing truly impactful and strong character traits.
Timeline:
• [00:06:13] Dad moments.
• [00:11:42] Chaotic dad moment.
• [00:15:29] Weekend trip with group of guys.
• [00:17:10] Directions given, problems encountered, failure to act.
• [00:22:15] Boys on journey to becoming knights, and transitions in life.
• [00:26:58] Supporting, coaching, and community are key.
• [00:33:51] Having conversations about following Christ and reflecting on meaningful rites of passage to manhood.
• [00:39:45] Important moment when sons become independent adults.
• [00:45:13] Men working towards common goal.
• [00:47:50] Be a loving, protective, honorable man for your daughters.
• [00:52:19] "Don't dismiss a book based on disagreements."
Welcome back to The Upshot Podcast! In today's episode, Shane and Kyle dive deep into feeling stuck and the struggles that come with it. Join us as we explore the concept of feeling stuck and discover actionable ways to create positive momentum, change perspectives, and unlock our own potential. Shane and Kyle reflect on their own experiences of being in a season of feeling stuck and the desire to break free from it. Amongst personal stories and insightful reflections, they highlight the importance of understanding our own wiring and finding opportunities within our current situations to grow and thrive.
Timeline:
• [00:07] Podcast for dads who embrace fatherhood.
• [06:40] Feeling stuck in life.
• [11:36] "Snakes, camping, Frito pie, s'mores, vomiting."
• [18:25] Struggling with comparison and feeling stuck.
• [21:24] Uncomfortable seasons and enduring through discomfort.
• [23:26] Dads need support when parenting is tough.
• [28:14] Jobs lacking purpose, feeling frustrated and depressed.
• [33:05] Avoiding distractions, confront areas of discontentment.
• [36:38] Creating trust takes work; invest in relationships.
• [39:47] Encourage men to have meaningful conversations.
• [42:28] Unlock, redeem, fix, repair, reflect, own, change.
• [44:30] "Little steps encouraged, big step overcome"
Welcome to another exciting episode of The Upshot Podcast! In this week's episode Shane and Kyle dive deep into the joys and challenges of being a father. Our special guest, Barry Cox, joins the conversation as they explore topics such as the pressure to provide for their children, the importance of creating meaningful experiences, and the evolving nature of parenting strategies as children grow older. Key Takeaways: • Prioritize quality time • Check and adjust priorities • Give yourself grace Timeline: • [00:00:34] Friend Barry Cox, dad entrepreneur, talks busyness. • [00:04:36] Child learns to ride bike without training wheels. • [00:09:38] State-of-the-art pickleball court. • [00:17:23] Ironic overlap of career and parenting responsibilities. • [00:22:17] Balance work and family; be intentional. • [00:25:56] Fundamental needs met. • [00:31:29] Barometer for dad's involvement in family. • [00:35:10] Fully present, experiencing daughter's world sans distractions. • [00:37:23] Parenting evolves as your kids grow. • [00:41:15] Personal rhythms. • [00:43:49] Prioritization is crucial for relationships and goals. • [00:51:38] God has a plan for your kids. • [00:55:44] Be cautious buying shoes online.
In today's episode of The Upshot, Kyle and Shane dive into a range of topics, including anger management, navigating conflict in relationships, and the importance of emotional awareness. You won't want to miss this insightful episode! Tune in now to gain valuable insights and takeaways.
Key Takeaways:
- Anticipate and identify triggers that cause anger or frustration.
- Recognize and accept your feelings of anger.
- Seek help and support from a community or friends when needed.
Join us as we share personal anecdotes, explore the role of anger in our lives, and offer practical tips for managing anger in a healthy way. This episode will leave you with valuable tools to approach conflict and relationships with a fresh perspective.
Timeline:
• [02:47] Fireworks and mishaps
• [06:55] Son getting license adds stress
• [13:21] Too many distractions to feelings of lost control
• [15:41] Anger is a result of blocked goals
• [20:22] Anger driven by fear and control
• [22:22] Self-care and relationships help gauge emotions
• [28:29] Identify triggers, plan, ask for help
• [29:55] Anger doesn't always lead to danger
• [35:01] Friends support, but counselors diagnose and help
On this episode Kyle and Shane emphasize the importance of creating memorable experiences for kids as a dad, without necessarily requiring a lot of money. They explore various real-life experiences and traditions involving family trips, fishing and adventure. Then they give some insightful and actionable advice on how to overcome mistakes and move past shame, even to the point of using it as a teaching moment for their kids. Listen in for more inspiring and motivational family experiences.
Episode Highlights:
[01:01] Kyle's family trip to Colorado.
[05:12] Canadian water balloon game with elderly grandfather.
[09:59] Joyful memories from simple experiences, not money.
[18:56] Two layers of goals help with flexibility.
[22:53] Marriage conflict stems from differences.
[25:13] Vacation prep, distractions, and family memories.
[30:36] Shame, regret, learning, and forgiveness.
[34:56] Create happy summer memories with presence.
[39:25] Dad and daughter fishing trips.
[44:34] Journaling memories, "days are long, years short."
[47:11] Fatherhood support and encouragement for listeners.
On this episode of The Upshot Podcast, Kyle and Shane explore the importance of community, connection, and vulnerability for fathers. From riding bikes and cleaning up after meals to struggling with loneliness, busyness, and trust issues, hear personal insights and practical tips to help dads navigate life's challenges. Join us as we dive into parenting, marriage, mental and emotional wellbeing, and the role of faith in our lives. Whether you're a new or seasoned dad, there's something for everyone in this heartfelt and engaging episode.
Take a step toward community and join us in person for The Upshot Dad Meet-up on June 13th at The Good Lot in Cedar Park, Texas.
Overview:
- [06:20] Memories riding bikes and at Home Depot workshops
- [12:43] The Loneliness Epidemic has caused serious medical consequences.
- [18:10] How people may fail to recognize loneliness and isolation.
- [23:00] Trust is hard after disappointment
- [33:20] Take time to reflect and identify obstacles that may prevent the forging of meaningful connections and community.
- [37:19] A sense of belonging and freedom to be yourself is important and a meetup is planned for dads.
- [43:47] Teaching children responsibility while communicating love and support even when mistakes are made.
Resources:
Surgeon General Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation
In this episode, Kyle and Shane discuss the all too familiar tension between career and family. They ask questions about what it actually means to be a provider, share ideas about instilling a work ethic in your child, and discuss the importance of coming home ready to play and have fun.
Join Kyle and Shane as they kick off the first episode of The Upshot! The upshot is the final or eventual outcome of something. If you were to die today, what would be the upshot of your life and your fatherhood? What would you be remembered for, and who would you be remembered as? While these may seem like big questions to ask, they help us to figure out what it looks like to win in parenting. After all, we can’t make progress if we don’t know where we’re going in the first place.
