The report follows a neutral, source-aware investigation inside a community legal clinic from January through February of the next year. De-identified intakes and exit interviews reveal that women rarely leave marriages for a single cause. The early files show six first cracks that often cluster together. Emotional disconnection, infidelity, emotional or verbal abuse, financial irresponsibility, unequal household labor, and loss of trust. Couples often try repair with shared budgets, chore splits, phone rules, and counseling. Some efforts hold for a few weeks. Many do not.
Through summer the pressure grows. New layers appear and tighten the pattern. Addiction, control masked as care, growing apart, lack of intimacy, neglect, parenting conflict, untreated mental health, and toxic in-law interference. A short reversal is common. Two to four good weeks appear, then fade. Quiet preparation begins. Safety plans, copied documents, a small savings account, trusted contacts, and professional consultations.
In autumn the final cluster tips decisions. Career versus marriage imbalance, broken communication loops, unmet expectations, fear of staying stuck, loss of respect, and a practical desire for self discovery. Outcomes vary. Some couples sustain repair when practice holds on a calendar for months. Others separate with mediation, simple logistics, and steadier routines. Stabilization follows at three to twelve months when support is present.
An accountability lens closes the piece. Financial tools, accessible counseling, flexible work, public education on coercive control, and basic legal access improve safety and clarity. The throughline is simple. Leaving is not one reason. It is a record written over time, and repair only holds when promises become practice.
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