Send us a text Feeling like “roommates” instead of lovers? You’re not alone. In this episode, I share my absolute favourite sex books that every parent should have on their nightstand—plus the real-life stories and expert tips behind each pick. What you'll learn: The best books for reigniting desire and connection after kids How to talk about sex without shame or awkwardness Why exploring together (or solo!) can spark big changes in your relationship Timestamps: 00:00 — Intro & Podcast W...

Send us a text In this episode I share when my partner and I went to couples counselling after the birth of our first child. From my post-partum anxiety I was experiencing resentment and contempt and didn’t want this to be the theme of our relationship. In this episode I cover: 04:05 Why I hated admitting they needed help 06:12 Why everything wasn’t all my partners fault (much as I wanted it to be) 08:11 Why stress was the root of all our challenges14:45 And why coupl...

Send us a text In this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs. My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower libido partner who wants connection but feels stuck in shutdown—this episode is for you. In this epis...

Send us a text Feeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together? Or maybe you're doing your share—and still hearing that it’s not enough? This episode is for you. We’re diving into the mental load: what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always fix the spark. Spoiler: doing the dishes isn’t foreplay if you’re not emotionally connected. 👇 In this episode,...

Send us a text Struggling with low desire or no sex after kids? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode of The Sex After Kids Podcast, sex and intimacy coach Sofia from The Happy Vagina Project shares 5 mindset shifts to help couples reconnect, reignite desire, and break out of the dreaded “Not Tonight” cycle. Whether you're feeling touched out, rejected, or just numb to the idea of intimacy, this episode offers practical tools and emotional clarity to bring back passion, play...

Send us a text Ever found yourself thinking, “Why are they always avoiding sex?” Or maybe you’ve felt the sting of rejection and started to question your relationship, your desirability, or your skills in bed. This episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast flips that narrative on its head. We’re diving into the real reasons behind intimacy avoidance—especially after becoming parents. Spoiler: it’s not about being broken or unwanted. We’re talking about stress, nervous system overload, the orgas...

Send us a text Flirting with the D-word (Divorce)? Or just feeling like roommates with a mortgage and a laundry pile that never ends? So many couples are experiencing the same thing, but they don’t have the secret sauce I’ll share in this episode. Today we are talking all about the small, not-so-sexy things that make a massive difference. I’m talking: ✨ Undivided attention (yes, even for 3 minutes) ✨ Actually using your words (thank you, Daniel Tiger) ✨ Shutting your mouth instead of...

Send us a text We have another bedroom dispatch for you this week on the Sex After Kids Podcast. In this episode, we’re throwing out the Bridgerton fantasy and getting real about what it takes to feel sexy when you’re touched-out, overstimulated, and secretly fantasizing about alone time with your book boyfriend. Listen as I walk you through how I use my signature Time Together Blueprint to turn awkward into awesome in four little steps. This one’s for the mamas in messy buns and dads trying...

Send us a text What if the stories you’ve been taught about sex—what it should look like, feel like, and mean—are the real reason it’s not working? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re unpacking six cultural myths that sneak into your bedroom and sabotage connection. From spontaneous desire to sexual obligation, we’re breaking it all down—and offering a new way forward. 🎙️ What we cover: • 3 ways women are conditioned to override their bodies • 3 ways...

Send us a text What if the hottest thing you could bring into the bedroom… was a question? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about consent—not the swipe-right kind, but the long-term, tired-parents, messy-realities kind. Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no.” It’s how we build trust, support nervous systems, and create sex that feels good for both of you. We cover: • What consent really means in a long-term relationship &n...

Send us a text This week we have another bedroom dispatch from my sheets to your ears. I share these to normalize what real sexy times look like and to show you how my I use my own tools in my real life - so you can see who they work for you. This week you'll hear how I turned complaining about my body into a lovely romp in the hay with my partner using my Time Together Blueprint - four simple steps to go from a maybe to a yes and have a great time. Listen for: - how my partner initia...

Send us a text In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we explore one of the most tender and often unspoken transitions parents face: grieving your pre-kids sexual self. Whether your relationship with sex was neutral, fraught, or thriving before kids, the shifts that come after can feel disorienting — and sometimes heartbreaking. Join me as we talk about: Why your sexual identity changes after kids (and why it’s totally normal)The four types of changes that impact post-kid sexuality: ...

Send us a text If you are a parent you have likely at some point or another engaged in duty sex - sex that you had because you felt you had to or felt pressured to - to keep the peace or to keep your partner happy. You don't need to be a sexologist to know that this can have an impact on your relationship. This week we break down a study by Dr. Cami Hurst on Duty sex. We'll talk about - how duty sex is different than maintenance sex - how duty sex affects our libido and relationship - why we ...

Are you the fun police in your house? Always 10 steps ahead of what your kids and partner need, hardly ever just in the present moment. This could be what's killing your libido. In today's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we talk about: - how stress creates armour against pleasure - how pleasure is the medicine you need to combat stress and create connection in your life - what the mental load has to do with libido - three practical ways to bring pleasure into your life to rebuild your...

This week's episode is for the new parents out there. If you are a seasoned vet make sure to pass this on to any new and expecting parents you know. We are going to talk about : - the 6 biggest myths about sex after delivery and how they will create bad habits for your sex life into the future - my top tips for staying connected through the early years. - my favourite tool for reconnecting to your body after baby and feeling safe to start having sex again. This is a must listen ...

This week on the podcast we have guest Michelle Purta, a marriage and communications coach. This week she will guide us through how to start the conversation about our sex life and how to move forward if we are stuck in a cycle argument on this topic. Michelle and I had to record this conversation three times due to some tech glitches so we thank you for your listening patience. Together we cover: - why conflict is key to growth in your relationship - why your conversations derai...

In this episode we are doing a deep dive into one of the key ingredients of a great sex life - the nervous system. When we talk about creating safety for ourselves and our partner this is what we mean - working with the nervous system to get out of fight or flight. When your partner is avoiding talking to you about sex, avoids sex, or rushes through sex - there's a nervous system issue happening. When we understand it we can solve it to make sex a fun, safe and playful place to go. In t...

In this week's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sex Coach Sofia talks about how your fairy smut, daydreams about your ex and porn usage might be killing your sex life and what to do about it. No shade to fantasy, erotica or ethical porn here - and it be both helpful and harmful to our sexual connection. In this episode Sofia breaks down: how fantasy can fuel great sexpectations that lead to frustration and disapointmentthe part of your brain that is giving up when real life...

In this episode Sofia talks about an often overlooked way to reconnect with your body, your pleasure and your libido after kids. We'll cover: - why talking to your VJJ is so important - 3 ways to get to know your body better (without self pleasure) - how becoming BFFS with her VJJ changed the game for her sex life Links: OMGYES. https://start.omgyes.com/join?irclickid=TFV3CQQ8TxyKRcgXysTwJXMIUks1HGxseyng100&irgwc=1&source=impact&medium=affiliate&campa...

In this episode, host Sofia shares the lightbulb moment when she realized the parenting tools she was using to support her family to more peaceful moments and cooperation, could help her find more connection and less conflict with her partner, both in and out of the bedroom. Join her as she walks through her five favourite strategies and how they help her to be a better mom, a better partner, and a better human. The parenting program I accessed for FREE was through the Strongest Famil...