In this episode, Dr. Jake Porter explains his integrity model and how it can be used in sex addiction recovery.



As many of you know from listening to my podcast, I admire Jake Porter and all he has done for the field of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. His approach has helped so many couples heal their marriages and betrayed partners regain their sense of self.



In this episode, Jake and I break “integrity” into its components. Integrity is so much bigger than people realize. It’s more than simply being honest. Integrity requires health in all areas of your life.



Jake has a ton of amazing offerings for sex addicts, betrayed partners, and couples healing from betrayal. Check out his website at https://www.daringventures.com/



If you are a high-achiever, executive, professional, or entrepreneur looking for like-minded men to connect with in recovery, check out my website: www.successfuladdict.com

In this brief podcast episode, I talk about what 95% of sex addicts blame for their slips and relapses… and it's a total excuse.



It’s not their fault. They don’t mean to make excuses. But, there’s certainly a more productive way to get to the root cause of their acting-out behavior.



To be in good recovery, you must know WHY you do the things you do.



If you want help discovering the WHY behind your sex or porn addiction, visit my website. My groups are RECOVERY groups… not sobriety groups.



Long-term change is what you need, not sobriety.



If you’re a high-achiever, executive, sales professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group, visit successfuladdict.com

Sex addiction is much bigger than most people realize. While it's often discussed that sex and porn addiction are a result of childhood trauma, emotional regulation, entitlement, etc. There are many more reasons why someone would become sexually compulsive.



In this episode, I interview Jeremy Mast, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. He and I discuss how big this problem is and the wide variety of things that men will need to explore if they are going to get into good recovery.



If you want to connect with Jeremy and explore working with him or one of his therapists, visit his website: https://www.centerforintegrativechange.com/



If you are looking for a recovery group designed specifically for high-achieving men, visit my website at www.successfuladdict.com

Sex addiction sucks because it's the one you’re not allowed to have. You can struggle with most every other problem… but not this problem.



Compassion will be hard to come by given the trauma you will cause your wife and family.



Society has its view of what a “sex addict” is. A pervert, a freak, a weirdo, someone who is unsafe to have around kids, etc.



And, there certainly can be career consequences. I personally have experienced a loss of professional opportunities due to publicly announcing what my wife and I were dealing with.



It sucks to have a problem that people will not let you have.



And, because compassion and understanding will be in rare supply, you need to find a peer-support group that you can lean on through this. Otherwise, relapse is a realistic possibility.



If you’re a successful guy looking for a group of other high-achieving men to recover with, head to my website: successfuladdict.com

Sarah Morales is the founder of Deconstructing Gaslighting. In this episode, we define gaslighting. What it is, what it isn’t, and what to do about it.



Sex addicts often gaslight their partners before, during, and after discovery. Recovering from this form of deception can be very challenging for betrayed partners, especially in the midst of betrayal trauma.



In this episode, Sarah and I deconstruct gaslighting in a way that both sex addicts and betrayed partners can understand. We also provide couples with some clarity on how to move forward.



If you want to discover more about Sarah's work, visit her website heret: https://www.sarahmoralescoaching.com/



If you’re a high-achiever, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men. Visit my website at successfuladdict.com

It's a common assumption… “Roland, don't you think that these men need to hang out with men who are NOT like them? Don’t you think this adds to their ego and narcissistic traits?”



No… I strongly disagree.



In fact, the fastest way for them to get over their superiority complex, grandiosity, and narcissistic traits is to be around men who are struggling in the same way.



Yes, these traits are largely responsible for their sex addiction. Therefore, they need to be a HUGE focus in their recovery.



This episode discusses why it’s essential to prioritize addressing these unwanted traits at the top of your recovery list.



If you are a high-achiever looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit our website to apply: www.successfuladdict.com

This episode is much different than anything I’ve done. It’s a personal story of the pain that sex addiction can bring to a family.



Kendra agreed to share her story with my audience. As you will clearly hear in her voice, sharing this was not easy for her. Sex addiction and betrayal trauma are more than just mental health diagnoses… these are people's lives that are being affected.



Kendra shared her story here to help those who have been and are currently being affected by sex addiction and the pain that follows discovery. Her hope was that this episode might help families out there who are feeling similar pain.



You’re not alone. And, there’s a way forward.



I honor Kendra for sharing this deeply personal story with us. And, I ask that when you listen to this episode, you hold it in an honorable and respectful place.



If your family has been personally affected by sex addiction or compulsive sexual behavior, Kendra is a therapist and may be able to help you. Send me an email if you’d like to be connected to her.

Successful men with a sex addiction often get criticized for their entitlement, grandiosity, or their superiority complex.



But, where do these traits come from?



I’ll be the first to admit that my sex addiction stems from these traits. But, I wasn’t always that way.



How did this happen to me?



I have my theory. And, I present it in this podcast.



I would love to hear your perception of WHY men are becoming entitled and develop the desire to be superior.



Head to my website to send me a message via the contact form: successfuladdict.com



If you want to dive deeper into this topic of entitlement, superiority, and attention seeking, read my book. You can find it here on Amazon or Audible for the audiobook: https://a.co/d/dEkZbHC

In this episode, we introduce a unique approach to sex addiction treatment. Laura Childers uses neuromodulation to help sex addicts and betrayed partners get unstuck.



Laura and I talk about how this treatment works, why it works, and who would benefit.



On this podcast, Laura talks about what she sees in the brains of addicts, betrayed partners, and high-achieving men.



You can find more information about Laura's work and her intensives at https://houstonneurosolutions.com/



If you are a high-achiever looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website: https://successfuladdict.com



Recovery is different for high-achieving men. Their addiction presents differently, and their recovery will need to cater to these unique thought processes. Visit my website for more information.

When it comes to sex addiction… your “why” matters. It exposes the perceived value of the behavior that you’re chasing.



In my opinion, you cannot be in good recovery until you understand what it is that you need to recover from.



While this is called “sex addiction” and “porn addiction,”… it’s rarely about sex or porn.



So, what is it about? Listen to this episode to find out what your brain wants.



Because sex addiction is so different from person to person, it helps to find a group of men who have a similar addiction to yours that you can recover with.



If you are a high achiever, executive, or entrepreneur and you are looking for a group of like-minded men to recover with, visit my website at www.successfuladdict.com

Sobriety and recovery are two different things. Sobriety is needed before you can truly recover. But can sobriety alone take you the distance?



Marnie Ferree is the founder of Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, Tennessee. She speaks to long-term recovery, both from personal and professional experience working with sex and porn addicts.



In this episode, she and I discuss the ins and outs of long-term sex addiction recovery. This journey rarely comes without some bumps along the way. But how you navigate these bumps will determine if you relapse or stay on the road to sexual integrity.



To learn more about Marnie and her story, visit https://bethesdaworkshops.org/about-us/our-team/marnie/marnies-story/.



If you’re looking for a recovery group that can assist in helping you maintain and achieve long-term sex addiction recovery, visit my website here: successfuladdict.com

12-step meetings are designed to go through the 12 steps. They are not designed for connection. And, they are not therapy.



Sex addiction is incredibly different from guy to guy. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. If 12-step meetings are not resonating with you, you need to find something that does.



Many high-achieving men struggle with 12-step groups. They find them inefficient, lacking structure, and difficult to find connection.



There are many reasons why, and I discuss them in this podcast episode.



If you are a high-achiever, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website: successfuladdict.com

Yes, there’s the sex addiction, the compulsive sexual behavior, and… there’s the lying.



Your recovery needs to address all of it. Deceptive sexuality is not normal and needs to be addressed in addition to the addiction.



Cheryl Camarillo and I attended training together at The Institute of Sexual Health for Deceptive Sexuality and Trauma Treatment for infidelity and compulsive sexual behavior disorders.



Both of us work with high-achieving men and have noticed interesting nuances in their acting-out behavior. We talk about these nuances and how your recovery will need to be customized to deal with them.



If you are interested in working with Cheryl, you can find her here: https://cherylcamarillo.com/



If you have not yet read my book, you can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/gYeiXKv

Have some unwanted sexual behaviors stopped, while others keep nagging at you?Is it possible you’re missing the reason why you act out? What if you’re using the wrong sex addiction treatment strategies?What if each acting-out behavior has a different cause?



In this episode, I explore how pornography, affairs, and paid sex can have different causes. And, if so, you’ll need different treatment strategies to remove them from your life.



Because each acting-out behavior is formed at different ages and different times of life, each one likely has a different driver. If you want to be in good recovery, it's your job to discover the why behind EACH of the behaviors… not just one.



For many high-achieving men, their acting out comes from a wide variety of reasons… not just dopamine for emotional regulation. Some are seeking attention, validation, novelty, control, and superiority.



Whatever the cause, your recovery depends on your figuring it out and developing an efficient plan that is psychologically proven to work.



If your recovery is lacking and you want more structure and accountability, check out my recovery groups here: successfuladdict.com

Sex and Porn Addiction recovery is complex and multifaceted. Add the betrayed partner's experience, and you have an even more challenging situation.



Jeanne Vattuone and Tim Stein wrote a book called Finding the Way Through. This workbook is designed to integrate sobriety, recovery, and betrayed partner sensitivity.



In this interview, we discuss the nuances of personal and relational recovery.



You can find their new book here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/hE1SoEC



If you are a high-acheiver, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website at successfuladdict.com.



Our groups provide men with a deeply connected tribe that they can lean on in recovery. We use weekly Zoom meetings, daily accountability, and biannual 4-day intensives. Visit my website for more information about applying for our next group.

While 12-step was never really my thing… One thing I did take from it was the 3-circle sobriety plan.



Sex addiction is an interesting addiction because the definition of sobriety changes from person to person.



But one thing I really like about the “3-circle” idea was that it focuses more on recovery and prevention rather than just sobriety.



In this episode, I share my personal 3-circle sobriety plan as a reference for those looking to implement something similar in their recovery.



If you are a high-achiever and you have not yet read or listened to my book, you can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/5CUHoFd

It’s unanimously agreed (and the research supports it) that peer support and connection with other addicts is the best treatment strategy for sex addiction.



It's PEER support… Not just going to meetings. You need to be surrounded by men who you believe are your peers.



It’s connection… Not just sharing when it's your turn to share. Connection involves relatability, common interests, and feeling like the other person understands what its like to be you.



Yes, peer support and connection are vital. But, they are actually difficult to find, establish, and implement.



In this episode, Pam Blizzard and I dive into connection and the benefits when treating sex and porn addiction. Pam is a wealth of knowledge and a well-respected member of the sex addiction and betrayal trauma field. You will feel her experience when listening to this episode.



If you want to contact Pam, you can find her website here: https://recoveredpeace.com/



If you’re a high-acheiver in recovery and are looking for a group of your peers to recover with, my program may be a perfect fit. After attending one of our 4-day intensives, you will have a tribe of like-minded men you can lean on to achieve long-term recovery. Visit our website for more info: successfuladdict.com

Is your recovery group actually a recovery group?Is the group too big?Are you getting individualized feedback?Do you enjoy your time with your group and look forward to the meeting?



Just because you are going to a group or a meeting doesn’t mean it’s working.



In this episode, I discuss the point of peer support and what it should be doing for you.



You should feel yourself recovering when you leave every meeting.



Change is the objective. If you don’t feel like your recovery group is accelerating your recovery… You should probably find another group.



If you are a high achiever or entrepreneur and you have not yet bought my book, you can find it here on Amazon: https://a.co/d/1yPIaMN

Even the best communicators will be challenged when recovering from sexual betrayal.



Fear, anger, resentment, injustice, a lack of trust… This is not a great container for grounded conversation. But this is reality, and you’re going to need to learn how to navigate it as a couple.



Too often, couples recovering from infidelity heal in isolation but fight together. The problem is that healing happens together… not apart.



On this episode, I’m joined by Dani Peterson. She works with betrayed partners and couples in recovery. She and I discuss the difficulties that couples face when communicating post-betrayal.



For those of you interested in working with Dani, she has offered our listeners a FREE 30 minute consultation. Use the link here to schedule: https://calendly.com/danimpeterson/consultation



You can learn more about Dani at her website: https://www.danimpeterson.com/



Have you read my recovery book? If not, I want to give you access to the first chapter for free. Use this link here: https://successfuladdict.com/firstchapter

Are you monitoring the wrong things? Often, I find men are too focused on the behaviors rather than the cause of their sex addiction.



Recovery is about change… Not just avoiding unwanted behavior.



In this episode, I talk about how you can check in with your recovery group and help them keep you accountable.



Finding a tribe of like-minded men to do recovery with is the most important thing you can do for your recovery.



This podcast episode will explain why.



If you’re a high-acheiver, executive, business professional, or entrepreneur looking for a group of other high-achieving men to recover with, visit my website: successfuladdict.com



Connection is everything when it comes to sex addiction recovery. Having a deeply connected support group is the best way to maintain long-term recovery.