In this powerful episode Dr. Amelia Kelley is joined by Lindsay Abernathy, host of the Bitch is a Bad Word podcast, actor, survivor, and outspoken advocate for those navigating abusive relationships. Originally planning to discuss life and love after abuse, the conversation naturally shifted to something just as important: recognizing the signs of abuse while you’re still in it. Lindsay vulnerably shares her personal story, how love bombing, gaslighting, isolation, and manipulation became part of her daily life, and how difficult it was to see the cycle clearly while living through it. Together, Amelia and Lindsay unpack the “playbook” abusers follow, why it feels so confusing, and what survivors need to know about intermittent reinforcement, repair cycles, and reclaiming self-worth. If you or someone you love is unsure whether what they’re experiencing is abuse, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and encouragement. You’ll also hear about resources and communities ready to support you, because healing doesn’t have to happen alone.