What if the question you’ve been asking — “Are they the one?” — is actually limiting your clarity?

In this episode of Relationship Talks with Vikkie, we flip the script and dive into better, wiser questions that lead to real peace in godly relationships.

⏱️ 00:00 – Introduction

Why this conversation matters. Letting go of pressure, confusion, and false expectations.

⏱️ 02:30 – Why “Are They the One?” Isn’t Always Helpful

• Where the question comes from

• Why it creates pressure and anxiety

• How it leads people to ignore red flags

⏱️ 07:00 – What to Ask Instead: “Does This Relationship Reflect God’s Character?”

• Spiritual fruit vs. feelings

• The difference between peace and emotional attachment

📖 Matthew 7:16

⏱️ 12:30 – God Doesn’t Always Drop “The One”—He Teaches Us to Choose

• Free will and divine wisdom

• Ruth & Boaz: no loud prophecy, just clear alignment

📖 Proverbs 19:21

⏱️ 17:00 – Questions That Bring Clarity (Instead of Confusion)

• Are we equally yoked?

• Do they push me toward Christ or away?

• Am I more myself or more anxious around them?

⏱️ 23:30 – What If You Thought They Were “The One”… But Now You’re Not Sure?

• Discerning between emotion and instruction

• How to surrender that person to God and find peace again

⏱️ 28:00 – Final Encouragement

• God’s peace is better than your fantasy

• It’s okay to ask better questions — clarity lives there

📖 Isaiah 55:8-9

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