In this solo episode of The Reclamation Room, I’m diving into one of the most misunderstood (and honestly, probably triggering) parts of healing and relationships: the fine line between setting a boundary, being a doormat, and unconsciously trying to manipulate the other person.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I holding a boundary or am I being abusive, too?” this one’s for you.

We’ll explore how self-accountability isn’t about shaming yourself, but about developing the awareness that leads to real discernment: something many of us didn’t learn if we grew up around chaos, narcissism, or emotional immaturity.

Here’s what we get into:
✨ Why awareness must come before healthy boundaries
✨ The sneaky ways we can manipulate situations (even when our intentions are good)
✨ How self-compassion helps you face your “unregulated” or “unpolished” parts
✨ What real discernment might look like when you’re learning to trust yourself again
✨ The difference between setting a boundary to protect peace vs. control to receive connection
✨ How to protect your needs without losing your dignity, patience, or softness

This episode might make you a little uncomfortable.. and that’s the point. Growth comes outside of the comfort zone, right?
When we start getting curious about why we do what we do, but with self-compassion rather than judgment, that’s when transformation happens.

If you’re ready to get radically self-honest, deepen your self-awareness, and learn how to hold space for both your needs and your humanity, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

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