We’ve turned “independence” into an aesthetic - solo dinners, glow-up routines, “protect your peace.”
But if we’re so independent, why do so many of us feel lonely multiple times a week?
In this episode I unpack how independence ≠ isolation, why modern dating feels broken, how “boundaries” sometimes become walls, and the practical shifts to rebuild real connection - without losing yourself.
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Chapters
00:00 – The independence lie & loneliness poll
01:25 – Independence ≠ isolation: connection needs vulnerability
03:50 – Boundaries vs walls + why pain is part of love
05:45 – When did you last let someone in? Fear & self-sabotage
07:38 – Redefining independence without shutting people out
09:39 – Dating culture is broken (AU): expectations vs reality
12:20 – Single by choice… or by fear? Rejection & resilience
15:05 – Healing vs hiding: you can’t heal what you won’t face
17:05 – Practical playbook: stop performing, kintsugi, ask for help
19:15 – Redefine independence & reconnect offline
20:31 – Community Q&A: being single without feeling lonely
23:35 – Closing riff: take the risk to earn connection
26:40 – Life update: Hyro, the book, what’s next
28:31 – Outro & how to submit next week’s question
#lonely #growingup #lifeishard #independence