Surrender is one of the hardest - and most transformative - skills we can learn as parents, partners, and humans. But let’s be clear: surrender is not the same as giving up or giving in. It’s an intentional choice to release our grip on control, pride, or old survival rules so we can respond from a place of strength, connection, and trust.
In this episode, we explore what surrender really means in the context of healing in parenting, how it differs from passivity, and why it’s essential for healthier relationships. You’ll learn how surrender can coexist with strong boundaries, how to identify the unhelpful scripts that make letting go feel impossible, and how to rewrite them so they serve you and your family today. We’ll also talk about how this work ripples out beyond parenting - into our marriages, partnerships, and the way we show up in every relationship.
I’ll share practical tools, research insights, and a guided practice you can use right away to begin softening your grip without losing yourself. By the end, you’ll see how surrender isn’t weakness—it’s the gateway to deeper trust, calmer communication, and stronger connections.
♥ Your Parent Coach, Brittney
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