Today's conversation is with Dr. Kelly Flanagan—my marriage coach and a great friend I met back in 2019 at a couples retreat in Colorado through GoBundance.

This episode gets deeply personal as I share the behind-the-scenes journey of how I'm working through my own triggers, especially as a highly driven entrepreneur trying to balance massive goals with being present for my family.

Kelly and I dive into the splinter versus the trigger—whose fault is it when I get triggered? Are they rubbing against a splinter I already had, or are they actually putting new pain into me? 

We explore how my drive to 10x everything creates relationship collateral damage, and why I get triggered when I come home wanting adventure and connection but find problems waiting for me instead.

This conversation gets raw about how I'm learning to hold space instead of jumping into fix-it mode, and what it really means to create safety for the people I love.

Come learn alongside me as I work through this stuff in real time.

0:00 Intro

13:52 Triggers are like X's on treasure maps

22:26 AI accelerates revealing our blind spots

27:08 Authenticity as a top personal value

33:35 Seeking adventure and connection at home

47:58 Growing through conversations and relationships

52:06 Closing remarks and contact information

Resources Mentioned:

📚 The Road Less Triggered by Dr. Kelly Flanagan (upcoming book, not yet released)

📚 Lovable by Dr. Kelly Flanagan

📚 True Companions by Dr. Kelly Flanagan

📚 10x Is Easier Than 2x by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy

🌐 Dr. Kelly Flanagan's website: https://drkellyflanagan.com/

🌐 Dr. Kelly Flanagan's Substack: https://drkellyflanagan.substack.com/

🌐 Connect with Wyatt: https://wyattgraves.com/