Dating apps can leave you tired, frustrated, and feeling like you’re stuck in a loop. If you’ve been wondering why swiping left and right feels more exhausting than exciting, you’re not alone. Dating burnout is real—and you can break out of it.
In this video, coach and former matchmaker Caroline Millet joins Lori Clarke for a candid talk about dating burnout, how to find your way out, and how to build joy back into your search for connection. From her own story of divorce, heartbreak, and recovery, Caroline offers honest advice and steps for anyone feeling overwhelmed by dating apps or drained by the pressure to find “the one.”
You'll hear real talk about:
What dating burnout feels like and why it happens
Why having clear boundaries matters, and when those lines can hold you back
How to know what you actually want vs. what you’ve been told you “should” want
Tips for resetting if dating has left you exhausted
Building stability and self-love before looking for someone else
Lori and Caroline discuss the difference between chasing connection and chasing approval. Caroline shares why loving yourself first is the only way to attract the kind of relationship you want, and how to spot red flags before you lose months of your time on the wrong match. You’ll also get a glimpse at her six-step approach to help people recharge and show up as their best selves—both for themselves and for future partners.
If you’re sick of endless swiping, struggling to feel hopeful, or just ready to find a better way to date, this episode will give you practical tips, encouragement, and permission to take a break. Reclaim your energy. Build your own happiness. Then, if you want, get back out there with clarity and confidence.
Learn more about Caroline Millet, find her free resources, and get the support you need at her website and Instagram (links below). Dating doesn’t have to drain you—there is a better way.
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Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Personal Spaces
05:35 Transitioning from Matchmaking to Coaching
12:41 Challenges in Matchmaking and Client Dynamics
18:45 Understanding Relationship Expectations
23:20 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth
29:11 Navigating Love and Relationships Post-Divorce
34:07 Understanding Narcissism and Avoidant Behavior
38:16 The Emotional Toll of Relationships and Divorce
40:12 Rebuilding Self-Identity After a Breakup
45:42 Navigating Dating and Building Connections
51:25 The Importance of Curiosity in Dating
56:35 Recognizing Red Flags and Communication in Early Dating
01:05:21 Meeting New People and Authenticity
01:07:19 Navigating Rejection in Dating
01:10:41 The Importance of Self-Sufficiency in Relationships
01:12:58 Parenting and Dating: Balancing Relationships
01:16:21 Identifying Red Flags in Relationships
01:19:47 Understanding Burnout in Dating
01:25:35 Radical Self-Love and Recovery
01:31:16 Overcoming Dating App Addiction
01:34:34 Recognizing Cheating and Validation Seeking
01:36:20 Unpacking Personal Patterns and Influences
01:39:06 Defining Honesty and Expectations in Relationships
01:40:30 Creating a Blueprint for Future Relationships
01:41:11 Embracing Change and Growth in Midlife
01:46:35 The Power of Vulnerability and Self-Reflection
01:49:54 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics
01:56:01 Rewriting Your Story and Taking Control
02:00:01 Final Thoughts on Self-Love and Relationships