Show Notes:
In this episode of The Light Inside, we delve into the intricate world of somatic integration and its profound impact on our emotional and cognitive well-being. Our guest, Christoffel Snaders, brings over 30 years of experience in coaching, psychotherapy, and leadership training to our discussion, offering deep insights into the dynamic interplay between our head, heart, and gut.
Christoffel Snaders highlights that human behavior is not fixed but is a dynamic process shaped by the interplay of neural, emotional, and bodily systems. When these systems align through somatic coherence, individuals can achieve a state of attunement where body, mind, and emotions communicate fluidly. This alignment fosters clarity, resilience, and adaptive connections, which are essential for effective emotional regulation.
Timestamps:
[00:03:06] Somatic coherence and emotional clarity.
[00:05:08] Somatic processes and decision-making.
[00:09:12] Somatic integration and trauma.
[00:11:06] Body’s response to trauma.
[00:14:37] The complexity of body cells.
[00:18:03] Questioning Quantum biology and energy fields.
[00:22:58] Placebo effect in therapy settings.
[00:26:15] Logic in the head.
[00:29:58] Heart and memory connection.
[00:31:48] Heart and gut dominance.
[00:37:08] Misinterpretation of bodily sensations.
[00:42:00] Importance of observation in therapy.
[00:45:29] Observation and somatic awareness.
[00:48:05] Psychological safety in therapy.
[00:50:55] Tailoring sessions to client needs.
[00:54:49] Tailoring sessions for clients.
[00:59:04] Three brains intelligence resources.
[01:00:31] Human connection and collaboration.
—Credits
Featured Guest: Christoffel Sneijders
Connect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.
Music by Aloft Meade and Jeffrey Besecker
“Integration” by Aloft Media
“Miss Undrestanding” written by Jeffrey Besecker
“Meaningful Connections” by Aloft Media
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the concept of avoidance as an emotional coping strategy. He discusses how unresolved psychological issues can inhibit emotional regulation and self-awareness, leading to unprocessed trauma that affects our relationships with ourselves and others. The episode explores the subtle ways avoidance influences our reactions and highlights the challenges and transformative potential of facing what we have long avoided.
Listeners will gain insights into strategies for gently confronting avoidance patterns without feeling overwhelmed, paving the way for deeper connections and personal growth. Tune in to discover how confronting avoidance can illuminate your path to healing.
Timestamps
[00:02:54] Avoidant coping and emotional attunement.
[00:06:01] Avoidance as a survival strategy.
[00:08:07] Hypervigilance as a baseline.
[00:12:20] Evolution of avoidance strategies.
[00:16:47] Emotional capacity and discomfort.
[00:20:49] Co-regulation and emotional connection.
[00:26:00] Vagal breaking and safety.
[00:28:48] Over-intellectualizing vs. under-feeling.
[00:32:36] Somatic responses to anxiety.
[00:39:15] Guilt, shame, blame cycle.
[00:40:42] The nature of change.
[00:45:45] Exploring unconscious beliefs and triggers.
[00:49:23] Positive vs Negative Beliefs.
[00:54:01] Somatic signals and identity.
[00:57:21] Bridging somatics and cognition.
[01:00:56] Finding the grounding point.
[01:05:20] Avoidant behaviors and their roots.
Credits
Connect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.
Building Emotional and Somatic Language: Learning to Understand Your Body and Feelings
In this course, Brianna guides you in identifying the emotional and somatic language that bridges your inner experience with clearer self-understanding. You’ll discover how emotions first surface in the body, why they can feel confusing without words to name them, and how to communicate your feelings more effectively with yourself and others. With practical tools for recognition, regulation, and safe exploration, this course helps transform overwhelming sensations into empowering clarity. Note: Some exercises may stir strong emotions—practice at your own pace and lean on support if needed.
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker is joined by holistic physician Dr. Brad Montagne to explore how unconscious beliefs, emotional suppression, and meta-cognitive dissonance can inhibit healing in chronic care.
Together, we examine how unresolved psychological data and implicit attitudes create empathy gaps and relational disconnection, shaping both treatment resistance and patient well-being. This conversation unpacks the pivotal role empathy plays as a clinical tool—bridging human connection and holistic health outcomes.
Key Talking Points
Key Takeaways
Guest Bio – Dr. Brad Montagne
Dr. Brad Montagne is a holistic physician and chronic care provider dedicated to helping patients uncover the deeper connections between physical illness and unresolved emotional or psychological patterns. Through his work at HealthfullyU, Dr. Brad integrates medical insight with empathy-driven care, emphasizing the importance of whole-person healing and the restoration of human connection in clinical practice.
Credits
Connect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.
In this episode of The Light Inside, we explore the intersection of biology and behavior through the lens of epigenetics, genetic predisposition, and trauma-informed mental health care.
Our featured guest, Len May, founder of EndoDNA, guides us through groundbreaking research showing how genetic expression can shape everything from stress responses to treatment-resistant depression. We’ll learn how behaviors we label as “personal struggles” may, in fact, be inherited—and how understanding our biological code can lead to more ethical, personalized, and integrative models of therapy and healing.
Together, we examine how emotional imprinting, unresolved trauma, and somatic incoherence can be passed between generations—and more importantly, how these inherited patterns can be reinterpreted, reintegrated, and transformed.
This conversation invites therapists, healers, and practitioners to go beyond surface-level care and into a deeper, evidence-based understanding of how genetics, behavior, and healing intertwine.
Key Discussion Themes & Episode Chapters:
1. Cold Open – The Inheritance of Behavior
Trauma may not begin with us—but it’s often carried by us. We introduce the concept of biological inheritance and explore how behaviors may be encoded into our DNA.
2. Meet the Guest: Len May
A pioneer in DNA-guided health and CEO of EndoDNA, Len shares his journey from ADD diagnosis to creating a precision behavioral health platform grounded in genetics.
3. Understanding the Science: Genetic and Epigenetic Testing
Explore whole-genome sequencing, pharmacogenomics, and the endocannabinoid system as tools for decoding behavioral predispositions.
4. Primary, Secondary & Ancillary Behavior Patterns
Learn how inherited markers influence emotional dysregulation, coping strategies, identity confusion, and systemic trauma suppression.
5. Ethics & Application in Trauma-Informed Therapy
Discover how to ethically and effectively introduce DNA insights into the therapy room—balancing science with empathy and agency.
6. Integrative Takeaways: How Genetic Insight Enhances Healing
We wrap up with three applied strategies for integrating epigenetic knowledge into personalized, trauma-informed care.
Core Episode Insights:
Featured Guest:
Len May – Founder and CEO of EndoDNA
An expert in the field of precision behavioral health, Len holds multiple patents in using DNA to guide wellness and mental health interventions. His platform provides clinicians with evidence-based, whole-genome insights to support trauma-informed treatment and pharmacogenomic alignment.
Host: Jeffrey Besecker – Behavioral Coach and Host of The Light Inside
Episode Credits:
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Written by: Anna Getz
Guest Booking & Research: The Light Inside Podcast Team
Music & Audio Engineering: Light Inside Studios
Original Episode Concept and Research Framework: The Light Inside Think Tank
Related Resources & Links:
Len May & EndoDNA → www.endodna.com
Call to Action:
If you’re a trauma-informed therapist, coach, or mental health professional, this episode will expand your understanding of the unseen forces shaping your clients’ behaviors—and give you new tools to meet them where they truly are.
Leave us a review if this conversation sparked a new insight into your practice.
Episode Summary:
In this illuminating conversation, The Light Inside welcomes Albert Bramante—performance coach, therapist-in-training, and creative strategist—to explore the unconscious drive behind chronic overachievement and how it often masks deeper emotional needs. Together, we uncover how the compulsion to “perform your way into belonging”becomes a form of adaptive self-abandonment—disrupting somatic coherence, emotional regulation, and authentic identity development.
With a trauma-informed lens and practical, evidence-backed insights, Albert and Jeffrey examine how internalized shame, early maladaptive schemas, and survival-based belief systems shape high-functioning behavior in creatives, professionals, and helping practitioners. This episode offers valuable tools and reflections for therapists, coaches, and somatic practitioners guiding clients through patterns of burnout, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and identity fragmentation.
Key Takeaways:
About Our Guest – Albert Bramante:
Albert Bramante is a sought-after performance and mindset coach working at the intersection of creative expression, emotional intelligence, and trauma-informed embodiment. With a background in both media and somatics, Albert brings a unique perspective to high-functioning burnout and the masks we wear in pursuit of worth. His work guides actors, creatives, and professionals toward authentic self-alignment through nervous system regulation, identity integration, and internal family systems-informed practices.
Referenced Frameworks & Research
Who This Episode is For:
Episode Production Notes:
Host: Jeffrey Besecker
Guest: Albert Bramante
Editor & Production: Aloft Media
Music: Licensed Theme by Epidemic Sound
Show Notes & Research Support: The Light Inside Content Studio
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Listener Reflection Prompt:
When was the last time you achieved something—not to grow, but to feel safe?
How might your nervous system be asking for rest, presence, or compassion instead?
Episode Overview
In this insightful solo episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the psychological, social, and neurological dimensions of identity through the lens of sub-personalities and adaptive behavior.
For therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals, this episode offers a nuanced view of how our inner cast of characters shapes what we call “the self,” and how these performative roles can either limit or liberate us, depending on how we relate to them.
Whether you support clients on their path to self-integration or are exploring your own evolving sense of identity, this episode delivers practical insights rooted in neuroscience, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic psychology.
Core Chapters & Themes
1. All Behavior is Performative
A look at how all human behavior functions as performance—and why this is not a flaw but a key adaptive trait.
2. The Neuroscience of Performing the Self
Exploring how brain structures like the medial prefrontal cortex and temporoparietal junction help us socially adapt, empathize, and regulate emotion.
3. Neural Rigidity and Authoritarian Drift
Examining how psychological rigidity, trauma, and social fear drive hierarchical thinking, identity fixation, and decreased empathy.
4. Subpersonalities: The Internal Cast of Characters
A deep dive into IFS theory and how distinct internal parts guide behavior, perception, and relational dynamics.
5. Josh & Marta: A Story of Social Perception
An illustrative narrative highlighting how inner integration—or lack of it—shapes interpersonal judgment and influence.
6. Why We Secretly Hope Others Are Struggling
Unpacking the psychology behind social comparison, curated vulnerability, and how we seek safety through shared imperfection.
7. From Judgment to Curiosity: Coachable Takeaways
Practical strategies for identifying and integrating sub-personalities to foster greater self-awareness, adaptability, and authentic connection.
Three Key Takeaways for Therapeutic Professionals
Sub-personalities shape social identity
Internal Family Systems offers a valuable framework for helping clients recognize and compassionately engage with their internal parts.
Authenticity is contextual, not fixed
Our concept of a "real self" is often performative and fluid. Recognizing this allows for more empathetic and flexible therapeutic work.
Psychological safety arises from integration
By supporting clients in building inner coherence rather than suppressing parts of themselves, we foster deeper healing and more adaptive engagement with life.
Who This Episode Is For
Therapists and coaches
Somatic and embodiment practitioners
Mental health professionals exploring ego development
Students and researchers of behavioral science
Anyone on a path toward personal integration and self-leadership
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Many mothers quietly carry the weight of chronic anxiety, perfectionism, and self-doubt—often misattributing these patterns to personality flaws or failure. In this revealing episode, maternal mental health expert Kate Kripke joins The Light Inside to expose the subconscious and physiological roots of maternal anxiety, uncovering how early emotional conditioning, nervous system dysregulation, and internalized beliefs like “I am not enough” shape modern motherhood.
Together, we explore how these hidden forces contribute to cycles of over-functioning, emotional suppression, and the need for control—all while impacting children through subtle physiological cues and intergenerational stress transmission. Kate outlines a science-backed framework to break free: Curiosity, Compassion, and Choice—tools that empower mothers to move from survival mode to secure, embodied connection.
This conversation is a must-listen for parents, caregivers, and professionals seeking to understand the deeper, trauma-informed roots of maternal stress and how to rewire these unconscious patterns for a more regulated, connected life.
Episode Credits
Guest: Kate Kripke — Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Maternal Mental Health Specialist, and Founder of the Postpartum Wellness Center of Boulder.
Host & Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Produced by: The Light Inside Podcast
Written & Researched by: Anna Getz
Audio Production: Aloft Media
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What if the key to innovation lies in embracing the absurd? In this episode, we sit down with David Carson, creator of Dumbify, to explore how “thinking dumber” can unlock powerful creative breakthroughs. Challenging conventional notions of identity and intelligence, we examine how embracing the fear of looking foolish fosters curiosity, adaptability, and deeper problem-solving skills.
Together, we navigate the societal constraints that suppress unconventional thinking, uncovering how a beginner’s mind and unresolved psychological patterns influence creativity. From Montessori classrooms to cutting-edge tech spaces, we discuss the environments that nurture curiosity, allowing us to accept uncertainty and reframe “I don’t know” as a launchpad for discovery.
Expanding beyond creativity, we explore the role of identity, vulnerability, and discomfort in reshaping how we approach challenges. Like an athlete refining their craft, we discover how stepping into the discomfort of new ideas can transform not just our metacognitive processes, but our sense of self. We also examine the balance between humor and harsh judgment, cooperation and competition—revealing how innovation thrives in the middle ground.
Through David’s insights, we uncover a metacognitive approach to creativity—one that celebrates inquiry, welcomes the unexpected, and redefines intelligence as the courage to process differently.
Tune in and discover how exploring “dumb” ideas might just be the smartest move you can make.
Highlights
(04:03) Embracing Dumb Thinking for Success (114 Seconds)
(07:52) Embracing Dumb Ideas for Mindfulness (123 Seconds)
(12:06) Overcoming Fear of Looking Stupid (96 Seconds)
(21:18) Montessori Education Impact on Learning (71 Seconds)
(27:56) Fostering Creativity and Trust in Workplace (100 Seconds)
(35:05) The Essence of Mediocrity (49 Seconds)
(39:08) Creative Collaborations in Fashion Industry (56 Seconds)
(53:25) Innovating Through Frustration and Context (75 Seconds)
(57:36) Originality Through Diverse Perspectives (75 Seconds)
(01:07:35) Approaching Problems With Fresh Eyes (55 Seconds)
Chapters
(00:00) - Thinking Dumber
(07:29) - Embracing Mindfulness for Creative Thinking
(13:19) - Reimagining Identity and Productive Thinking
(17:37) - Fostering a Curious Mind
(21:18) - Creating a Curious and Collaborative Environment
(27:22) - Navigating Judgment for Creative Innovation
(35:55) - Exploring Middle Ground and Creativity
(46:11) - Navigating Self-Identity in Problem Solving
(01:00:16) - Embracing Dumb Ideas for Innovation
Keywords
Dumbify, Thinking Dumber, Innovation, Creativity, Mindfulness, Beginner's Mind, Curiosity, Identity, Self-Improvement, Judgment, Middle Ground, Humor, Collaboration, Improv, Coopetition, Internal Family Systems, Decision-Making, Iteration, Mistakes, Business Culture
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Credits:
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
In this episode of The Light Inside, I, Jeffrey Besecker, delve into the intricate relationship between our behaviors, emotional patterns, and the unresolved traumas that shape our lives. We explore the concept of pathology—not as a label of dysfunction, but as a way to better understand how our past experiences influence our present actions and emotional responses.
Joining me is Dr. Fred Moss, a seasoned psychiatrist and holistic transformation coach with over 45 years of experience in mental health. Fred shares his insights on how the stigma surrounding mental health can lead to avoidant behaviors and emotional suppression. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing that we are not defined by our past habits; rather, we have the agency to make adaptive choices in the present.
Throughout our conversation, we discuss the impact of subconscious biases and the introspection illusion, which can distort our self-perception and hinder our emotional well-being. Fred highlights the significance of mindfulness and self-awareness in breaking free from these patterns, allowing us to navigate our emotional landscapes with greater clarity and agency.
We also touch on the role of human connection in healing, asserting that genuine relationships can facilitate profound transformations. By fostering a sense of belonging and understanding, we can overcome feelings of isolation and disconnection.
Key Takeaways:
Empower Your Now: You are not a prisoner of past habits; each moment is an opportunity for change.
Connect to Heal: True healing flourishes within human connection and resonance.
Mindfulness Matters: Practicing present-moment awareness helps break negative cycles.
All Emotions Are Valid: Recognize emotions as integral guides to self-understanding.
Discard Rigid Labels: Labeling behaviors restricts growth; embrace context and intent.
Chapters:
00:00 - Reintegrating Trauma: Patterns, Narratives, and Healing Pathways
01:53 - Healing Trauma: Navigating Emotions and Transforming Behavior
03:01 - Beyond Chemical Imbalance: A Holistic Approach to Mental Health
04:37 - Breaking Free: Redefining Habits and Human Connection
06:31 - Breaking Free: The Power of Choice in the Present
15:33 - Emotional Awareness: Recognizing and Reframing Behavior Patterns
17:01 - Breaking Free: The Power of Now Beyond Past Patterns
25:40 - The Illusion of Presence: Are We Ever Truly Now?
26:45 - Voluntary Access: Finding Freedom and Inner Peace
27:49 - Mindfulness: Unlocking the Power of Now and the Past
32:54 - Human Connection: Overcoming Distorted Perceptions and Assumptions
45:43 - Unseen Influences: How Filters Shape Our Reality
46:41 - Mindfulness: Navigating Deflection and Seizing the Moment
47:37 - The Illusion of Certainty: Connection, Mental Health, and Confidence
48:42 - Authenticity Unfiltered: Navigating Perception and Presence
50:44 - Unlocking Authenticity: Truth, Bias, and the Stories We Tell
54:06 - Diverse Perspectives: Crafting Narratives From Chaos
55:08 - Connection Through Authentic Listening and Presence
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Credits:
Featured Guest:Dr. Fred Moss
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the often-stigmatized topic of menopause, exploring how cultural narratives have historically framed it as a decline rather than a natural and empowering transition. Guest, Amita Sharma discusses the importance of breaking free from limiting belief systems and societal scripts that can diminish women's self-worth during perimenopause and menopause.
The episode highlights how subconscious conditioning, belief perseverance, and systemic biases shape women's experiences and interpretations of this journey. By challenging these stigmas, listeners are encouraged to shift the narrative around menopause, empowering women to reclaim their identity and embrace this phase of life as one of profound transformation.
Join us as we unlock the patterns that influence our understanding and support for this significant transition.
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Credits:
Featured Guest: Amita Sharma
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
In this episode of The LightInside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the concept of conditional self-worth and its impact on our relationships. He examines the subconscious and unconscious patterns that contribute to the "nice guy syndrome," exploring how early attachment wounds and covert social contracts shape our behaviors. The discussion highlights the chronic issues of over-acquiescence or ‘people-pleasing’, avoidance, and emotional dependency—prompting listeners to reflect on whether these patterns serve them or lead to self-sabotage.
Join us as we unravel the forces behind conditional self-worth and discover pathways to healthier social connections.
Timestamps:
[00:02:22] Nice guy syndrome explained.
[00:05:13] Conditional love and connection.
[00:07:23] Conditional love and protection.
[00:10:44] Isolation and anxiety spiral.
[00:13:16] Healthy acceptance of fear.
[00:16:34] Childhood emotional needs and conflicts.
[00:20:23] Fear and hypervigilance in relationships.
[00:22:27] Vulnerability and emotional sharing.
[00:27:17] Courage to be disliked.
[00:29:25] Disagreeing while staying authentic.
[00:32:01] Vulnerability and authentic relationships.
[00:36:36] Attachment styles and nice guy syndrome.
[00:39:35] Arousal misattribution and identity.
[00:42:54] Healthy rejection and emotional intelligence.
[00:44:31] Rejection and personal narrative.
[00:48:20] Ego development and self-perception.
[00:52:20] Emotional wounds and relationships.
[00:56:17] Staying in emotional tension.
[00:56:58] Overcoming shame through connection.
[01:00:06] Reframing emotions for self-acceptance.
[01:03:56] Anger as a call to action.
[01:07:01] Healthy boundaries and nice guy syndrome.
[01:10:18] People-pleasing and emotional dependency.
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Credits:
Featured Guest: Jay Scott
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Biesecker delves into the complex relationship between chronic pain and emotional regulation with guest Butch Phelps. They discuss how subconscious and unconscious behavioral patterns, such as avoidance and emotional suppression, can reinforce pain cycles and affect the nervous system. The conversation highlights the concept of neural imprinting and its role in intensifying stress responses related to pain perception.
Listeners will gain insights into strategies for breaking these ingrained cycles through somatic and psychological awareness, fostering resilience in the face of chronic pain. Tune in to explore these vital connections and learn how to navigate the journey toward healing.
00:00:00 - Introduction to Chronic Pain and Behavioral Patterns
00:00:58 - Sponsor Message: Mint Mobile
00:02:26 - Exploring Chronic Pain: Emotional and Psychological Factors
00:03:07 - Guest Introduction: Butch Phelps
00:03:49 - Butch Phelps' Background and Interest in Chronic Pain
00:05:42 - Behavioral Patterns and Pain Sensitivity
00:07:15 - Hyperkinesis and Pain Perception
00:09:03 - Autonomic Dysregulation and Pain Response
00:10:24 - Inflammation and Chronic Pain
00:12:10 - Cognitive Biases and Pain Perception
00:14:40 - Conditioning and Pain Management
00:18:23 - Pain Tolerance and Pain Management
00:20:48 - Expectancy Bias and Pain
00:22:30 - Cultural Conditioning and Pain Perception
00:24:38 - Medication and Pain Management
00:27:11 - Balancing Medication and Natural Pain Management
00:30:34 - Holistic Practices for Pain Management
00:32:48 - Breathing Techniques for Pain Relief
00:36:10 - Tips for Managing Chronic Pain
00:38:50 - Conclusion and Contact Information
00:40:06 - Episode Summary and Closing Remarks
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Credits:
Featured Guest: Butch Phelps
Connect with Butch :https://musclerepairshop.com
Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
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Host: Jeffrey Besecker
Guest: Patrick Boylan, Actor, Musician, and Musical Educator
In this episode of The Light Inside, we explore the concept of mastery through the lens of learning to play an instrument, specifically the piano. Our guest, Patrick Boylan, shares his journey from a traditional piano student to an innovative educator and founder of Museflow, an educational startup designed to help musicians learn the piano more effectively.
Key Discussion Points:
The Neuroscience of Adaptive Learning
Patrick Boylan's Journey
Museflow: Revolutionizing Piano Learning
Overcoming Fear and Performance Anxiety
Personal Insights and Practical Tips
Broader Implications
Join us as we uncover how the principles of adaptive learning and emotional regulation can help us not only master an instrument but also navigate life's challenges with resilience and joy.
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Credits:
Featured Guest: Patrick Boylan
Connect with Patrick :http://museflow.com
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Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker
Executive Program Director: Anna Getz
Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio
In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey engages in a thought-provoking discussion with transformative wellness coach Lori Beth Martin. Together, they delve into the complexities of identity and anticipatory anxiety as individuals approach pre and early retirement. Lori Beth, a passionate advocate for women over 50, shares her insights on redefining retirement as a journey toward purpose and financial freedom.
Drawing from her own experiences of reinventing her midlife, she empowers listeners to embrace change and create meaningful legacies beyond their traditional careers. This episode offers a valuable perspective for anyone navigating the challenges and opportunities of this pivotal life phase.
00:00:00 - Introduction and Podcast Setup
00:00:37 - Episode Introduction: The Light Inside
00:00:48 - Topic Overview: Identity and Retirement Anxiety
00:00:58 - Guest Introduction: Lori Beth Martin
00:01:34 - Lori Beth's Career Journey and Retirement Anxiety
00:02:08 - Exploring Everyday Perspectives on Retirement
00:02:19 - Subconscious Patterns and Career Transitions
00:02:52 - Transcending Social Conditioning in Retirement
00:03:14 - Impact of Over-Identifying with Careers
00:03:41 - Lori Beth's Experience with Career Identity
00:05:09 - Career Shifts and Anxiety in Midlife
00:06:19 - Retirement as a Journey, Not a Destination
00:06:50 - Jeffrey's Personal Career Journey
00:07:57 - Parental Influence on Career Choices
00:09:20 - Lori Beth's Parental Guidance and Career Path
00:10:43 - Money and Hard Work: Parental Lessons
00:12:07 - Entrepreneurship and Financial Anxiety
00:13:12 - Generational and Social Conditioning on Work
00:14:35 - Financial Uncertainty and Career Identity
00:16:15 - Subconscious Mind and Career Choices
00:17:38 - Balancing Career Roles and Personal Identity
00:18:50 - Energy and Anxiety in Retirement
00:19:18 - Reconnecting with Spouse Post-Retirement
00:20:03 - Empty Nest Syndrome and Retirement
00:21:08 - Learning from a 95-Year-Old Creator
00:22:01 - Transitioning from Work to Retirement
00:22:27 - Repressed Energy and Emotional Processing
00:23:09 - Fear of Irrelevance in Retirement
00:23:28 - Subconscious Fears and Social Connections
00:24:39 - Creating a New Identity in Retirement
00:25:54 - Importance of Social Engagement
00:27:29 - Jeffrey's Father's Retirement Experience
00:28:06 - Creating a Vision for Retirement
00:29:10 - Practical Steps for Retirement Planning
00:30:05 - Daydreaming and Vision Boards
00:32:33 - Balancing Downtime and Activity
00:33:17 - Importance of Physical Movement
00:34:22 - Nutrition and Muscle Maintenance
00:36:00 - Physical Therapy and Mobility
00:37:01 - Social Connections through Physical Activity
00:38:06 - Rehabilitation and Social Activities
00:39:50 - Encouraging Social Engagement in Rehab
00:40:54 - Accountability and Consistency in Social Connections
00:42:04 - Financial Insecurity in Retirement
00:42:52 - Practical Tips for Financial Planning
00:44:45 - Personal Growth and Mindset in Retirement
00:45:12 - Reinvention Stories: Inventor at 60
00:46:29 - Staying Open to New Opportunities
00:47:01 - Mindset and Personal Development
00:48:08 - Lori Beth's Personal Challenges and Growth
00:49:03 - Self-Worth and Anxiety
00:50:05 - Cognitive Reframing and Mindfulness
00:51:09 - Aligning with Like-Minded People
00:52:02 - Leaving a Legacy in Retirement
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In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the complexities of intuition with Intuitive Transformation Coach, Denise Miceli.
The discussion focuses on the distinction between genuine intuition and the distortions caused by subconscious biases and emotional misattributions.
Listeners will learn how primary and secondary behavior patterns, along with subconscious processes, shape our intuitive capabilities. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing the hidden influences that can cloud our decisions, encouraging self-reflection on whether our choices are guided by true insight or conditioned responses.
Tune in to explore how to break free from the autopilot of misintuition and reconnect with your inner wisdom.
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“The Intuition Illusion: Separating Wisdom from Bias”
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In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker delves into the complexities of our inner truths and the stories we tell ourselves and others. He discusses how our mental snapshots may not accurately reflect our true selves and how these distorted narratives can obscure our essence.
The episode explores the transformative journey of unearthing these narratives, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and connection. Listeners will learn about suggestibility, a little-known psychological tactic that can help foster commonality and understanding among individuals.
Our mental snapshots often fail to reflect our true selves, leading to murky and misleading stories about ourselves and others. Today, we explore the transformative journey of unearthing and challenging these narratives, freeing us from constraints that obscure our true essence.
We introduce a little-known psychological tactic called suggestibility, which helps us find commonality and connection with one another. Suggestibility, rooted in behavioral science, cognitive psychology, and social influence research, plays a significant role in shaping individual and group behavior, attitudes, and decision-making.
Our guest, Gareth Gwyn, shares insights on how polarizing social topics trigger our internal world and how inner change can lead to societal reconciliation. Gareth emphasizes the importance of understanding subconscious scripts, which are often shaped by implicit memories and past experiences. These scripts can polarize our perspectives and trigger inherent biases, affecting our relationships on both micro and macro levels.
Timestamps:
[00:02:35] Suggestibility and its impact.
[00:04:45] Subconscious scripts in personal narratives.
[00:08:38] Subconscious scripts shape narratives.
[00:12:28] Emotions and relationship dynamics.
[00:17:05] Somatic coherence and intuition.
[00:20:59] Attachment styles and behavior.
[00:25:04] Identity and emotional regulation.
[00:28:48] The default network's influence.
[00:32:40] Emotional processing and nostalgia.
[00:35:52] Emotional suppression and self-liberation.
[00:39:21] Shadow parts of ourselves.
[00:42:15] Ego development and self-awareness.
[00:45:12] Emotional intelligence and self-ownership.
[00:49:15] Ego development and belonging.
[00:53:29] We without an I.
[00:57:10] External approval and self-acceptance.
[01:00:38] Conflict as a trust-building opportunity.
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In this episode of The Light Inside, host Jeffrey Besecker explores the tumultuous journey of sexual awakening that many experience during their tweens and early teens.
Delving into the complex emotions and sensations that arise during puberty, the episode highlights how these feelings can sometimes lead to the darker paths of sexual addiction.
Jeffrey and Logan discuss the subconscious and unconscious factors that contribute to sexual compulsion and emphasizes the importance of recognizing deeper emotional triggers.
Listeners will learn how embracing vulnerability and practicing self-compassion are vital steps toward achieving true sexual recovery.
Join us as we navigate this sensitive topic with insight and sensitivity.
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Introduction to Sexual Awakening
00:01:02 - Exploring Sexual Compulsion
00:01:24 - Mint Mobile Advertisement
00:03:00 - Understanding Sexual Addiction
00:04:03 - Logan Hufford's Journey
00:04:46 - Logan's Double Life
00:06:20 - The Role of Vulnerability
00:07:33 - Early Sexual Exploration
00:08:15 - Impact of Early Experiences
00:10:24 - Cultural Norms and Identity
00:12:09 - Family Dynamics and Vulnerability
00:13:06 - Teenage Years and Isolation
00:14:07 - Seeking Validation
00:16:07 - Emotional Triggers and Identity
00:18:06 - Primal Responses and Early Desires
00:20:12 - Conflicted Identities
00:22:05 - Early Interactions with Females
00:24:02 - Prodigal Son Moment in Houston
00:27:03 - Cognitive Distortions and Compulsivity
00:28:03 - Moral Dilemmas and Ownership
00:29:40 - Darkest Moments and Powerlessness
00:32:04 - Neurotic Psychological Entropy
00:33:02 - Isolation and Peer Interaction
00:35:07 - Empathy and Shared Experiences
00:37:06 - Testing Social Waters
00:38:02 - Insecurities and Self-Worth
00:40:12 - Self-Development and Perfectionism
00:42:11 - Internal Family Systems
00:43:19 - Anger and Parenthood
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Exploring the impact of emotional trauma on our decision-making, The Light Inside delves into how buried emotions can lead us astray in life.
The mere exposure effect and subconscious biases play a significant role in shaping our perceptions and emotional responses. As discussed in the podcast episode, the mere exposure effect describes our tendency to develop preferences for things simply because we are familiar with them. This familiarity principle can lead us to favor familiar patterns and misinterpret unrelated events as significant.
Our subconscious biases, influenced by repeated exposure to certain experiences, can skew our perceptions and lead to flawed emotional responses.
For example, if we have repeatedly encountered criticism in the past, our minds may hyper-focus on and react strongly to even the slightest hint of criticism in the present. This hypervigilance is a result of well-worn neural pathways shaped by repeated exposure, making certain triggers feel almost inevitable. Unraveling the connection between cognitive biases and emotional triggers, the episode uncovers the core causes of our unconscious behaviors.
Tune in to discover how to navigate through the subconscious mindfields and address hidden emotional remnants for personal growth and adaptability.
Timestamps:
[00:01:04] The mere exposure effect.
[00:08:23] Parataxic distortions and subconscious biases.
[00:13:44] Unresolved shadow material.
[00:15:30] Offering support during tough times.
To uncover unresolved shadow material and emotional triggers, consider adopting these three empowering habits:
1. Daily Reflection: Dedicate time each day for introspection to recognize patterns in your thoughts and emotions.
2. Emotional Tracking: Keep a log of your emotional responses to various situations.
3. Therapeutic Practices: Engage in Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to explore and integrate different parts of your psyche, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to challenge and reframe irrational thoughts. Both practices provide structured approaches to understanding and addressing emotional triggers and shadow material.
These habits, combined with therapeutic practices, can help you gain deeper insights into your subconscious patterns and foster personal growth.
Ready to take the first step on this journey today—your empowered, balanced self is waiting. Reach out! We are here to catch you whenever you feel like you are falling.
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To support the summary about the role of subconscious biases, here’s a brief overview of relevant empirical evidence:
In this episode of The Light Inside, we delve into the intricate world of emotional triggers and self-regulation. We all experience moments when a seemingly innocuous comment or situation sends us spiraling into an emotional storm. Whether it's a partner's remark or a social media comment, our emotions can distort reality, leading to unnecessary conflict and misunderstanding.
We explore the concept of the autonomic ladder, a metaphorical escalator that represents our emotional states. Our guest, John Eli Gouray, provides insights into how our autonomic nervous system, through a process called neuroception, constantly scans our environment for cues of safety and danger. This system can trigger either a calm, parasympathetic response or an aroused, sympathetic response, often without our conscious awareness.
John explains the three primary states of the autonomic ladder:
1. Dorsal Vagal State: Associated with feelings of shutdown, immobilization, and despair.
2. Sympathetic State: Characterized by activation, anxiety, and a desire for movement or conflict.
3. Ventral Vagal State: The state of safety, social connection, and calm.
Exploring the concept of emotional triggers, this episode delves into how seemingly harmless interactions can escalate into overwhelming emotional storms. From conversations with partners to comments on social media, our reactions can be driven by our emotions, altering our perceptions and leading to unnecessary conflict.
The episode questions why it's challenging to control these reactions and sheds light on the autonomic ladder, illustrating how we can quickly spiral into misunderstandings when triggered emotionally.
00:00:00 - Introduction to Emotional Triggers
00:00:10 - Real-Life Examples of Emotional Triggers
00:01:03 - Impact of Emotional Reactions
00:01:24 - The Autonomic Ladder Explained
00:02:06 - Sponsor Message: Mint Mobile
00:03:42 - Understanding Nervous System Responses
00:05:09 - The Role of Neuroception
00:07:11 - Early Development of Emotional Patterns
00:08:48 - Emotions vs. Feelings
00:10:00 - Story Follows State
00:11:32 - Inference and Transference in Emotional Responses
00:14:10 - Autonomic Nervous System and Childhood Experiences
00:17:17 - The Autonomic Ladder: Detailed Breakdown
00:20:00 - Dorsal Vagal Response
00:23:21 - Sympathetic State and Overachieving
00:27:13 - Personal Story: Work and Self-Worth
00:30:16 - Sympathetic Phase of Response
00:33:31 - Motivations Behind Emotional Responses
00:34:35 - Identifying Emotional States
00:38:08 - Hypervigilance and Emotional Reactivity
00:40:35 - Example: Walking Through a Dark Pathway
00:41:13 - Ventral Vagal Response
00:43:03 - Pets and Emotional Regulation
00:44:31 - Intuitive Awareness of Emotional Triggers
00:45:52 - Identifying Triggers and Glimmers
00:48:04 - Physical Movement and Emotional Relief
00:49:07 - Emotional Cleaning as an Outlet
00:50:19 - Labeling and Stigmatizing Behaviors
00:52:44 - Personal Experiences with Sun Exposure
00:53:38 - Assumptions and Projections in Interactions
00:54:33 - The Practice of Asking and Clarifying
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Featured Guest: John Eli Guray
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of The Light Inside. I'm your host, Jeffrey Besecker. Today, we delve into the intriguing concept of authority bias—our tendency to place undue trust in authority figures and experts, often at the expense of critical thinking and personal judgment.
The Light Inside is a journalistic podcast exploring the journey of everyday people toward beneficial change in their primary subconscious behavioral patterns. These shifts in behavior empower them to live richer, happier, and more fulfilling lives.
We revisit the recurring segment we like to call “Mind Warp” exploring the common cognitive shortcuts and thinking traps that often hinder our best decision-making.
The Appeal to Authority fallacy subtly shapes our choices by leading us to trust expert opinions without critically evaluating their validity, often overriding our own judgment. This cognitive bias can result in poor decision-making, as we defer to authority figures even when their expertise may be irrelevant or flawed.
This episode of The Light Inside explores the balance between healthy skepticism and authoritative feedback in fostering intellectual humility.
We delve into how our tendency to place authority figures on pedestals can lead to confirmation bias and uninformed decision-making. The discussion emphasizes the importance of critically evaluating information while remaining open to learning from credible sources for personal growth and informed decision-making.
Timestamps:
[00:00:00] Introduction to Authority Bias [00:00:10] The Role of Thought Leaders [00:00:32] Balancing Skepticism and Authority [00:00:54] Social Status and Trust in Authority [00:01:25] Cognitive Shortcuts and Confirmation Bias [00:02:07] Exploring Authority Bias
[00:02:18] Authority Bias - Trusting experts.
[00:06:24] The Authority Illusion.
[00:08:24] Authority bias in decision-making.
[00:14:47] Questioning authority and expertise.
[00:17:04] Authority figure's impact on conformity.
[00:22:27] Authority figures and misinformation.
[00:24:26] Authority bias influencing public actions
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Executive Program Director: Anna Getz