Power or exposure? Why not both.
Chris dives into the beautiful, awkward, terrifying current of vulnerability. What it really means for Dominants, submissives, and everyone in between, and how to make it your greatest strength in play and in life.

Kink isn’t chaos. It’s composition. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris unpacks the art of scene design: rhythm, intention, sensory storytelling, and emotional flow. Discover how pacing, presence, and connection transform play into art, and how the best scenes don’t just happen, they breathe, build, and become unforgettable.

In this episode of Kink Compass, Chris explores the concept of switches in the kink community, emphasizing the fluidity and versatility of individuals who navigate between dominant and submissive roles. The discussion highlights the importance of empathy, communication, and the understanding that power dynamics are not rigid but rather a spectrum. Chris encourages listeners to embrace their multifaceted identities and recognize that there is no singular way to engage in kink, celebrating the complexity and richness that comes with being a switch.

Masochism isn’t about “loving pain”. It is about what sensation can become. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores the masochist’s role in BDSM: from the history of the word to the body’s neurochemistry, from cultural stereotypes to the many flavors of sensation. You’ll hear how masochists describe focus, release, and devotion, and how Dominants can honor that experience with consent, care, and craft.

What does it really mean to “be a man” in kink?
In this bonus episode, Chris talks about confidence versus control, why dominance isn’t about ego, and how emotional intelligence, patience, and respect create real authority.
A thoughtful guide to masculinity in the scene — with warmth, humor, and zero posturing.

Sadism has a heavy history. From the Marquis de Sade to its misrepresentation in psychology. But in kink, sadism isn’t about cruelty. It’s about creating intensity with care, turning pain into connection, and exploring why control and sensation cut so deep. In this episode, Chris unpacks the history, the stigma, the joy, and the responsibility of being a sadist in BDSM.

Kink can feel like freedom, or like a familiar kind of chaos.
In this bonus episode, Chris explores the difference between intensity that heals and intensity that hurts.
What is a trauma bond, what makes a good dynamic, and how do you tell the difference when your heart’s in the middle of it?

In kink, as in life, something always goes a little sideways. But that’s where the magic hides. Join Chris for a bonus episode on imperfection, adaptability, and how to stay grounded when your perfectly planned scene turns into something real.

What does it mean to be a Dominant. Truly and responsibly? In this episode, Chris explores the emotional heart of Dominance, from archetypes like the Caregiver, Sadist, and Pleasure Dom to the skills every healthy Dom needs. With care, honesty, and nuance, we unpack power, trust, communication, and how to hold someone. Not just with rope, but with presence.

Ever stressed yourself into knots before a scene. Only to realize, once it starts, you already had everything you needed? In this lighthearted bonus episode, Chris explores the overthinking, spirals, and post-scene echoes that kinksters know all too well. From socks that “negotiate” to survey-link anxiety, we’ll laugh, reflect, and remember: Stress is just rehearsal. The real success is showing up, connecting, daring. Squeaks and all.

In this deep dive, Chris explores what it really means to be submissive. From brats and service subs to slaves, prey, and rope bunnies. With care, humor, and honesty, we unpack myths, celebrate choice, and offer guidance on how to grow as a submissive. Whether you kneel in devotion or dance in defiance, this episode is for you.

In this milestone bonus episode, Chris looks back on episodes 2 through 6 of The Kink Compass . Exploring what we’ve learned about negotiation, safewords, trust, power exchange, and finding the right partner. With real stories, layered insights, and reflection questions for you to carry into your own journey, this episode ties it all together with one word: intentionality.

Finding the right kink partner isn’t about sparks alone. It is about clarity, trust, and patience. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores where to meet partners, how to filter for the right ones, and the green flags that help you build something real. From first coffee dates to dungeon etiquette, discover how consistency, not just chemistry, is what keeps the fire burning.

Beyond the ropes and whips lies the true heart of BDSM: Consent and Trust. In this bonus episode, Chris explores why these forces are the foundation of safe, meaningful, and powerful play. From safewords to aftercare, discover how choice and reliability transform kink into connection.

Why does surrender feel electric? Why does control feel grounding? In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris dives into the psychology behind power exchange. From the stories we carry into kink, to the emotions that surface in play, to the ways trust makes power both safe and thrilling — this is an exploration of what happens in the mind when we step into Dominant or submissive roles. Whether you’re new to power exchange or years into a dynamic, this episode offers insight, real examples, and practical takeaways for building dynamics that are ethical, alive, and sustainable.

The body isn’t just where kink happens. It is the instrument of play. In this episode, Chris explores how pacing, rhythm, and chemistry shape every scene. We dive into the science of subspace and domspace, the reality of drop, and how to care for bodies of all kinds in kink. With real examples, scene-building tools, and practical drills, you’ll learn how to transform sensation into experience and intensity into connection.

Whether you’re new or experienced, this episode is about listening to the body. Yours, your partner’s, and the unspoken language between them.

From ancient Rome to modern debates, this episode explores the strange, sometimes absurd history of virginity. Chris traces how laws, religion, and culture have defined and defended an idea that can’t be medically proven, yet has shaped morality, politics, and personal lives for over 4,000 years. With stories of Lucretia, medieval purity tests, telegony, and modern double standards, we reveal how the concept of virginity has always been more about power than biology, told with curiosity, context, and a touch of humor.

Safe words. Signals. The language of trust in kink. In this episode, Chris dives deep into why these agreements don’t kill the mood- They make it. From the traffic-light system to creative non-verbal signals, we’ll explore how safety fuels intensity, why safe words strengthen connection, and how aftercare and debrief turn one scene into the foundation for the next. Trust isn’t extra in BDSM. It is everything.

In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores what makes a sadist trustworthy, caring, and genuinely exciting to play with. From valuing consent above all else, to understanding pain in all its shades, to offering aftercare that transforms intensity into connection — these ten “green flags” show what healthy sadism looks like in practice. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or already deep in the world of kink, this episode celebrates the artistry and heart that a good sadist brings to the scene.

In this episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris, a seasoned dominant with over 30 years of experience, delves into the art of negotiation in BDSM. Chris emphasizes that negotiation is not just a safety step but a form of foreplay and trust-building that lays the foundation for an electrifying scene. The episode explores the importance of clear communication, understanding limits, and the role of aftercare, offering insights for both dominants and submissives. Tune in to learn how thoughtful negotiation can transform your play into a deeply satisfying and memorable experience.