Episode 150: Finding Community, Healing Together, and Living in Alignment with Randi Rubenstein



What does it mean to find real community in a world that often feels disconnected?



In this episode of The Innovative Therapist Podcast, I sat down with Randi Rubenstein for the final conversation in our three-part series on Creativity, Entrepreneurship, and Living an Aligned Life. This time, we explored the transformative role of community in healing, leadership, and building a more connected and joyful life.



From the mastermind group Randi accidentally created years ago to the healing communities I’ve found through dance, parenting circles, and entrepreneur spaces, we both reflect on the power of being seen, held, and co-creating with others. But we also don’t shy away from the complexity—how community can also bring up fear, past wounding, and the need for strong Pack Leadership (Randi’s term for grounded, non-reactive leadership rooted in care).



Here’s what we explore in this deep and energizing conversation:



What makes a community feel safe, healing, and energizing (vs. performative or depleting) How strong Pack Leadership creates safety and builds trust Why we often carry wounds from early communities and how to find spaces that help us heal The connection between novelty, leadership style, and nervous system regulation Why co-creating (vs. top-down leading) is the secret to sustainable group work How our own zones of genius show up in leadership roles Navigating sensitivity and overwhelm when leading or participating in group spaces



The Truth About Healing in Community



One of the biggest takeaways? While we are wounded in community, we are also healed in community. The difference lies in the presence of safe, emotionally regulated leadership. Randi shares how the community she built within Mastermind Parenting grew out of a simple parenting course—and how the women in that group didn’t want to leave because they finally felt held. That accidental community is now a co-created space that has helped women start businesses, change their lives, and feel a sense of deep belonging.



Pack Leadership and Co-Creation: The Container Matters



We unpack how Pack Leadership (a grounded, non-reactive presence that models calm confidence and sets clear boundaries) is essential for a safe group space. But not the "dominate or control" kind of leadership—this is about responding from our Self energy and encouraging everyone to bring their voice and genius to the table.



Co-creation is the heart of it all. Whether it’s a mastermind group, a dance retreat, or a kitchen-table podcast, there is power in shared ownership. That’s what turns a program or group into a community.



Feeling Too Much? You’re Not Alone.



As two sensitive leaders, Randi and I also talk about how it can be hard to feel the pain of others so deeply—and how to stay grounded and effective as a community builder. Whether you’re leading a large group or building small, intentional spaces, trusting your energy, pace, and personal capacity is vital.



Aligned Leadership Means Trusting Yourself



We also explore how our nervous systems guide us toward the right communities. Randi shares her "straightjacket or skinny dipping" metaphor for gauging how a space feels in your body. Does it feel constrictive or expansive? Energizing or draining? That intuitive guidance is part of aligned leadership.



Where Community Shows Up



From mastermind groups to dance studios, local creative meetups, and therapist circles, we reflect on where we’ve found aligned,