In this episode, Azim Khamisa and Melaina Spitzer talk to Dr. Fred Luskin, a Stanford University psychologist and Director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, about his teaching and research on forgiveness. Dr. Luskin’s personal stories, including his struggles with his mother-in-law, as well as his professional experiences show how unforgiveness keeps people trapped in victim narratives and fear, while forgiveness frees them to make better decisions and live more peaceful lives. His academic research shows that forgiveness offers measurable health benefits, from reduced cardiovascular risk to decreased chronic pain and improved emotional well-being. Dr. Luskin leads listeners through four simple practices that can aid in the process of forgiveness and addresses the challenges of self-forgiveness. Throughout the conversation, Dr. Luskin stresses that forgiveness is a practical skill that can be learned and practiced, with applications ranging from everyday irritations to profound traumas.
Mentioned:
Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness, by Fred Luskin
The Forgive for Good Recovery Workbook, by Fred Luskin and Lyndon Harris
Forgive for Love: The Missing Ingredient for a Healthy and Lasting Relationship, by Fred Luskin
The Stanford University Forgiveness Projects
Production Credits:The Forgiveness Effect is a PeaceThruForgiveness.org production, hosted by Azim Khamisa and Melaina Spitzer.
Produced and edited by Liz Ramos and Melaina Spitzer; sound engineering by Vikas Srivastava; original music by Austin Ray. Marketing team: Farideh Albornoz, Meesha De Rumi, Alejandro Hierro, Dianne McKay, and Elizabeth Richards. Melaina Spitzer is Executive Editor.
In this episode, Melaina Spitzer interviews Azim Khamisa about his forgiveness journey, from the senseless murder of his son, Tariq, to his destination: peace.
At a time when division and conflict dominate headlines, Azim's story offers a radically different path forward. His journey from devastated father to global peace advocate proves that even the most profound tragedies can become catalysts for healing and transformation. This conversation challenges listeners to reconsider their own capacity for forgiveness and their role in creating a more peaceful world.
Whether you're struggling with personal forgiveness, interested in restorative justice, or seeking inspiration for overcoming life's greatest challenges, this episode provides both practical wisdom and profound hope. Azim's story reminds us that peace isn't just possible - it's within reach when we choose love over hate, understanding over judgment, and forgiveness over revenge.
Mentioned Books and Meditations:
Azim’s Meditations: https://peacethruforgiveness.org/meditation/
Mentioned Resources:
Jericho Circle Project – Helping to reduce violence and crime by supporting emotional healing for incarcerated individuals and returning citizens. https://jerichocircle.org
The Tariq Khamisa Foundation – Creating safer schools and communities through educating and inspiring children in the restorative principles of accountability, compassion, forgiveness, and peacemaking. https://tkf.org/
The Stanford Forgiveness Project - https://med.stanford.edu/news/insights/2020/01/forgiving-others-to-help-improve-your-health.html
Connect with the Movement: Learn more about the Tariq Khamisa Foundation and Peace Through Forgiveness initiatives at their respective websites, where you can find resources for educators, parents, and individuals interested in joining this global peace movement.
Production Credits:The Forgiveness Effect is a PeaceThruForgiveness.org production, hosted by Azim Khamisa and Melaina Spitzer. Produced and edited by Liz Ramos and Melaina Spitzer; sound engineering by Vikas Srivastava; original music by Austin Ray. Marketing team: Farideh Albornoz, Meesha De Rumi, Alejandro Hierro, Dianne McKay, and Elizabeth Richards. Melaina Spitzer is Executive Editor.
Can forgiveness truly heal us and transform the world? In the premiere episode of The Forgiveness Effect, co-hosts Azim Khamisa and Melaina Spitzer explore this powerful question. Azim, founder of the Tariq Khamisa Foundation, interviews Melaina, an award-winning peacebuilder, coach, and Founder & CEO of Inner Peacebuilding, about her two decades guiding communities and organizations in conflict transformation.
Melaina shares lessons from Colombia, Cyprus, Northern Ireland, Iraq, and the U.S. criminal justice system, showing how inner peace work creates external change. Listeners will gain practical tools for managing personal conflicts, fostering dialogue across divides, and engaging in lasting social impact.
Mentioned Books:
“The Moral Imagination,” by John Paul Lederach
“There is Nothing Wrong with You,” by Cheri Huber
“Radical Acceptance,” by Tara Brach
“Forgive for Good,” by Fred Luskin
“The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel Ruiz
“Secrets of the Bulletproof Spirit,” by Azim Khamisa
Other Resources:
Peace Thru Forgiveness – https://peacethruforgiveness.org/
Jericho Circle Project – Helping to reduce violence and crime by supporting emotional healing for incarcerated individuals and returning citizens. https://jerichocircle.org
Internal Family Systems Model – Richard C. Schwartz https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/internal-family-systems-model-outline
Production Credits:The Forgiveness Effect is a PeaceThruForgiveness.org production, hosted by Azim Khamisa and Melaina Spitzer. Produced and edited by Liz Ramos and Melaina Spitzer; sound engineering by Vikas Srivastava; original music by Austin Ray. Marketing team: Farideh Albornoz, Meesha De Rumi, Alejandro Hierro, Dianne McKay, and Elizabeth Richards. Melaina Spitzer is Executive Editor.