Do the small things really make a difference?
Should you really start by making your bed when your home is in chaos?
The answer may surprise you.
It doesn't sound sexy, it's not a home run...but if you hit singles and a couple of doubles, you're rounding the bases. When you take care of the little things, that 1%, 3% increase adds up.
Turns out the big things are tackled one little thing at a time.
We'll explain the broken window theory of family leadership in this episode, and give you some specific ideas on how to start levelling up TODAY, without the overwhelm of having to figure it ALL out.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:05 John Michael Takes The Stage, Doesn't Get Canceled
7:09 Get Fruit FAST
8:59 The Broken Window Theory
14:17 The little things that lead to big things
18:15 Momentum!
34:15 You get what you tolerate
45:08 Reclaiming Dominion
49:05 Next steps
Mentioned:
VidAngel: https://www.vidangel.com/
Tineco 5: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09P2RKRWX/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
You think your 7/10 marriage is pretty good.
Then you discover what a biblical marriage actually looks like and realize you're closer to 7/100.
The problem isn't that you need better communication or more date nights...it's that you've been sold a lie about partnership and mutual submission that's turned you into a family butler instead of a family captain.
What if everything you've been taught about loving your wife is backwards? What if the "nice guy" approach that keeps the peace is actually destroying the respect, freedom, and passion your marriage was designed for?
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
8:00 Default Marriage
11:25 Being afraid to lead
23:09 Mutual submission
38:32 What it looks like to move from "co-submission" to leading
45:24 You can't lead with co-submission
51:29 The two ditches
1:03:35 Getting unstuck
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
You want your marriage to go from good to legendary. You want to actually lead your family. But here's the problem: most men don't even know what they really want because they're too busy living for comfort, managing other people's expectations, or settling for "fine."
This episode hands you five questions that will either unlock your next level or expose that you've been lying to yourself about what you're actually willing to do.
If you answer these questions honestly, you'll unlock a whole new world.
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In This Episode:
0:11 Intro
2:57 The questions
6:16 When these questions hit us in the nuts
13:25 A win from actually answering these questions
21:52 How to start asking and implementing
31:22 The Law of the Spectrum
37:11 Wisdom
46:42 The biggest unlock
48:45 What have I tolerated that must be crucified?
55:56 Submitting your plans to the Lord
59:32 Big Family Captain news
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What does it really mean to have sexual integrity as a man of God?
Chris and JM unpack the hidden struggles many Christian men face, even beyond internet addiction, and expose the subtle compromises that keep men from true freedom.
JM shares his personal story of confession, breakthrough, and leading his family with strength and purity.
Together, they challenge men to move from playing defense against temptation to running a mighty offense in faith, purpose, and leadership.
If you’ve ever wondered how to walk in real victory over lust, shame, and mediocrity, this is the episode you can’t afford to skip.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:58 Sexual integrity struggles
6:12 Guarding your thoughts
14:20 Why your burdens are blessing you
19:22 Guardrails?
28:02 Where to start
35:54 This is impacting your marriage
44:32 Full and true freedom
56:00 Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What if your wife actually WANTED more intimacy...and you were the man she couldn’t resist?
In this episode, Chris and JM dive into 10 (of 34) proven ways to have more sex with your wife.
From tracking her cycle to leading yourself like a man on a mission, they reveal practical and biblical strategies that build real attraction.
This isn’t about cheap tricks. it’s about becoming the man your wife longs for in every way.
Stick around to the end, because these insights will completely reframe how you approach leadership, marriage, and the bedroom.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:42 #1 Track Her Cycle
8:30 #2 Don’t Pout
18:24 #3 Send Flirty Texts
24:30 #4 Never Ask Again
34:25 #5 Love God More Than Her
43:12 #6 Be a Man on Mission
49:49 #7 Stay Groomed & Fit
57:42 #8 Quit Internet Trash
1:00:30 #9 Make Her Feel Beautiful
1:05:33 #10 Give Her Rest
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Something is stirring in America, and it’s bigger than politics.
Chris and John Michael dive into the surprising ways Jesus is being proclaimed at the highest levels of government and why it matters for your home.
From the White House to your house, this episode explores how to ride the spiritual momentum sweeping across the nation.
Along the way, they tackle cynicism, margin, family leadership, and boldness in sharing the gospel.
Get ready for practical wisdom, fiery encouragement, and a challenge to step up as the man your family needs right now.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:06 White pill maxxing
7:03 Comparing post-9/11 unity vs. today
9:31 Don't be a cynic and don't squander this
18:39 Creating margin for family discipleship
31:48 Momentum
38:55 Lighting your household up
43:50 Exactly how to share the Gospel
58:43 A personal story on bold obedience
1:04:02 ANNOUNCEMENT!
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Last week, Charlie Kirk’s life was cut short by an act of evil.
In the days since, countless stories have surfaced - not of controversy, but of a man marked by conviction, grace, and an unshakable devotion to his faith and family. His friends, colleagues, and even opponents testify to a rare combination: courage to speak truth without apology, and restraint to meet hostility with patience.
In this episode, we reflect on what Charlie’s life and death reveal about legacy, the cost of truth, and the quiet strength of a husband and father who left behind more than a movement.
If you’ve ever wondered what it means to live boldly, love deeply, and lead with faith in a world full of noise, this conversation will give you both challenge and hope.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:13 The very impressive Charlie Kirk
8:13 Legacy vs. noise
10:22 Family as your calling
16:33 Noise that kills legacy (and grief)
24:43 Can you build a "comfortable" legacy?
28:50 Christians and politics and Charlie Kirk
30:11 Is there such a thing as to much truth?
36:55 The gift of restraint
43:15 Preparation behind boldness
47:55 Being a truly great man
55:22 Martyrdom, conviction, and preaching the gospel daily
1:00:21 God goes before us
1:04:22 Closing prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
We have a very special episode today, because JM's wife Natalie Clark joins us again for the second time.
This is another peak behind the curtain to give you the information you won't find anywhere else when it comes to becoming a godly, masculine leader who builds a great family with a respectful, submissive wife.
Find out what Natalie thought JM did wrong in the early days, why submission is actually beautiful to Natalie, how to get your kids to do chores, how to support your discouraged wife, and much, MUCH more.
Every Christian man who wants to build an even better family needs to listen to this one.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:42 The Clark's
6:31 Early marriage (before we knew any better)
9:48 When things start to shift
16:18 Submission...a dirty word?
18:11 What your wife feels like when you start leading well
21:12 Godly parenting dynamics
28:48 Parenting when you have littles
33:28 Getting kids to do chores
39:08 What to do when your wife is discouraged
47:33 Raising young men into adulthood
51:10 Kids' sports?
58:43 Screen time?
1:05:46 How to start building a Godly family culture
1:10:06 Family Captain Dating App
1:15:04 Prayer
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Mentioned:
Our first episode with Natalie: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxB9Y9OiUXw
Endurance by Alfred Lansing: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465062881/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Stop settling for a "good enough" marriage.
There's a myth that a "stable", "decent" marriage is the end goal.
We're here to tell you that there is SO much more.
You might think you're a 7/10 right now and be okay with it, but we want to show you that by getting to 10/10 you'll learn that it actually goes to 100. And once you're a 100/100, you'll find out that it actually goes to 1000.
Things. Can. Keep. Getting. Better.
Like to a degree you will hardly believe from where you're at right now.
I'm not even talking about crisis marriages...I'm talking about most of the guys we work with who have "pretty good" marriages.
Guys. There's so much more.
Find out what it looks like and how to get there in this episode.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:57 Good enough is NOT good enough in marriage
8:33 Let us shake you awake...
12:51 What's TRULY possible in marriage
27:11 The power of a supportive, godly wife
33:13 Do "good enough" marriages make it through the storms?
38:04 Playing defense isn't enough to win
46:14 Action
48:47 Multi-generational legacy
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A family captain is compassionate.
A family captain takes responsibility.
A family captain has...
Authority.
(This is where the shrieking starts and everybody and their cat tries to cancel us).
It's just Biblical guys, and we're not sorry for it.
In this episode we break down exactly what we mean by authority and power, and how to use it effectively as the third, and often missing, leg of leadership.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:30 Authority in family leadership
8:44 Why do guys shy away from of authority?
11:45 Neglecting your power
18:33 Where to start if you're "too far gone"
26:06 If your wife says you're only the leader in certain areas
28:57 Does this mean you have to be 100% in charge of everything?
33:55 When your ship is growing
42:11 Diffusing overwhelm and anger
50:42 Overstepping delegation
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Too many guys are asleep at the wheel, not even living as the main character in their own life.
God put you here for a reason. Your wife and kids are looking to you.
You CAN actually live a life that you want to binge more than whatever show, or sport, or video game you're living vicariously through right now.
Let this episode help you do it.
Become the main character.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:58 What does it mean to be the Main Character?
4:42 Why you matter
8:25 When the NPC wakes up
13:54 Stop living vicariously
16:57 Why guys finally wake up
28:04 The dark side of waking up and leveling up
40:07 Careful who you listen to
47:57 TRULY Surrendering
53:35 What story do you want to tell later?
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The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain - Admiral's Orders. Captain's Actions. Seamanship. Course charting.
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In this episode, we dive deep into what the Family Captain Ethos is, explaining the 4 Pillars that guide everything we do.
This is the most in-depth breakdown of the Family Captain Elite program we've ever done, and should give you two things:
Some brothers will figure it out on their own with the help of the podcast and local mentors, and that's great.
But after working with 400+ men at this point, we know it's a fact of life that there are guys just like you that we've successfully helped turn their life, family, and marriage around. And if you're one of those men, we'd love to help you.
So listen in and get the framework to start aiming toward, but also take a real look in the mirror, and consider if this is the moment you need to stop being passive, and start taking action to build the future you know God has called you to.
In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:05 The 4 Pillars of the Family Captain Ethos (The Family Captain Philosophy / Ethos - Biblical Headship is not outdated)
4:43 Useful family systems
7:55 Pillar 1: Admiral's Orders
16:38 Pillar 2: Captain's Actions
25:11 Pillar 3: Seamanship
34:07 Pillar 4: Course Charting
41:56 The next step
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This episode will change your entire outlook on sex in marriage.
We explain why your wife feels like the keeper of the sex...
Why you're not having as much sex as you want...
How to turn the tides and have as much frequency and freedom as you want in your sex life...
Why and how to decline low quality affection and set standards in your life...
Essentially, we take everything you've been learning from The Family Captain, and apply it VERY specifically to sex in the marriage bed.
The thing is, it works in the bedroom.
But you'll find pretty quickly that all of this actually improves your entire life.
Let's dive in.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
0:58 Why does sex feel so high pressure in marriage?
4:14 What to do if things don't feel light, playful, and intimate
7:20 How to lead when life is heavy
13:20 The big thing to change to level up your sex life
20:45 When she's not really into it (but is a people pleaser)
29:33 Stop treating your bedroom like your office
36:20 Go find stuff to upgrade
42:42 Are you a man of high standards?
48:34 Decline low quality affection
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Are you just a super compassionate leader?
Or is it passivity in disguise?
We see so many men being "nice guys" instead of kind men, because they're overwhelmed, afraid of conflict, unsure what to do, obsessed with comfort...whatever the reason, it's causing grief in your family.
In this episode we talk about why you might actually be patting yourself on the back for something that isn't actually compassionate, and how to fix it.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:17 When everything falls apart, even though you're being "nice"
4:26 Misplacing compassion
7:25 Values drive right action
12:59 Gaining leadership when you've been too "compassionate"
20:47 Justifying overwhelm and passivity
28:40 The cost
36:50 What might you still need to surrender?
51:37 The next move
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
What on earth is a golf course marriage, you say?
It's one of the best analogies we can use to explain how to start improving your marriage.
We'll give you the overview, the principles to focus on, how to start building the life and marriage you want today, regardless of where your wife is at with it, and give practical examples to help you level up.
Oh, and happy anniversary to Mr. and Mrs. Clark! 18 years, let's go!! Drop some love in the comments!
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:10 The Golf Course Marriage
6:19 Principles to build your golf course
13:35 Focus on today
15:36 1.0 Husband and beginning to level up
22:18 Golf courses are not conflict free
27:55 What if she asks you to take out the trash?
36:03 Disrespect or intensity?
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
We haven't talked much specifically about provision, and that's where this conversation started.
JM and Chris dive into one of the keys to making more money, gaining influence, and increasing your upward mobility.
This topic is like the gateway into advancement in work, in social settings, and in life.
And, obviously, it's not a sleazy sales tactic or manipulation.
We find most guys totally miss this, and it's holding them back.
Not only in their career, but in their witnessing and making disciples.
Let's dive in.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:22 How to get people to know, like, and trust you
5:04 Where most guys get stuck at work
9:37 Overdelivering
12:19 Likability
17:25 The $200M CEO offer
25:48 The gift of curiosity
37:28 Frame control (change the way you operate at work)
48:50 Leading with humility
1:00:20 How to reach out for advice without "picking your brain"
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Are you overwhelmed with fatherhood?
Being a dad isn't meant to be an absolute grind. It takes effort, yes, but fatherhood is also a natural, God-given thing. There IS a path forward, filled with principles that seem to have been lost over the decades, that make it more peaceful and effective.
Discover how small steps - pausing a movie to talk about values, launching rites of passage, reclaiming phone-free moments - actually form the backbone of consistent, intentional fathering. By learning to operate proactively (offense, not defense) and leading your wife to be consistent with consequences, you’ll begin shaping spiritual legacy one baby step at a time.
If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this conversation is your invitation: take that next small step toward becoming the captain your family needs.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:33 Is parenting easy?
7:14 Leading kids' souls is hard work
17:20 Intentional fatherhood
20:04 Reactive leadership
24:37 Rites of passage
29:30 Discipline (so Mom doesn't lose her voice)
40:40 Intentional nurturing and training
46:19 On the phone with kids around
56:00 Letting them help you
1:00:42 The one thing I'd do if the worst happened...
Mentioned:
Raising a Modern Day Knight by Robert Lewis: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1589973097/
King Me by Steve Farrar: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0802433197/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
There are 4 lies that keep men STUCK, on the sidelines, and falling further behind where it matters most.
Today we'll dive into each of those lies and help you defeat it so that you can become a man whose default is to take action, become the family captain we know you can be, and start reaping the good fruit that the Lord has for you.
If you haven't actually taken action and started building your family life as a leader, this might be the encouragement you need.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
1:47 Lie 1: "I don't have time!"
5:41 Lie 2: "I don't have energy!"
17:39 Solve your screen
20:28 Lie 3: "It's not gonna work!"
32:28 Lie 4: "If I change now, they won't believe it!"
37:35 Let consistency do the talking
41:08 The spirit of cynicism
45:46 Is there a perfect time to start?
55:59 Accountability to reject the lies and get moving
Mentioned:
Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07D23CFGR/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
This is the number one spiritual rhythm in the Clark household, and it's SO foundational that JM almost took it for granted.
In fact, it wasn't until he spoke to hundreds of guys through the Family Captain, that he realized almost NO ONE was doing this as their #1 spiritual leadership rhythm, which is crazy.
We'll dive into what that rhythm is, and WHY it's so vitally important, so that by the end of this episode, you'll have something to lock and load moving forward TODAY, no matter where you live and what you're dealing with.
Start here, and everything else flows out of it.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:17 JM's most consistent family rhythm
4:05 What if you can't find a good church?
19:13 Where you attend church is life and death
22:04 Going to a small church as a big family?
28:45 Don't pick a church because your kids like it
32:40 You can still grow in an imperfect church
44:25 Gathering with the saints is an assumption and command in the NT
52:14 Starting your day with the presence of God
58:49 How to grow
Mentioned:
Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310361176/
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.
Guys, sex is not a bad, dirty thing.
God is not surprised that it's pleasurable and wonderful within the confines of the marriage bed.
We've got to re-program what we think about sex, number one, and number two, we have to apply Family Captain leadership to this area.
That means we see it as NOT merely physical. It means we REJECT the idea of our wife being the "Keeper of the Sex". It means we lead and build attraction in our marriage, and STOP apologizing for wanting to partake of God's good gift (that, by the way, strengthens your marriage).
Dive in and learn how to become the Captain of your married sex life.
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In This Episode:
0:00 Intro
2:30 Why sex is not just "scratching an itch"
6:01 Why sex shouldn't be selfish
10:07 Sexual baggage
12:17 Shame
15:15 Married sex should be erotic
17:18 What about trauma?
32:28 How to flip the script you've bought into
45:31 Renouncing past connections
48:18 Song of Solomon + Prayer
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Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.