Whether we’re talking about COVID or the recent police brutality incident, we see a lot of energy flowing. Just turn on to the news or look around you! But, at the same time, we also see people trying to move on with their lives and pretend that nothing’s really going on. The Evolved Masculine, as we continue to learn about, is not like that. We know that he is a man of principles and values that he stands for. So join my guest Sanyika “The Firestarter” Street and me, as we talk about how to engage in the midst of this moment.
Among many topics, we will get into:
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About Sanyika Street:
Sanyika "The Firestarter" Street is a POWERHOUSE. He lights the FIRE in you so you can light up the world.
He teaches people how to stop negotiating with themselves pick one path and go ALL IN, via his High-Performance Coaching Program, The All In Method. It's about living in the black and white, NO GREY.
As High-Powered Storyteller & Speaker, Sanyika uses spoken word storytelling as an innovative method to tell stories for some of the biggest brands in the world. He's worked with Sony Playstation, FOX Network, The US Department Of Defense, Universal Music Group and INK Global.
For more, you can reach the firestarter on IG @FirestarterLive~
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You can find Sanyika Street on...
Website: https://www.firestarterlive.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/firestarterlive/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/firestarterlive/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/firestarterlive/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVfP3vfLpsQsvu7U9Qzji1g
You've seen the hashtag, now actually go check out the website:
http://BlackLivesMatter.com
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Conspiracy theories are thriving right now on social media about the current crisis. Why is there a massive distrust with both the government and mainstream media? What are we really to believe? And where do we go from here? Join my guest Daniel Pinchbeck and me as we talk about how humanity can move forward in these trying times and understand these events on a deeper level. Among many topics, we will get into:
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About Daniel Pinchbeck:
Daniel Pinchbeck is the author of How Soon is Now?, Breaking Open the Head, and 2012: The Return of Quetzalcoatl. He co-founded Evolver.net, Reality Sandwich, and his new online project Liminal.news
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You can find Daniel Pinchbeck on...
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pinchbeckdaniel/
Website: http://pinchbeck.io
Blog: http://liminal.news/author/dpinchbeck/
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What do the terms gender, biological sex, and sexual orientation really mean? Have you thought about the pronouns you use? Why should we be programmed to think in black and white when we know that’s not the case? Join my guest Terra Lyn Anderson and me as we talk about redefining sex and the subtleties and differences within. This is such a great learning experience, and I wish that you learn with me on this episode. We will talk about:
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About Terra Lyn Anderson:
Terra Lyn Anderson MA, R-DMT, LPC-Intern, centers the queer, trans and non-binary community in their work as a diversity consultant and gender/sex therapist in Portland, OR. Terra is the owner and visionary of Embody Emerge, LLC, a training, consulting and counseling organization dedicated to ending gender and sexuality-based oppression through education and advocacy. Terra is a published author, certified sex coach, and erotic activist working passionately to support the LGBTQ+ community to access greater pleasure, fulfillment and connection by empowering the body as a guiding force for personal transformation. As a queer gender non-conforming femme, Terra pledges themself to a future where all bodies are free from social oppression to live and love in ways that truly celebrate the beauty in our differences.
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You can find Terra Lyn Anderson on...
Website: https://www.embodyemerge.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/embodyemerge/
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#056: Modern Manhood with the author Cleo Stiller
Destin and Cleo talk about how the #MeToo movement affects not just women but also men. Women are mostly the victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault. As they bravely come out to share how it affected their lives, how do men react and how should they react?
Tune in to this episode as Cleo shares about her book, how some men opened up their feelings and realizations about #MeToo and more...
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Cleo Stiller is a Peabody Award–nominated, Emmy Award–nominated, and Gracie Award–winning journalist, speaker and television host. Her acclaimed health-focused television show explores deeply personal and political stories about health and identity. She speaks regularly about health and gender representation in the media and has been featured in The New York Times, Fortune Magazine, Self, Variety and many more. Her first book, Modern Manhood: Conversations About the Complicated World of Being a Good Man Today is available everywhere on November 12, 2019 with Simon & Schuster.
https://cleostiller.net
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#055: Seduction, Porn, Deida, Consent & More w/ Guest Michael Ellsberg
Among many other topics, Michael Ellsberg and I explore:
--> The problems with the pickup movement, which was (unfortunately) the place a lot of men went for "guidance" on how to relate to women.
--> The ups and downs of the "conscious sexuality" movement, which has also been a place many men have sought guidance--though is starting to feel dated to a lot of people.
--> How David Deida's "The Way of the Superior Man" (published 20 years ago) influenced the (mostly white) American personal development culture, and why it's time to move beyond it.
--> How ingrained homophobia in our society limits men's range of expressiveness, and how to move beyond these limitations towards a fuller and richer life, even for those of us who are straight.
--> Why it's crucial that even "masculine" men embrace and explore our own inner feminine sides. (And what do these terms even mean anymore?)
--> Why any man identifies as masculine must come to his own definition of this term, rather than following pre-conceived scripts--and how to find our own natural definition and ideal.
--> How to navigate the perilous balancing act between many women's desire for a man to lead the romantic interactions between them and be the "pursuer," versus men's newly increased sensitivity towards not overstepping boundaries or being imposing. (This is so important and SO many guys are tripped up about this now.)
--> The why and how of allowing erotic interactions with women to evolve organically, while still feeling empowered to express our desires and intentions clearly.
--> This is a juicy one: Michael and I debate on the merits of "affirmative consent."
--> The two types of responses men have had to #MeToo--one really constructive, one really destructive. (And how to embrace the former.)
--> And Michael Ellsberg's favorite topic--p*rn. Michael is someone who creates Indy p*rn, whereas in my practice, I have seen many of the compulsive and negative ways men can relate to porn--so we hash out our differences here in this lively segment.
Michael Ellsberg is the co-author of "The Last Safe Investment: Spending Now to Increase Your True Wealth Forever" (Penguin, 2016), and the author of "The Education of Millionaires: Everything You Won't Learn in College about How to Be Successful" (Penguin, 2011), and "The Power of Eye Contact: Your Secret for Success in Business, Love and Life" (HarperCollins, 2010). His writing has been published on Forbes.com, Time.com, and the blog of Tim Ferriss, and in the New York Times.
You can find Michael Ellsberg on:
Michael Ellsberg: http://ellsberg.com
Facebook: http://fb.com/ellsberg
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelellsberg/
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/ellsbergmichael
Twitter: https://twitter.com/michaelellsberg
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I came across Lillie Love's provocative article with this title and it seemed a valuable jumping off point to discuss the uncomfortable shadow side of where we are right now in the #metoo movement...
"Two years ago on a coaching course in LA, I met Destin Gerek, at a time in my life when I was a mess in how I was relating to women.
At the time I knew I'd found a man who could really help me sort out what was holding me back from having the romantic life I wanted.
Prior to meeting him, I'd studied and worked with pick-up artists who were the alpha-male "I'll help you date multiple hot women" types.
Rating women out of 10. Focusing on sex as the goal. Going out with wingmen to prey on women. Marking endless notches on their belt and leaving a trail of hurt behind them. Unable to form quality relationships of depth with women.
But Destin was different. He really cared about women. He deeply understood the importance of safety for women, both physical and emotional.
His wisdom on seduction went far deeper than the professional seducers I'd worked with. They were like kindergarten students compared to him.
It was a life-changing pleasure to do the equivalent of a PhD in Understanding Women with him during my time as his apprentice.
My work with Destin was one of the major components of moving from a place of having loveless or toxic relationships with women, as well as a lot of empty casual sex, to a place of being in an awesome healthy relationship with an incredible woman.
A relationship that has real depth of love. A relationship that found and continues to find my edges for expansion. Where my beloved and I create the kind of relationship that works for us, rather than blindly follow how we were told a relationship should be.
The work I did with Destin was the fire-cracker up the bum I needed. To turn my focus to being a student of women, with full authenticity. To understand that although there'll always be an element of mystery to women, there is a LOT that can be understood by a man. To understand that the journey of understanding women continues until the last breath. To understand that very few men on the planet really understand women well. To understand that most of the men who claim to understand women, only understand them at a relatively superficial level." --@Dave McDermott
There are times in life in which you will be confronted with challenges greater than you would have thought you'd ever be able to handle. And yet, there they are. If you are a leader in a company, organization, or community that goes doubly.
I am joined by Jaiya Ma (Erotic Blueprints & New World Sex Education), Robert Kandell (cofounder of OneTaste, host of TuffLove podcast), and Amy Jo Goddard (author of Woman on Fire, and The Fire Woman Retreat).
Each with at least a decade of leadership experience.
We will be exploring:
-How we've navigated extremely difficult situations that have arisen in our organizations.
-How we've each made mistakes and/or negatively impacted individuals or our community at large
-What we got right
-How we can uplevel the industry & minimize these things from continuing to happen
-What policies or best practices have we come up with for ourselves as leaders and our community, what's our current best understanding, what are our learnings
-How to navigate recover that actually deepens the trust, connection and intimacy of a situation.
-And likely a whole lot more...
Each of my three guests is extraordinary in their own right. I am honored to have them join me for this episode while I'm in the midst of navigating my own crisis situation.
From Namaste Moore:
“The idea of the ‘Awakening Feminine’ is hubris disguised as insight, darling.
The truth?
The Feminine was never asleep...women were”
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And what does this mean to us as men?
Josefina Bashout aka The Pu$sy Priestess join us to help answer the most frequently asked question in the highly charged comments sections of my last few posts, "What do you mean when you write 'the Feminine'?"
Josefina shares about her journey from powerhouse producer working for Cindy Crawford, to her own 'feminine awakening' just two years ago and becoming a voice today during these times of great societal and cultural change.
Oh, and sensuality and pleasure. We'll definitely be discussing that...
This week's Evolved Masculine livestream was likely the most challenging out of some 50+ that I have done. Let's just say that it went a bit off the rails. And like many conflicts, it got worse before it started to get better.
Yet, Perri and I both place a high value on connection.
Join us now, as we reconnect, unpack the how things went awry in our interview, and uncover the many lessons that we each are learning as a result.
This is the third installment of “The Future of Feminism?” series, here on Evolved Masculine Tuesdays, and already one of the more controversial ones.
Feminism has brought women the right to vote, the right to own property, and their own bank accounts, entry into previously restricted Men-Only professions and spaces. And so much more.
And yet, everything has a cost.
If we aren’t able to honestly look at
But every positive intent in action also has unintended negative consequences.
WARNING!: This episode went a bit off the rails by the end of it. So much so, that we did a followup episode a couple days later.
Women today don't trust men!
Is this true?
And if so, does it have to be?
*Should* women even trust men in this #metoo era?
Or perhaps is it that women achingly crave to trust the masculine, however there is a particular flavor that is being yearned for in order for that trust to occur? And what would that even look like?
There is a new wave of pro-healthy masculinity, feminine empowerment that's been rising, that seems to contrast quite strongly with the current mainstream feminist conversation. This is Part 2 in our series exploring the cutting edge conversation...