What does it mean to step into a 40-year love—and reshape it into a triad of submission, dominance, and devotion?
In this third and final part of our relationship series, Iris shares her journey as the third partner of Master MissMarie (episode 31) and MelissaBound (episode 32). From embracing compersion to navigating the psychology of polyamory, Iris brings a unique perspective on love, kink, and erotic care.
We explore:
and much more!
Research article: Polyamorous Women, Sexual Desire, and Relationship Quality
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Emma
What can 40 years of submission teach us about love, chastity, and surrender?
In part two of our three-part relationship series, we meet MelissaBound—a bisexual, transgender cuckquean, rope bunny, and collared submissive who has been in a devoted D/s relationship with Master MissMarie for over 40 years.
We discuss:
Research Article: Sexual Pleasure in Transgender and Gender Diverse Individuals: an Update on Recent Advances in the Field
Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.
Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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Emma
How does a Domme stay erotically alive for over 40 years?
In this episode, MissMarie shares:
Her journey from awakening to ascension as a lifelong Domme
What it means to collar and guide a partner through decades of growth
The role of queerness, chosen family, and community recognition
Her personal philosophy of “bottoming from the top”
How sadism, ritual, and reaction all fuel her pleasure
Research Article: Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy
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Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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Emma
What does it mean to create an erotic space—not just play inside one?
In this episode, we meet Gala, the Mum of Hedon House—a queer BDSM sanctuary designed for ritual, pleasure, and deep erotic inquiry. We discuss her philosophy of erotic hospitality, how she curates objects and atmosphere for psychological safety, and why perversion can be a path to power.
We explore:
And moreResearch Article: Kinky & Queer: Exploring Experiences of LGBTQ+ Individuals Who Practice BDSM.
Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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Emma
What does it mean to turn a whip into a language of power, rhythm, and connection?
Master Dex is a 69-year-old BDSM educator, author, and Dominant with over 25 years in the lifestyle. From his background in dance to his reverence for the singletail whip, Dex brings a spiritual and artistic lens to impact play.
We explore:
and much more!
Research Article: Pleasure, power, and pain: A review of the literature on the experiences of BDSM participants.Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
What if submission was the most radical thing you could do?
Gender-nonconforming writer and kink educator Auntie Vice joins The Erotic Realm for a powerful conversation on erotic resistance, queer identity, and rewriting sexual norms.
We discuss:
Research Book: Techniques of Pleasure: BDSM and the Circuits of Sexuality
Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
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Emma
What happens when a photographer sees desire not just as an act — but as an art?
In this visually charged episode, we enter the mind of JC Stark, founder of Fet-Erotica as he shares his journey into erotic photography, shibari, and oral fixation.
We discuss:
Research Article: Mainstreaming kink: The politics of BDSM representation in US popular media.
Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
Thanks for listening!
Stay perverted,
Emma
What does healthy masculinity look like in a world of dominance, sadism, and polyamory?
In this episode, Melbourne-based kinkster Biker Bear shares his journey through power, pleasure, and queer identity. We discuss:
The Key Elements of Healthy Masculinity
Electrical play as erotic connection
Why dominance isn’t control — it’s presence
Sadism as serious identity
Research Article: Rethinking Kink: Sadomasochism as Serious Leisure
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
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Stay perverted,
Emma
Why do we write what we desire?
In this literary deep-dive, Carly — founder of Aurore — joins me to explore erotic storytelling as a path to self-discovery, healing, and expression.
We discuss:
Research Article: Relationship between Sexual Fantasy, Sexual Communication, Personality Traits and Sexual Satisfaction in Married Individuals.
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Want to take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey? Link here.Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
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Stay perverted,
M
Can a Dominant be romantic?
Master Arcane, founder of The Crow Academy, shares his journey through love, power, and full-time dominance in a decade-long Master/slave relationship. This follow-up to Daphne’s episode explores healthy D/s, toxic dominance myths, and the deep emotional rituals behind real BDSM.
We discuss:
Rituals and philosophies behind long-term power exchange.
How BDSM can be deeply romantic, not just erotic.
Psychology of Desire has two courses soon available: Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
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M
What does it mean to be both a feminist and a slave?
In this episode, we explore the emotional, psychological, and erotic architecture of 24/7 submission with Daphne, a collared slave of Master Arcane and educator of The Crow Academy for over 10 years.
We discuss:• Reconciling feminism and submission• Daily rituals of devotion and service• Erotic transformation through power exchange
• Star Wars roleplay and kink identity• Concerns about the manosphere in kink spaces
…and more!
PLUS stay tuned for next week's episode where Master Arcane shares his side of the relationship in part 2!
Research Article: Navigation of Feminist and Submissive Identity by Women in the BDSM Community: A Structured Literature Review
Don't miss the first Psychology of Desire Case File, "The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins", released last week on Substack. It’s the perfect companion to last weeks episode — diving deeper into the neuroscience, symbolism, and origins of foot fetishism. The Case Files are a new series unpacking specific kinks and patterns of desire through research and lived experience. Link here.
Emma is also offering two presale courses:
Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Want to sponsor The Erotic Realm? Reach a global audience exploring the psychology of desire. Inquire here.
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M
What is it about feet?
In this episode we explore the psychology, sensuality, and stigma of foot fetishes with 53-year-old fetishist and photographer Larry.
We discuss:
PLUS — M announces her first Psychology of Desire Case File, "The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins", out tomorrow on Substack. It’s the perfect companion to this episode — diving deeper into the neuroscience, symbolism, and origins of foot fetishism. The Case Files are a new series unpacking specific kinks and patterns of desire through research and lived experience. Link here.
M is also offering two presale courses:
Activate Your Desire and Decode My Desire exclusively for podcast listeners and Substack readers. These early-access courses explore your unique erotic psychology. Link here.
Research Article: Relative prevalence of different fetishes.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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Thanks for listening!
M
Mo also known online as Darkest Mercy is a 22 year old goth, queer Domme and evolving kinkster who joins The Erotic Realm to talk about desire, darkness, and the erotic power of blasphemy.
We explore:
What it means to be a Demoness Domme
Finding erotic beauty in the macabre
Why taboo, sacrilege, and shadow work can be healing
Queer kink identity, mentorship, and transformation
Highlights from Mo’s kink bucket list (yes, she reads it out loud!)
Research Article: A thematic analysis of a sample of partnered lesbian, gay, and bisexual people’s concepts of sexual satisfaction.
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
Visit psychologyofdesire.com to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!
Thanks for listening!
M
What happens when you open your marriage after 35 years and start exploring kink at 60?
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Hawthorn a 66 year old genderqueer pagan who describes themselves as a bottom leaning switch, sensual sadist, sensation slut, and erotic exhibitionist.
We explore:
What it means to be a switch later in life
Reichian psychology, gender evolution, and spiritual kink
Defining sexual satisfaction beyond orgasm
Sensation play, demisexuality, and “talking scenes”
How erotic ritual and pagan practice intersect
Why being fully seen is the most underrated form of erotic nourishment
Plus, Hawthorn reads from one of their own erotic writings live on the show. Research Article: What is Sexual Satisfaction? Thematic Analysis of Lay People's Definitions
The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here.
If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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Thanks for listening!
M
What does it mean to explore both dominance and submission within one erotic psyche?
In this episode, I sit down with Lou, a 38-year-old switch who describes her sexuality as fluid and fiercely psychological.
We discuss:
Research Article: Switch it up’: A Qualitative Analysis of BDSM Switches
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M
Bisexual. Celibate. Slave. Survivor.
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I speak with Sergio, a 43 year old bisexual male slave who spent years in a religious cult, and the last four in celibacy.
We talk about erotic reclamation after cult life, redefining intimacy through BDSM, and the complex dance between submission and healing. From shame and silence to power exchange and surrender, Sergio offers a rare, reflective glimpse into the erotic psychology of someone rebuilding from the inside out.
p.s After recording, I learned that Sergio is now in a healthy and loving BDSM relationship. A beautiful evolution of the story you’ll hear today.
We explore:
Research Discussed: I Was Taught to See Sexuality as Something Evil: A Qualitative Study on the Impact of a Cult Childhood on Sexual Development
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M
What if your sexuality was the key to your shadow—and your liberation?
In this episode, I speak with Magdalena, a Lesbian Leatherwoman, priestess of sacred sexuality, and top-leaning switch about the deeper currents that shape our desires.
We explore:
Research discussed: The Deep Psychology of BDSM and Kink: Jungian and Archetypal Perspectives on the Soul's Transgressive Necessities
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M
What happens when submission becomes a source of power?
In this episode, I speak with Hazel: a 25 year old rope switch and erotic writer - about the transformative power of BDSM, shadow work, and dark feminine desire.
We explore:
How rope, pain, and submission became tools for healing and empowerment
The psychological impact of chronic pain and how BDSM reframed it
What it means to be collared, owned, and deeply seen in a D/s dynamic
The role of shadow work and erotic ritual in her journey
A live reading of Hazel’s own erotic writing
Research discussed: Curative Kink – Survivors of Early Abuse Transform Trauma through BDSM
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M
What happens when you leave behind everything you've been taught about sex… and finally surrender?
In this deeply moving episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with M, a 57 year old submissive masochist who discovered their authentic erotic self after decades of living in religious conservatism. Now owned and collared, they live a life defined not by repression, but by intensity, surrender, and transformation. This episode is a powerful reminder that sexual awakening doesn’t have an age limit and that the erotic self, once uncovered, doesn’t just blossom. It burns.We explore:
Research discussed: The Effects of Sympathetic Activation on Physiological and Subjective Sexual Arousal in Women
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M
What happens when a man stops suppressing his wildness and starts listening to it instead?
In this primal, poetic, and powerful episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Beast, a sapiosexual straight man who once saw BDSM through the lens of porn, only to discover it held the keys to his inner world.
We explore:
PLUS: Don’t miss the final minutes, where Beast reads one of his own pieces of erotic writing aloud.Research paper :Pathways and Patterns of Entrance into BDSM
Exciting Announcement! The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out here. If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support M's work please consider supporting her Substack on the Psychology of Desire.
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M
