Chapter from India Kern's Book "Surviving the Unwanted Divorce"

In today’s episode, I talk to Jo-Ann Little, CDFA and owner of Divorce Help, a mediation firm. Whether you choose mediation or litigation, there are certain steps everyone must take when getting divorced. Jo-Ann defines the necessary steps and clarifies the different options available when facing divorce. Divorce is not an easy process, unwinding a marriage is emotionally and financially draining. Many people immediately “lawyer up” and do not take the time to fully understand what mediation is all about. Jo-Ann explains how mediation can save your finances, as well as your emotional well-being. Honestly, why would you use a wrecking ball when all you need is a hammer? Jo-Ann helps us understand how mediation may be the better choice in the dissolution of your marriage.

Addiction is the wrecking ball to relationships - marriages, family ties, and friendships. But how does one know the difference between "abusing" a substance versus "being addicted?" Listen to the podcast to learn more about addiction from Scott Silverman, a Crisis Coach, and a Family Navigator. In this episode, I ask Scott the questions that are most commonly asked around addiction. He's the expert on addiction and he brings clarity to this topic that affects everyone in some capacity.

Today’s episode is meant to encourage you, and I am NOT speaking only to those facing divorce or going through a breakup. A “life of incongruence” has no bounds and most of us, at some point, find ourselves facing an inevitable transition. Because when you’re living a life of incongruence, there will be a guaranteed shift that will occur, whether you like it or not. I talk about my life of incongruence and the shakeup that followed…and boy, was it a doozy!

Is your divorce dragging on? Are you being pulled in and out of court? Or maybe the custody plan is a point of contention and you have found yourself in a mandatory meeting with the Family Court Service. Listen in as I discuss topics around high conflict divorce with Brian Victor, a Family Law Attorney. He sheds light on smart ways to handle yourself if you find yourself in the middle of a high conflict divorce.

In today’s episode, I have a candid discussion about real estate and divorce with two real estate experts from Fairway Residential. Bob and Bobby Flynn answer the burning question, Should I keep or sell the house? They provide key considerations divorcing couples need to think about regarding their joint real estate. They also share the common mistakes to avoid and give us tips on what to look for in an agent. Listen in to discover answers to your burning real estate questions. For more information: Robert & Bob Flynn REALTORS® Fairway Residential Robert: (858) 775-3079 roberthflynn@fairwayresidential.com Bob: (619) 600-0999 bob@fairwayresidential.com 100 E San Marcos Blvd #400. San Marcos, CA 92069

It’s a fact that parenting is difficult for any couple, but when the couple is facing divorce, co-parenting can be their greatest challenge. The couple is in divorce for a reason, so coming to terms and in agreement over large issues like the kids can cause unnecessary stress and turmoil for everyone. And if there’s no parenting plan in place to follow, the relationship between the parents can escalate to a high conflict situation, making life miserable for the kids caught in-between. In today’s episode, I talk to Brook Olsen, a Certified Parenting Educator, a Certified Divorce Mediator and a Divorce Coach. Brook tells us what a parenting plan is, how it benefits each party involved and the steps to take to avoid conflict when facing divorce with kids. If you are divorced or separated and have kids, this is a must listen! Want to know more about Divorce Recovery? Check out: www.indiakern.com or email India at connect@indiakern.com

What does "forgiveness" look like? How will you know when you have truly forgiven a person? In this episode, Paul Cunningham sheds light on this topic and gives a pastor's perspective on "forgiveness." He discusses the spiritual approach to "forgiveness." If you're struggling to cultivate a forgiving heart, listen in. You will be surprised by what Pastor Paul has to say.

Jackie Mazur, a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor shares the 3 most important financial steps that a person can take to be “divorce ready"

There are many myths floating around about divorce mediation, so I sat down with Amanda Singer, a professional family mediator who answered questions we all want to know about divorce mediation. In an honest and candid conversation, she debunks many of the myths around mediation. Did you know that mediation is an option for almost everyone, even if you have already started out with a lawyer? Listen in and learn all the facts. It may save you time and boatloads of money.

Today’s episode is on finding your purpose. Now that may seem quite daunting, especially if you are anywhere in the process of divorce. Do not fret; this information is something that you can take in and chew on, sit with and come back to…. there's a reason you were drawn to this topic so listen in.

If I could teleport back in time, I would tell my newly-divorced, "unhinged" self to listen to this episode. It's all about the first HEAVY days of divorce. It's when you realize the divorce thing is fo' REAL, it's happening whether you like it or not, and there's no stopping that train. We all needed an emergency kit - someone or something to treat the wounds and to show us how to "do divorce." So here it it, take a listen!

This is the "If I could teleport back in time" condensed version.  In the first somber days of divorce you need to know the ABSOLUTE necessary steps to take - no more, no less. This is just that. Look at it like the emergency kit you grab when you the crisis has just hit.

If you are a step-parent or have married someone that has become a step-parent, listen up. In this episode I have a candid conversation with my husband on his experience as a new step-father . He gives us insights, tips and tools on what he has discovered through trial and error. Even if you have not remarried after divorce, the information is valuable for your future... especially if you are raising TEENS as a divorced parent!

Guilt creates your own personal mental hell because it sits on the heart like a rock. It is a form of violence directed at the self. It keeps you from celebrating life because you are never at ease. In the back of your mind you hear you do not deserve this. Today’s podcast is on guilt Why do we have it? how to deal with it? The spiritual take on it?

Here are 9 Rules to follow if you are walking through the valley of divorce with children in tow. There’s no need for you to make the same mistakes; I already did them for you. 🙂 Learn from me! Listen in and enjoy the podcast.