Ep 11 — The Phoenix Rising: When the Affair Becomes Your Awakening
We think the affair is the end.
The end of love.The end of trust.The end of who we thought we were.
But what if it’s not the end at all?
What if it’s the moment you finally wake up?
Before my affair, I was sleepwalking through life.
On the treadmill of doing everything “right” - the job, the marriage, the house, the plan.
Smiling. Performing. Holding it all together.
But underneath, I was empty. Numb.
Disconnected from what I truly wanted.
The affair shattered that illusion.
It forced me to face everything I’d been avoiding
my exhaustion, my silence, my needs, my truth.
It burned down the version of me who survived by pretending.
In this episode, I talk about:
Why affairs often happen as a wake-up call from the life you’ve been asleep in.
What “collapse” really is — and why it’s the beginning, not the end.
How your soul uses chaos to bring you back to truth.
The moment I stopped trying to rebuild the old life and started to rise from the ashes.
If you’re in that place now, where everything feels like it’s burning,
please know you’re not losing your life.
You’re losing the illusion.
And underneath it is your return.
💌 Join the next Softening Session - a live space where we hold what’s collapsing, let go of who you’ve been, and begin the return home to yourself.
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