Ep 10 - You Can’t Heal What You’re Still Hiding From Yourself

There’s the version of you everyone sees.

Smiling. Functioning. Saying you’re fine.

And then there’s the version of you no one sees.

Carrying the secret.

Numb. Anxious. Afraid of what would happen if the truth ever got out.

I know that version well — because I lived her.

After my affair, I didn’t collapse on the outside.

I became “better.” More successful. More accommodating. More perfect.

But the whole time, I was hiding. Not just from my husband. From myself.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why pretending to be fine keeps your nervous system frozen.

• How “performing healing” stops you from actually healing.

• The truth about what happens when you hide even from yourself.

• Why the part of you who cheated doesn’t need judgment — she needs space to speak.
  

This is the episode I needed years ago, when I was still carrying the secret that almost ate me alive.

✨ Listen in if you’ve been holding something inside — whether it’s the affair, or another truth you’ve never let yourself fully feel.

You cannot heal what you’re still hiding.

But you can come home to yourself.

💌 Join the next Softening Session — a live space where we stop performing, stop pretending, and meet the part of you still scared to be seen. Click here to read more about the Softening Sessions.