We’ve entered an era where men have stopped approaching women—and not because they’ve lost interest. They’ve been taught to stay quiet, to avoid being “creepy,” to hide their attraction in the name of respect. The result? A generation of people starving for real connection while pretending they don’t care. In this episode, we breaks down why modern dating feels so disconnected—and how you can reclaim the lost art of meeting people in real life. I’ll reveal the unspoken cultural agreements keeping men silent, why women now hold the key to invitation, and the simple energetic cues that open the door to real connection again. If you’re ready to step out of the apps and back into the wild, this episode will teach you how.

Many women believe that if a man doesn’t know how to love her, he isn’t the one. But what if that’s exactly why so many women end up with men who stop showing up—who pull away, disconnect, or go emotionally flat after the spark fades? This episode isn’t about control. It’s about awakening the part of a man that wants to rise for you… and the part of you that knows how to call it forward. If you’ve ever wondered why love starts hot and turns cold—or why your devotion isn’t met with his—you’re going to hear something today that changes how you see men, and speaks to what real feminine power looks like in relationship.

Modern culture tells men to be softer, safer, and more sensitive—until we lose respect for the very men who listen. In this episode of Shane’s Diary, I share my personal journey of reclaiming my masculinity after years of suppressing it to be “good.” From growing up under the shadow of a hyper-religious mother who called every masculine impulse sinful, to living with a father who embodied its most toxic extremes—I learned to distrust my own nature. When I found spirituality, I thought peace meant weakness and gentleness meant goodness. I became the “nice guy.” I lost my fire. And it almost cost me my marriage. This is the story of how I got it back. Of what it really means to be a conscious man in a world that tells men to be more like women. And why reclaiming your masculine power isn’t dangerous—it’s divine.

Every woman wants to know if the man she’s falling for is ready for something real. But what if the signs you’ve been taught to look for are wrong? In this episode, we deep dive on what readiness for commitment actually looks like in a man—why he can love you deeply and still not choose you, and what shifts everything when he finally does. This one might challenge what you think you know about love, timing, and what makes a man stay. But when you really get it, it will change everything.

Everyone talks about feminine energy — but few truly understand what draws a powerful man toward a powerful woman. You’ve heard that men want softness, that women should “stay in their feminine,” that polarity is the key to love. But what if that’s not the whole truth? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on the deeper dynamics between masculine and feminine energy — the ones most people get wrong — and reveal what truly separates a woman who keeps attracting boys from one who inspires devotion in men. It’s not what you think. And by the end, you’ll understand why the women who seem effortlessly magnetic aren’t playing a role… they’re embodying something most people never master.

From the moment a man meets you, he is reading your energy. Often within minutes, he knows whether you’re partner energy or pleasure energy… and what he senses has nothing to do with your looks or achievements. In this episode, we explore the real reason men stop seeing a woman as “high value” — even when she is. You’ll learn how a man’s subconscious conditioning shapes the way he engages, why he’ll entertain a connection for pleasure long past its expiration date, and how your refusal to self-betray instantly changes how he sees you. This isn’t about playing games or being perfect — it’s about energetic truth. Because being desired is easy. Being chosen… is something else entirely.

Click here to learn more about the Inspired Love Program and book your intro call.   In this episode I share my personal story coming from a broken home, no model for healthy relationships, and devastating heartbreak, to a long healing journey that led to creating the loving, conscious relationship I have with my wife today. Each month I'm dropping another entry of Shane's Diary where I share personal insights into the man behind the message. I hope you enjoy this entry and see a path to conscious love for yourself as I tell the story of mine. 

Click here to take the quiz and learn your Relational Blueprint type    If you've ever felt that Attachment Theory doesn't quite explain everything, then you're intuitively tuning into something that most people are ignoring. We as individuals are so much more complex than the label of "anxious" or "avoidant." Underneath every anxious woman is someone who secretly avoids love through pushing, pursuing , and proving. And underneath every avoidant man is someone who gets so anxious around intimacy, that he has to withdraw from it. Attachment theory gave us some important perspective but in this episode I want to honestly speak about the important things it doesn't address and introduce a new Blueprint system I've been developing that fills in the gaps where attachment theory fails.    This one will be powerful. Enjoy!  

Why are so many women drawn to the very kind of men who leave her feeling unseen, unsettled, and unsatisfied? She knows he’s pulling away. She knows it’s costing her peace. And yet—something inside her keeps reaching for him.   In this episode, we go into the hidden magnet behind that attraction. Not in the way you’ve heard a hundred times before, but in a way that could shift how you see yourself, men, and love—forever.   This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom. By the end of this episode, you'll learn how to break the addiction and magnetize him back toward you. Whether you still want him or not, you'll be choosing now. 

Click here to learn more about The Inspired Love Program   We all know the ache of attachment—the deep longing for connection, the fear of losing it, the emptiness that follows when it slips away. But what if there’s more to it than just childhood wounds or relationship patterns? What if attachment itself is pointing to something far deeper?   In this episode, I take you beneath the surface of human love and longing to explore the hidden root of why we crave so much, hurt so deeply, and search so endlessly.   It may not be what you expect. And if you’re open, it could change the way you see love forever.

To Learn More About the Inspired Love Program, Click Here   I'm back with my second diary entry. In this episode I share about my journey of living with a repressed shadow and how I learned to integrate it in a healthy way. From the extreme religious repression of my mother to the unchecked ego of my father, I share how I internalized the idea that I was unworthy of God's love from a young age. I was broken open by my experiences through jail, addiction, career failure, and my wife's cancer journey to finally love all of myself and heal the internal self-hatred that had created chaos and conflict in my life around me.  The full story inside. Happy listening!

Click here to learn more about The Inspired Love Program   It’s one of the deepest cries of the human heart: “How could you leave me?” We’ve all felt it—the shock, the grief, the ache of not being chosen.   But here’s the truth most people never consider: real love would never ask that question.   In this episode, I’m pulling apart the difference between the ego’s demand to hold on and love’s willingness to set free. We’ll look at why clinging to someone who doesn’t want to stay drains your energy, and how releasing them might be the doorway to the love that does want you.   This isn’t about denying the pain. It’s about discovering the freedom on the other side of it.

Click here to learn more about The Inspired Love Program   It’s almost universal. The wound of needing to be chosen runs deep in the hearts of women everywhere—showing up in ways most don’t even realize.   In this episode, we break it down. Why this wound exists. Where it begins. How it silently shapes the way you love, trust, and show up in relationships.   And most importantly—we’ll talk about what it takes to finally free yourself from it.   This isn’t about pointing fingers or shaming your story. It’s about naming the truth that’s been holding you back… and stepping into the freedom that’s been yours all along.

Grab your spot in The Conscious Love Challenge here.   You’ve heard the story: women are evolving, men are falling behind. But what if that’s not the whole truth?   In this episode, I open a conversation most people aren’t willing to have—one that might challenge everything you’ve been told about men, love, and the real reasons relationships feel so out of balance today. It’s not a defense. It’s not an attack. It’s an invitation.   To listen deeper. To see what you’ve been missing. And maybe, to change the way you see the men in your life—forever.

Click Here to learn more about the Inspired Love Program and Book Your Intro Call   I'm officially a father to a beautiful little girl and as I step into this new chapter of my life, I wanted to add something new to the podcast. Once monthly, I'm going to do a Shane's Diary episode where I take a pause from the regular content and share personal reflections, stories and insights from my journey to let you get to know the man behind the message and give you glimpses into how I embody the work in my personal life and witness my own process of  evolution. In this episode, I talk about crossing the threshold into fatherhood, my thoughts on raising a girl, my relationship to my own parents, trauma, addiction, jail time, and the journey I've taken to be ready to nurture a soul in her human experience. Thank you for listening and I hope you enjoy this peek behind the curtain. 

Why do we get so swept up by charm and chemistry, only to find ourselves in relationships that lack true emotional depth? In this episode of The Conscious Love Show, we explore the magnetic pull of initial attraction and why it often leads us into patterns with emotionally unavailable partners. You’ll learn what emotional availability really looks like, why we unconsciously gravitate toward avoidance or inconsistency, and how to break the cycle. Together, we’ll uncover the deeper connection between self-worth and the types of partners we attract—and how healing our inner patterns can transform our love lives. We’ll also dive into practical strategies for recognizing emotionally available partners and redefining what chemistry means in a way that aligns with your long-term goals for love. If you’re ready to move beyond the surface and attract a partner who shows up with kindness, consistency, and vulnerability, this episode is for you!

In this week's episode we explore choosing the right partner, not in a way that applies to everyone, but in a way that applies to you personally.  This episode is a deep dive into exploring your own values, needs, and desires, in a relationship.  What are the things that are truly non-negotiable for you?  And what can you be flexible about?  The answers might surprise you!   If you're listening to this episode and are interested in joining our next breathwork event, please email info@thelivingrelationship.com to be added to our waiting list! 

In today’s episode of The Conscious Love Show, we tackle a frustrating relationship dynamic: What to do when he goes dark for days? If you’ve ever experienced the emotional rollercoaster of being left in the dark, unsure of where you stand with someone, this episode will offer the clarity and guidance you need. We’ll explore the reasons why someone might pull away, the signs of emotional unavailability, and how to protect your own emotional well-being in these situations. I’ll also share how to set boundaries, communicate your needs, and decide whether to invest further in the relationship or move on. If you’ve been feeling uncertain about how to respond when he goes quiet, this episode will help you navigate the situation with confidence and self-respect.

In this episode of The Conscious Love Show we do a deep dive on how to choose the right partner.  Shane does a detailed exploration of how to identify true compatibility with someone, covering important red and green flags that reveal the character of a person. In this Part 1 of a 2 part episode, we focus more on the universal aspects of compatibility that apply to everyone.  In part two we'll look at compatibility in more of an individual sense and how to choose the partner that's right for you specifically. 

In today’s episode of The Conscious Love Show, we address a question that many people with anxiety face: How to stop my anxiety from ruining a relationship? If you’ve ever found your anxiety taking over in a relationship, causing overthinking, insecurity, or unnecessary conflict, this episode will help you gain control and find peace. I’ll share strategies for managing anxiety in a relationship, how to communicate your feelings without overwhelming your partner, and how to build trust and security with both yourself and your partner. We’ll also dive into understanding how anxiety stems from past experiences and how to reframe those fears to create healthier dynamics. If you’re ready to stop letting anxiety dictate your relationships and start fostering love, calm, and connection, this episode will give you the tools to create more balance and harmony.