Hajo de Boer is a leadership facilitator who helps individuals and teams create meaningful change through self-awareness.
He blends mental clarity with emotional depth, transforming the way people lead, collaborate, and grow.
In this deep and raw conversation, I sit down with Hajo to explore how awareness, presence, and small conscious changes can reshape how we live, lead, and grow.
We talk about:
🔹 How self-awareness is the foundation of leadership
🔹 How lifestyle, mindset, and emotion all connect
🔹 Learning to listen to your body’s intelligence
🔹 Letting go of expectations and rewriting your story
🔹 Navigating uncertainty and embracing new chapters
🔹 Redefining success and reconnecting to intrinsic motivation
This is not your average productivity chat. It's an honest, unfiltered dialogue about life, identity, and personal evolution. I also open up about my own struggles — with presence, expectations, and career uncertainty — and Hajo helps me (and maybe you too) reframe it all.
Whether you're in transition, leadership, or just looking for clarity — this one’s for you.
Enjoy the show and keep knowing yourself!
Carlitos 🐎🌊
🔗 CONNECT WITH HAJO:
Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hajodeboer/
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carlos-miguel-ramos-cobo-a9995a152/
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CHAPTERS:
(00:00:00) Intro
(00:01:42) What leadership really means
(00:05:30) Energy, awareness, and impact in a room
(00:11:12) The power of being present
(00:14:45) Lifestyle shifts after a wake-up call
(00:21:10) Building full-spectrum energy: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual
(00:29:48) Morning routines and The Miracle Morning
(00:36:42) Atomic Habits and keeping it simple
(00:41:05) Carlos’ own journey: confusion, expectations, and finding the way
(00:49:58) A new chapter: from inspiration to creation
(00:56:20) Letting go of identity and finding your core values
(01:03:04) The importance of emotional vocabulary
(01:07:42) The power of frustration and listening to emotions
(01:12:38) Ho'oponopono and taking ownership of emotion
(01:17:08) Entrepreneurs and the pain of letting go
(01:22:55) Relationships in startups: co-founders & identity
(01:28:21) Carlos’ struggle: metrics, solitude, and redefining success
(01:37:32) Reframing progress: motivation, inspiration, space
(01:42:18) What now? Starting a new adventure
(01:46:07) Hajo’s final advice: Be curious. Be brave.
(01:48:55) Closing thoughts