gentlemen whats going on....how many times have we looked at someone's life and
thought to ourselves or even out loud......

what a lucky son of a bitch...

good fortune has bestowed upon them the mightiest advantages...

we see them as this overnight success.....as if they woke up that morning
walked outside and was smacked in the face with wealth, looks, and personality

and truth be told a little bit of ENVY creeps up and spills out from us

that motherfucker....i want to be like him,,,BUT i hate him...

annnnd so we construct and manipulate all these fallicious reasons
why that guy sucks and is probably a fucking loser

hes probably a mommas boy, tiny dick, beats his gf,,greedy, tight ass etc. etc.

we built this prison of comfort ....and its sole substance  consists OF excuses

more so.... reasons why its okay for us to not have.... achieved the life we secretly or even tik tok
openly want....

you've seen the videos desiring a high value life,,,,but only scrolling  through it
instead of doing anything to acquire it...

in this flip flop society where being fat is now safe and rational and
being healthy is oppressive and privileged

like what the fuck...weve turned the term hard work into a toxic privilege that
only the tyrannical should aspire to be

ummmm so hard work is now bad...

unfortunately society is leaning towards that exact fallacy...

and so the entitled see success as luck, or a class privilege or race privilege..
or some other form of excuse ridden bullshit...

but many times these or most times these crybaby 7th place trophy having wokists

never take into account that the harder a person works the luckier they get...

let me repeat this so that im clear....the harder i work the luckier i get

meaning....i didn't wake up with a 6 pack....i fuckig ate tuna for 6 months and went to the
gym 5 days a week....EVEN when i didn't want to

i wasnt handed a buisness....i worked every fucking weekend for 5 years to save money to invest in my
success...

i wasn't born with life knowledge...i lived,,,i suffered...and so i decided to read and listen everyday to people
.....SMARTER than me

successful people are not fucking lucky, theyre hard workers

working hard is not a damn disease that will cause your limbs to fall off or your dick to shrink

hard work is the missing ingredient to a soft and entitled generation that is waiting

for overnight tik tok success to fall from the apple tree and hit them in their ignorant ass head

but unlike Newton and gravity....that erroneous way of thinking or perceiving life is not based
on any truth....

one unchanging principle to life and success is.... hard work pays off.....and yes a little luck
goes along ways....may we all be blessed with good fortune

because this is life and many things are outside of our control

but one thing that is within our grasp and power....is the will to outwork every lazy motherfucker
around us...

and in a world that loves leveling the playing field to a mud pit of mediocrity
its actually not that difficult to outmaneuver the masses and produce some form of greatness....

so the hell with excuses and prisons of reasons for why that asshoel is luckier than me...

i don't have time for envious excuses....because ill get somewhere quicker by stepping towards it instead of
telling 100 reasons why i cant

love and respect gentlemen

gentlemen whats going on....in lieu of the current cliamte
lets check the fucking temperature...the temperature of gender roles
double standards and the likes

because i don't know about you but i'm tired of some mindless
meteorologist telling me what the weather is like....

i want to go experience it myself

so i want you to grab your balls with one hand
an with the other place it over your heart and pledge allegiance to being a man.

"IM PROUD TO BE A MAN"  ..... is that statement even politically correct anymore,.,,
....who gives a shit....

so in accordance with testing the water....

lets jump into some of the female statements and attitudes of our day....
and is there a double standard....

she says,,,i wanna guy with muscles and money....and so i say well i wanna woman
with a nice ass and one that performs traditional roles...

now which one of us is going to be applauded while the other is dropped into
a boiling pot of cancel culture piss....

were enveloped in this nonsensical and pervasive viewpoint where man
is stripped of his dutiful authority BUT ASKED to carry on traditional roles...

while his female counterpart unloads any traditional weights but picks up the crown
of authority....

lets paint a picture here....the man presumingly should be the door opening, dinner buying,
bread winning, greek god looking, 8 inch eggplant having son of chivalrous saint....

"but by all means i don't need all of that because i'm an independent woman"

"but how tall are you and how much money do you make.....not that any of that matters
of course.....did i mention im independent"...

 my god we've twisted the ROOT of what it means to be a man into such chaos
....pun intended  ROOT,,,,because now you don't even have to have a ROOT to be a man

but so much convoluted nonsense is being bought not only by ignorant and shallow women
but by men and women at large...

its like this...if a lie is told long enough it becomes truth

and in a world where a new generation wants it fast and easy...believe me
....none of them are going to research shit for themselves.....they just accept it

so the world for whatever innumerable reasons has twisted the genders and their roles....powerful roles
at that... into an unidentifiable mess...

and our job, your job, and a fun job it is....will be to to disentangle the bullshit from the truth...

men are fuckign men....and when they accept that,.....my god they become powerful

and women are fucking women...and goooood gawssshhh they are a sight to behold when they truly adorns themselves
in the power of perfect feminity

as i said earlier it is presumed that man should fulfill the role of the typical stereotype of what man is .....but without assuming the patriarchal privilege of manhood....

the prevailing thought is ....be a man BUT DONT be a man....

what the fuck are we teaching our young boys....

can you imagine the confusion echoing through the halls of society today,,,

and we wonder why genders are more confused than joe biden during an unscripted interview

you are a man , and there is this intuitive sense within that knows who you are and what you're to do...

for the most part there is a nature, a part of man that loves his physical strength,
he has a compassioante drive to connect with the otehr sex,,,

to be that door opening protector
and provider...to do good by his and their requirements

fuck its my nature and i love it....but to be berated and looked down upon for embracing
my identity....

a man in all my powerful characteristics....well its bullshit.....

to sell...

whats going on gentlemen....Men we are at war and confidence is our weapon,
you can remain a slave to self doubt and poor pitiful me, the world hates me
and life is overwhelmingly not fair.....

or you can confidently step into freedom

and hell thats what were all looking for as men ,anyway..... more confidence

whether we want to admit or not,,, WE want to be possessed by some cockstrong self assurance

who doesn't want to walk in the room and feel like they own that shit...
to be james bond before the world went woke and weak...

because Confidence kicks ass....it is the impenetrable ability to believe in self, an unshakeable self dependence
that refutes failure and weakness

its that fiery explosive shit that every little boy dreams of being consumed by

but in the modern and entitled soft age...We want the fire without the smoke

So We get fat on idleness..... and our savior, our , facade ....our exchange for self possessed confidence ,

is EXCUSES....EXCUSES BECOME OUR GOD....disagree with me??

good, I WELCOME, THE EXCUSES men come up with to excuse our excuses....

excuses are our fucking enemy, and I adamantly encourage you to cut the head off of ill fit
reasons for why you cant achiive something anytime it pops it's head out of

its pit of hell mixed with whinery and bitchery

Many a man has built his life on an island of excuses,
and then he wonders why life sucks when the island devours him and drowns out his hopes.....

confidence never waits for hope to manifest,.... quite the contrary, confidence is a CREATOR,
hell the ultimate creator....

it's time to exchange our god of excuses with the God of confidence
and go create a damn good life.......

men are not supposed to  look through the holes of a dilapidated roof
and wish upon the SLIVER of star light peeping through....

they rise above the bullshit and BECOME the star.....

and the most important and fundamental principle of confidence is GETTING GOOD AT SOMETHING....
(THIS TAKES PRACTICE).....to consistently stoke the fire requires a smoky start,

practice, failure, fatigue, repeat and repaet  
SMOKE DAMMIT, it fucking stinks sometimes  but fire requires smoke

just as men... and GOOD CONFIDENT men require effort. ...

and  holy shit, when a man lights himself on fire with effort, patience, passion and determination

people will come from miles away to watch the Pureness of that man's light burn....THIS IS CONFIDENCE

This becomes an article of overwhelming self assurance we begin to wear in more and more encounters

the more we begin to consciously practice winning every situation of every moment

confidence cant help but swell up within and burst forth like motherfucking volcano

so you can sit in that pile of shit called excuses and stink of mediocre standards

or you can get your ass up and get good at something

hell anything...its fucking crazy how confiodence in one area spills over into other facets
and creates a domino effect....

so be the first damn domino, stack up some confidence, practice until you get real damn good
and then keep putting in the effort

be aware that life is warfare and confidence is your weapon and practice is the bow that shoots
that shit into existence...

love and respect gentlemen,,,go set yourself on fire....

gentlemen what's going on...why do we suck at relationships...
and by we ,, i mean the western culture in general.. not you or me specifically

but to be honest ive sucked at relationships as well....because i followed what i THOUGHT a
relationship was or is supposed to be....but fuck...who the hell really knows

and It's self-evident that relationships are in quite the predicament,  look at the divorce rates,
and the winding navigation of the new age social media scene....
 
among scores of other life challenges, that will.... always rear their devious head...

death, taxes, breakups, break ins breakouts etc. etc...
 like a pissed off overweight diva when the all you can eat buffet runs out of bacon.

shit happens and shit leaves us pissed, confused and complicated

  Those .karens. deaths and the likes,
are ONLY a start to the difficulties..... a relationship CAN and will encounter

man and woman meet, they like each other, they pursue each other
but man has a past, woman has a past too....

man has his belief system and woman has her belief system

maybe they're heading in the same direction, but man has an idea of how to get there
and woman believes in her ways to arrive at said destination are better

and this presents problems...... but this is life....billions of people all wanting
their little piece of happiness...
but all varying in the actions to get there...

and so the engine, the power and force running relationships off the cliff to their death
is...... the instant gratification curse of modernity...

oh what a fucking curse it is......"I WANT IT NOW" AND MY WAY IS THE BEST

AND SO THE REASON RELATIONSHIPS SUCK IS...

We too often have a short term mindset with a temporary behaviors
, we cut corners in effort to have it OUR WAY NOW!!.  but The fast way now is the LONG way in the end...

we ignore the red flags....such as...she has three kids with three different baby daddies
...umm she hasn't worked in 5 years....and it ALWAYS has to be her way.....

we overlook these for the temporary pleasure of some fantasy
.....we've cooked up in our head of what relationships are
supposed to look like.....but according to who.....the news....the media....the newest song....OR YOU...

This lust for intense instant gratification cause these tiny debts to ACCUMULATE
 until eventually were bankrupt .....

we give up a little freedom for this....we give up a piece of OUR direction for that

we lose a little bit of our sovereignty for a seat at the table of uncomfotable slavery

ever felt like the cultural standard of relationships or... ANYTHING for that matter HAS YOU anchored down...

So the perfect relationship template in its cookie cutter fashion needs to be...MMM injected with a fresh look ....

it needs to fit YOU and your direction,  what do YOU want, are you more traditional,

are you seeking money, freedom, love, a partner, fun, adventure, simplicity. Etc etc.

and then go to work finding a compatible partner....key word compatible...not perfect..

perfect doesnt fucking exist

because WHO THE HELL believes love is going to fall from the heavens and hit you square in the love hole.....
without any effort......

nothing in life is guaranteed and easy,,,,,and those selling you that shit
need to be slapped and kicked in THEIR love holes....

fuck love and all its new age watered down bullshit....
modern love is a WEAK depiction of what a relationship is actually supposed to look like...

a relationship is specific to those involved....and in an INTIMATE partnership.... it is distinct
to those TWO tied together....

so we have to...

gentlemen whats going on....confidence
is it that super drug,,,,the link to kicking ass, walking on water and dominating life...

because its quite apparent the head down mumbling type
gets a life that reflects just that
a mumbled jumble of leftover scraps

while on the other hand the the baby kissing life affirming, hand shaking, wheaties eating
vitamin taking big grinned son of gun seems to.....own his life as one that walks in that perfect confidence
.....and self possession we all wish we had

he wears Confidence as a suit of armor...he eats at the big boys table...no scraps for me

THIS man has learned to tailor that suit of confidence to HIS specific talents, needs, goals, and desires.

he seems to walk a little taller...and a little more ballsy

We see those people that wear confidence like it's the perfect fit. Like they were born to own life.

and i started thinking about this over the weekend as me and my son were figuring out ways to
break in his new first baseman's glove...

these suckers come off the factory line more stiff than a 40 year old virgin at an instagram
model convention .....

on the beach....bikinis....

and im not playing.....its like squeezing the hardest vice grip ever....nearly impossible to catch a ball
with my squeeze...much less a ten year olds grip...

so im watching youtube videos...praise god...and im throwing the glove in the sshower under hot water...i'm stretching
it,,,im beating it with a mallet,

im throwing it against concrete....mixed with thrown
prayers of please god just let it work.....

i'm folding it in the way he wants it to look and fit to his specific hand...

its been bent and folded more than a ten year old dollar bill
circulated through 1,000 strip clubs......and just as dirty looking...

but with patience,,,effort,,,,lots of effort....repeated effort,,,,with some experienced
guidance from more informed men.....

the glove is beginning to have some function and utility

so the glove didn't come shaped to my sons hand

and Much like my son WANTING the glove to come out ready made for his comfort

We often error in believing confidence SHAPES us,....
when in fact we have to mold confidence in correlation with our strengths....

Personal strengths and confidence are hand in hand....there is this intersection where they become effortless flow...
that flow we admire in other accomplished men

Whether in sports, the workplace, hobbies, women, or conversation...

And we shape our strengths by getting in the Mudd and practicing them..... we throw
ourselves into difficult situations....
and uncomfortable positions so that we begin to mold ourselves...

Stretching our capabilities, getting outside of that prison pit of hell and bending our desire to our will...

The glove,no matter our want, or wishing, doesn't show up bow wrapped and ready to use to perfection.

And WE FAIL ourselves and OUR possibilities when we fall victim to that weak line of thinking.

As if we SHOULD just be confident...

Confidence is ultimately a reward for you being good at something, and that goodness is a consequence of repetitive shaping...

You get good at something after continual effort....life seriously is that simple...

Continual preparation prepares you to have more genuine assurance in yourself.

The participation trophy culture wants the confidence of the ceo,

yet they've never even put in the effort of the janitor...

If you're unwilling to clean the toilet you sure as hell don't deserve to shit in it.

1,000 hours of practice....1000 attempts at talking to a woman.....1000 hours in...