Frustration.
Drama.
Overwhelm.
We think those are just signs of stress—but they’re really signals of something much deeper.
When your team’s negativity becomes your own, when your patience at home wears thin, when your body feels heavy no matter how much you rest… that’s not just burnout.
That’s emotional mismanagement.
And here’s what most people don’t realize: when you don’t regulate your emotions, your body becomes the battleground.
Your sleep suffers.
Your cravings rise.
Your energy crashes.
Your inflammation spikes.
You can track your steps, eat clean, and still feel off—because your emotional health is your physical health.
So today, we’re going to talk about the silent killer most people ignore—and how regulating your emotions may be the most powerful health practice you’ll ever learn.

What if confidence wasn’t something you had to earn—but something you could learn?
In this conversation, Leah and Simone Knego unpack what it means to live The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You. Simone—international speaker, award-winning author, and creator of the REAL Method—shares her refreshingly simple approach to building genuine self-trust and purpose. From raising six kids and three dogs to writing bestselling books and inspiring audiences across the globe, Simone brings humility and humor to the topic of confidence.
Together, they explore:

• The four pillars of the REAL Method for unshakeable self-belief
  
• Why leadership starts at your kitchen table (and what that really means)
  
• How to shift from performing confidence to embodying it
  
• Why embracing your imperfections is your superpower
  

If you’ve ever felt like confidence is for other people, this episode will remind you that it’s already within you—waiting to be remembered.

You don’t need more motivation.
You don’t need another planner, routine, or accountability partner.
You need to see the code.
This episode is for the leaders, the business owners, the doers — the ones who’ve tried everything.
You’ve read the books.
You’ve built the systems.
You’ve joined the masterminds.
You’ve promised yourself this time would be different.
And yet — the same habits keep coming back. The same patterns keep looping.
It’s not your fault.
You’ve been sold a behavior formula that assumes your human operating system is fine.
It assumes you can just “take action,” “stay consistent,” and “will your way” to change.
But knowledge isn’t the problem — identity is.
Because you don’t act from what you know.
You act from who you believe yourself to be.
And until your identity updates, your brain will always default to the old code — no matter how much you want to change.
In this episode, Leah exposes the real reason behavior change doesn’t last — and shows you how to debug your brain to make consistency inevitable.
You’ll discover:

We talk about vulnerability like it’s a virtue — but most of us have never actually practiced it.
In this episode, Leah Roling dismantles one of the biggest illusions in leadership and life: the belief that safety comes from control.
To be seen without control doesn’t mean you’re reckless, emotional, or unfiltered. It means you stop managing how others perceive you long enough to actually connect with them.
It’s letting your truth walk into the room before your strategy does.
It’s choosing honesty over image.
It’s standing in what’s real — even when you can’t predict the reaction.
Because here’s the truth:
Most of us aren’t avoiding vulnerability — we’re disguising it.
We call it “sharing” when we’re actually dumping.
We call it “composure” when we’re disguising.
And we call it “strength” when we’re just avoiding disclosure.
We’ve learned to perform our truth instead of reveal it.
To protect our image instead of our integrity.
To talk about vulnerability while still trying to control the story.
This episode is a mirror — one that will help you see where you’ve been hiding behind control and call you forward into the kind of leadership that builds trust, deepens connection, and heals the parts of you that have stayed silent for too long.
Because vulnerability isn’t the end of control — it’s the beginning of freedom.

We’ve all said it: They should have known. I should be further along. Life shouldn’t be this hard.
But beneath every “should” lies a lie — one that shapes our behavior, our relationships, and our leadership more than we realize.
In this soul-stretching episode, Leah Roling dismantles the tyranny of “shoulds,” exposing how dependency and co-dependency quietly run our lives. You’ll learn why we rely on others to behave a certain way to feel safe, how our brains confuse emotional discomfort for danger, and how to rewrite the hidden beliefs that make us chase control instead of peace.


Through story, psychology, and powerful self-inquiry, Leah challenges you to let go of the manual you’ve written for everyone else — and finally free yourself from the need to make reality behave.


If you’ve ever felt exhausted trying to manage people, prove yourself, or keep life in line — this episode will set you free.

What if the very thing you’re calling “reckless” is the reason you feel stuck? In this episode of Becoming You, Leah pulls back the curtain on one of the greatest paradoxes in leadership and life: we trust our ideas, we trust our vision… but we don’t always trust ourselves. And that lack of self-trust shows up everywhere — in delayed decisions, muted dreams, and the endless loop of overworking without ever feeling enough.
You’ll discover:

• Why achievement has become our addiction — and why it never delivers the worth we’re chasing.
  
• The difference between self-trust (“I believe myself”) and self-worth (“I believe in myself”) — and how to spot where yours is strong and where it’s shaky.
  
• How to discern between risk and recklessness — and why “playing it safe” may be the riskiest choice of all.
  
• Real-life examples of how doubt, disbelief, and “reckless” assumptions keep us from doing what we already know.
  
• The surprising way resistance caps your potential — and how to finally break the loop.
  

This episode isn’t about learning “how.” You already know how. This is about uncovering why you haven’t already — and what it will take to finally trust yourself enough to move.
Because here’s the truth: Humans who believe in themselves change the world. And when you do, you give everyone around you permission to believe in themselves too.
If there’s always risk — why not take the risk that gets you closer to your dreams?

History doesn’t repeat itself, but it rhymes.
Every era has demanded something different from us. The Industrial Revolution required physical grit. The Information Age rewarded logic and knowledge. Each shift redefined what it meant to live, work, and lead.
Now, we stand in the Fourth Industrial Revolution—where AI, robotics, biotechnology, and hyperconnectivity are changing the game faster than we can catch our breath. And while the technology is powerful, the real risk is distraction. Because the truth is, we can literally distract ourselves out of our own lives. Out of our potential. Out of our relationships. Out of the very moments that make life worth living.
Every notification pulls at our attention. Every scroll numbs us just enough to forget who we are and what we’re here for. Engineers are paid billions to keep us hooked—to keep us from creating, connecting, and becoming. If we don’t learn how to interrupt that cycle, the cost won’t just be lost time—it will be lost identity.
So what can history teach us? How do we navigate this new age without losing ourselves in it? And what tools will differentiate us—not just from one another, but from the machines we’ve built?
In this episode of The Becoming You Show, we’ll look at:

• The lessons each past revolution left behind—and how they still shape us.
  
  
• Why distraction may be the defining challenge of our time.
  
  
• What it means to move beyond logic into consciousness.
  
  
• And the tools you’ll need to reclaim your uniqueness, your capacity, and your humanity.
  
  

The world is changing. The question is—will you?

You’ve been taught your whole life to measure yourself by ability—what you can do, what you’ve proven, what others believe about you. But here’s the truth: your ability is not your ceiling. It’s your starting line.
In this episode, Leah Rôling dismantles one of the biggest lies holding people back: that your past or current ability defines your future. She flips the script to show you how capacity—not ability—is what shapes possibility.
You’ll discover:

• Why most of us shrink our dreams the moment doubt shows up—and how to “doubt the doubt” instead.
  
• The difference between a WIN Life Sheet (how you hold your ground) and a Growth Life Sheet (how you expand your horizon).
  
• How leaders, parents, partners, and friends unknowingly become the ceiling for others—and the shift that sets everyone free.
  
• Why doubt isn’t evidence you’re failing—it’s proof you’re stretching.
  

This isn’t another pep talk about “trying harder.” This is a capacity call—an invitation to stop rehearsing your limits and start rehearsing your possibilities.
If you’ve ever said “That’s just not me” or lowered your goal to feel safer, this episode will shake you awake. The world doesn’t need more people living the same day on repeat. The world needs you brave enough to stretch, to try, to expand.

The Truth About Transitions
Transitions blindside us. They rip away the familiar and leave us standing in the in-between—between who we were and who we are not yet. No one teaches us how to live there. Until now.
In this raw and disruptive episode, Leah Røling opens her life to share what it really means to walk through transitions—kids leaving home, a business shifting, and the ongoing ache of living without her mom. And more importantly, she shares how you can walk through your own.
Transitions feel cruel because they amplify what’s unfinished in us: grief we’ve buried, forgiveness we’ve avoided, courage we’ve postponed. But they are also defining—they invite us to live bigger, to forgive ourselves for the meanings we gave, and to meet life with more strength than we thought we had.
You’ll discover the types of transitions, the secrets they hold, and the tools you need to navigate them with confidence, courage, and clarity.
If you’re facing loss, change, uncertainty, or the quiet realization that nothing stays the same—this episode is for you. Because the truth is: transitions don’t break us. They reveal us.
 
Watch: https://youtu.be/c3LQ6Qxnv4w 

Watch: https://youtu.be/b8-G20_3zBc 
 
We’ve been told that healing is the path to wholeness—but what if the pursuit of healing has become the perfect hiding place?
In this episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah invites you into a radically honest conversation about how healing can morph into procrastination, avoidance, and even self-sabotage—especially when it’s used as a prerequisite for becoming who you’re here to be.
This isn’t about dismissing healing. It’s about reclaiming your power to decide. Because healing doesn’t come before identity. Identity leads healing.
Inside this episode:

• Why we confuse comfort with progress
  
• How emotional loops keep us in “safe” cycles
  
• The dangerous belief that life should go a certain way
  
• And the one question that collapses the gap between pain and power
  

If you’ve ever felt stuck “doing the work” but not moving forward—this one’s for you.
“Stop waiting to be healed. Start deciding who you are. And let that identity do the healing.”

We celebrate sacrifice when it comes to physical strength.
We don’t flinch at discomfort when it gets us results.
We know that becoming strong means showing up, sweating, and staying in it.
But when it comes to emotional strength?
We soften the message. We avoid the weight.
In this powerful episode, Leah explores the brilliance of the “Let Them” theory—a liberating concept that reminds us we can’t control others. And while it's a freeing starting point, it’s just that—a start.
Because logic alone can’t solve emotional pain.
You’ll hear the story of a client navigating betrayal, silence, and a swirl of unprocessed feelings. What began as “letting them” quickly revealed deeper truths—about unmet needs, mirrored behavior, and the kind of self-abandonment that often hides behind our highest intentions.
This episode is for you if:

• You’ve told yourself to “just let it go,” but still feel stuck.
  
  
• You want to understand what your emotions are really trying to say.
  
  
• You’re ready to stop outsourcing strength and start building it—emotionally, internally, and powerfully.
  
  

You don’t get stronger watching someone else lift.
And you don’t get free by bypassing your own heart.
“Let Them” is a beautiful boundary.
But emotional growth? That’s an invitation to go deeper.
 

Most of us know—at least logically—that no one is truly “better” than anyone else.
And yet… we still find ourselves fighting along that invisible greater-than/less-than axis.
One moment, we quietly believe we’re just a little ahead of someone else.
The next, we feel we’re far behind another.
This constant up-and-down comparison fuels two toxic states:
envy, when we believe others are “better,”
and shame, when we believe we’re “worse.”
Here’s the problem: there is no universal standard for greatness.
Since no one can agree, it can’t be a true measure of worth—yet we still use it as one.
And when we do, we slow our own progress.
When we compare in envy, we convince ourselves others are more talented, more wealthy, more healthy, more followed…
and in that belief, we rob ourselves of the chance to grow.
When we compare in judgment, we lock ourselves into a lens that looks for proof we’re “right” about being ahead—fueling conflict and separation.
In either direction—up or down—the needle doesn’t move forward.
But when we flip the axis from better/worse to growth/expansion,
everything changes.
In this episode, Leah unpacks the Hierarchy of Greatness, why the vertical model keeps us stuck, and how flipping it unlocks your truest potential—both in life and in leadership.

If you’ve ever felt drained from giving and giving while someone else just takes and takes — this episode is your wake-up call.
We’re going deeper than the surface-level talk about “selfishness” and “entitlement” to uncover a truth most of us miss: the behaviors you can’t stand in others are often the very ones they can’t stand in themselves.
This isn’t about blame.
It’s about orbit.
You’ll learn why people stay in the center of a self-focused orbit, how we sometimes put them there without realizing it, and the powerful shift that happens when we stop seeing it as “what we’re tolerating” and start seeing it as “what they’re tolerating from themselves.”
We’ll walk through the O.R.B.I.T. framework — a simple, transformative tool that will change the way you lead, parent, love, and even treat yourself.
How to observe who’s in the center and how they got there.
Why remembering “you get what you tolerate” isn’t just for others — it’s for you too.
How to bring the conversation forward in service, not blame.
Ways to invite people into a bigger orbit without shame.
And how to take action that rebuilds connection, possibility, and growth.
This isn’t just an episode — it’s an invitation to stop silently pulling away or erupting in frustration, and start leading from compassion, clarity, and courage.
If you’ve been carrying resentment, feeling stuck in relationships, or wondering how to break the cycle of giving without getting, this will be the most important conversation you’ve heard yet.
Listen now — this might be the episode that changes your orbit forever.

You say you want more—but are you actually ready to receive it?
In this deeply personal and powerfully reflective episode, Leah shares a moment that changed everything—a simple, honest pause in the middle of a milestone that revealed a truth she hadn’t been ready to see. That moment became a mirror—showing just how long she’d been living inside an identity she had already outgrown.
This episode explores the hidden cost of clinging to old roles, outdated identities, and the illusion of “fine” when your soul is asking for more. Leah unpacks the concept of identity debt—the energetic toll we pay when we’re still being someone we’re no longer meant to be.
From the high-performing executive stuck in survival patterns… to the parent afraid to make space for their own dreams… to the leader asking the universe for more while quietly mismanaging what they already have—this episode will help you locate your own misalignment, not with shame, but with radical honesty.
Inside, you’ll discover:

• What identity debt is and how it quietly shapes your outcomes
  
  
• Why your desires might not be landing—and what that really reveals
  
  
• The energetic mismatch between your future vision and your current calibration
  
  
• Why creating space often feels like sacrifice (but is actually the threshold of sovereignty)
  
  
• Five common outdated identities people stay loyal to—and how to release them
  
  
• How to use The Aligned Audit to clear what no longer fits and prepare for what’s next
  
  

⚡️ The universe doesn’t respond to what you say you want. It responds to who you’re being.
And it’s time to become the version of you who can hold it all—with integrity, readiness, and peace.
 
Watch: https://youtu.be/N1YK2WBIoaI 

This one’s personal—and it’s powerful.
In this episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah unpacks a profound realization she had while participating in a mastermind session at a recent leadership conference. The prompt was simple: Which areas of your life feel most aligned—Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, or Finance? And which feel misaligned?
The pattern was impossible to ignore.
Every area out of alignment had one thing in common…
Relationships.
Whether it was disconnection from God, miscommunication with a spouse, conflict with a child, a broken friendship, frustration with a team, or even our relationship with money or food—it all came back to people. Including the person in the mirror.
You’ll hear:

Ever left a conversation feeling misunderstood, reactive, or completely drained—even though your heart was in the right place?
You’re not alone.
In this deeply honest episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah shares a personal story that changed everything—and the two frameworks that were born from it.Watch: https://youtu.be/fKwL26LB2X0
 

When was the last time your pulse spiked on purpose? If it’s been a while, odds are you’re surviving bored—stuck in the brain’s primitive “motivational triad” that tells you to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and conserve energy at all costs. In this electrifying episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah Roling exposes how that outdated wiring keeps high-achievers playing small and craving comfort instead of chasing possibility.
You’ll learn:
Why your brain can’t tell the difference between a burning house and burning desire—and how to override the false alarms.

The 50/50 truth about emotions and why your willingness to feel the hard half is the tax on an extraordinary life.

A 24-Hour Brave Sprint that trades passive dreaming for massive action—no cape required.

Listen in for bold metaphors, science-backed mindset shifts, and one micro-challenge that will have you DM-ing your future self by the end of the day. Hit play, decide fast, commit hard, and let’s rewrite the comfort code together.
 
Watch: https://youtu.be/Hy0rJvLdCqg

Most founders don't aunch their company to become glorified payroll managers—they set out to change something. Yet somewhere between startup adrenaline and scaling stress, culture became the after-thought, the “soft stuff” we’d get to someday. In this episode of The Becoming You Show, Leah tears up that tired playbook and insists that culture is strategy—the invisible architecture that determines whether your big idea flies or flat-lines.
We’ll explore:

• The Culture Void: what predictably happens when you try to scale without a living, breathing framework for culture (hint: drama, rework, and energy leaks).
  
• Accountability, Unfiltered: why accountability ≠ blame or micromanaging, and how our misunderstanding of it sabotages results in both life and business.
  
• From KPI to KBI: how Key Behavior Indicators supercharge traditional metrics, aligning daily actions with the energetic essence of your mission.
  
• The Power-Hour Blueprint: Leah’s proven method for embedding culture and accountability into a 60-minute weekly cadence that fuels sustainable scalability—not white-knuckled growth.
  
• Abundant vs. Scarcity Energy: how dialing in KBIs shifts your team from “have to” to “can’t-wait-to,” creating momentum you can actually enjoy.
  

If you’re ready to stop managing people and start unleashing their capacity, grab your earbuds. Culture isn’t a department—it’s the strategy that turns promise into performance.
 
Watch: https://youtu.be/o7M9vHv9eMU

 
You’ve worked hard. You’ve achieved more than most.
So why does it still feel like something’s missing?
In this episode of The Becoming You Show, we unpack the quiet truth so many high-achievers carry: success doesn’t always feel like it should. You have the career, the life, the relationships—and yet… there’s a low hum of restlessness, a desire for more, and a guilt that comes with wanting it.


This is the paradox of success—when everything looks good on the outside, but feels incomplete on the inside.
In this episode, Leah reveals the real reason behind this disconnect: your brain is still wired for survival, not fulfillment. And until you learn how to manage it, you’ll keep chasing, buffering, or settling—no matter how much you achieve.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why wanting more doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful—it means you’re evolving
  
• How the brain’s motivational triad is sabotaging your satisfaction
  
• The three most common signs of success-driven suffering: unhappiness, procrastination, and buffering
  
• How to use the Coaching Model to stop repeating your past and start designing your future
  

If you’ve ever thought “I should be happier by now,” or “Why can’t I just enjoy what I have?”—this episode will bring clarity, compassion, and tools to help you shift.
 
This is your invitation to stop settling and start creating the extraordinary life you were made for—on purpose, with purpose.
 Listen now if you’re ready to stop buffering, start becoming, and finally say yes to the more you’ve been quietly craving.
Watch: https://youtu.be/hFXbH1FcWNE

A fresh season kicks off with a simple question: What if “someday” never shows up—and today is your only shot?
This comeback episode unpacks the real cost of sitting on untapped potential and offers a four-step playbook to move an idea from wish list to done deal. Expect honest stories of false starts, a single metaphor that actually lands, and a micro-challenge you can finish before dinner.
Perfect for anyone who’s tired of inspirational wallpaper and ready for receipts.
Listen if you’re ready to:

• Quit treating your dreams like optional considerations.
  
  
• Swap “I could” for “I’m doing it,” one small proof at a time.
  
  
• Feel both called up and called forward—in under 20 minutes.No lightning bolts required; the switch is already in your hand.

Your life is ready.  Are you?  
Watch here: https://youtu.be/zAwmD8W8zGg